I can post this in the blog. It's the latest about my father. Sometimes he is just unbelievable.
I saw him yesterday for the first time since he returned from his trip to the islands, and its just unreal how he is constantly justifying everyone who hurts me, and treats me terribly.
When I discussed the situation with how my uncle, and the cousins, have treated me, all he did was defend them.
He called my uncle "Not diplomatic", and suggested that if my business that I'm hopefully going to do becomes successful, I should "Contact my uncle again and see what my uncle's reaction is". My father also said that if I become successful, "My uncle might then develop a new found respect for me".
As for my father's cousins, he tells me that Sandy. (The witch who attacked my mom the day after my mom's funeral) really cares. Er.,.. she knew how to attack my mom, but hasnt contacted me even one other time, in the nine months my mom is gone, to find out how I'm doing. Real "caring" behavior.
So, according to my father.. its fine with him that my uncle told me that my father and I should be estranged, and told me that my father should have put my mom in the street, by not honoring my father';s court ordered alimony obligation. . My father also said that the reason my uncle treats me as I do is that I dont have money now, but that if I became successful, my uncle would then respect me. As I've also posted, my uncle told me to "Go on disability" , and that I should "Stop living in fantasyland". when I mentioned about my business plans to him. This is also fine with my father.
When my friends and maternal relatives heard about what my father said to me, they were outraged. Such is the reason why my paternal family has always treated me badly, since childhood, because no matter how abusive or vicious they ever were, he always justified their behavior.
After his outrageous rant at me when he saw me, my uncle hasnt contacted me, not to apologize, or wish me a Happy New Year. Its over with him. The next time I anticipate seeing him, is at my father;s funeral, hopefully not for many years from now.
As for my father, I'm going to have to slog through with him, while realizing that there will always be conflict, and that others will always be his priority.
I'm going to look for a job, and do my business. Not looking for a job is the only thing I've done wrong, and all I've done is hurt myself with that, as I've had to live off the money I've made from my usual antique and jewelry sales. . I've been very depressed, and the reality is that due to past my tax situation, except for my marketing businesses I've done, and being a jewelry and antique sales person, I've never really worked at a job, where I had to take orders from a boss, and punch a time clock. Such is going to be a new experience, and difficult. Everything that should have happened to me in my early 20s, with living on my own, and first real job is going to happen at 42, 43 years old. I've been a gracious gentleman to everyone in my father's family who doesnt give a damn about me, and in fact despies me so much that they want me to fail, so I know that while it might be difficult at first, I will have to get used to a job too, until my business hopefully yields enough money, that I can do it full time, and make a living from it. I'm determined not to go on "disability", and give my uncle, my father's cousins, and probably even my father himself the satisfaction of doing that.
My father also suggested that I start dating women. His reason for his, I suspect, is not because he cares about companionship for me, but, rather because he was with our wonderful cousins over this past week. I'm the only member of the family who doesnt have a wife, gf, or partner, and I just know there are whispers from everyone in my paternal family regarding whether or not I'm gay. (Not that there's anything wrong with gay. I respect anyone's sexual choices, but anyone who knows me and my discussions on this forum over the past ten years, I'm definitely not gay).
I know that my focus over the next year must be working at whatever job I find, and doing my business. My relationship with my father will always be difficult, and will likely never change. I had my wonderful, pure loving relationship with my mom for 42 years and 2 and a half months. I will cherish that forever. As for my situation with my father, I have to accept what is, know he will aggravate me at times, and just try to get through. I'm done with my uncle for good, and as for the cousins, I told my father I'll make the decision as to whether to attend the next family gathering at Passover at that time, based on what's going on in my life at that time, and whether or not anything in my life would be cause for my cousins to subject me to ridicule as they have this year.
I saw him yesterday for the first time since he returned from his trip to the islands, and its just unreal how he is constantly justifying everyone who hurts me, and treats me terribly.
When I discussed the situation with how my uncle, and the cousins, have treated me, all he did was defend them.
He called my uncle "Not diplomatic", and suggested that if my business that I'm hopefully going to do becomes successful, I should "Contact my uncle again and see what my uncle's reaction is". My father also said that if I become successful, "My uncle might then develop a new found respect for me".
As for my father's cousins, he tells me that Sandy. (The witch who attacked my mom the day after my mom's funeral) really cares. Er.,.. she knew how to attack my mom, but hasnt contacted me even one other time, in the nine months my mom is gone, to find out how I'm doing. Real "caring" behavior.
So, according to my father.. its fine with him that my uncle told me that my father and I should be estranged, and told me that my father should have put my mom in the street, by not honoring my father';s court ordered alimony obligation. . My father also said that the reason my uncle treats me as I do is that I dont have money now, but that if I became successful, my uncle would then respect me. As I've also posted, my uncle told me to "Go on disability" , and that I should "Stop living in fantasyland". when I mentioned about my business plans to him. This is also fine with my father.
When my friends and maternal relatives heard about what my father said to me, they were outraged. Such is the reason why my paternal family has always treated me badly, since childhood, because no matter how abusive or vicious they ever were, he always justified their behavior.
After his outrageous rant at me when he saw me, my uncle hasnt contacted me, not to apologize, or wish me a Happy New Year. Its over with him. The next time I anticipate seeing him, is at my father;s funeral, hopefully not for many years from now.
As for my father, I'm going to have to slog through with him, while realizing that there will always be conflict, and that others will always be his priority.
I'm going to look for a job, and do my business. Not looking for a job is the only thing I've done wrong, and all I've done is hurt myself with that, as I've had to live off the money I've made from my usual antique and jewelry sales. . I've been very depressed, and the reality is that due to past my tax situation, except for my marketing businesses I've done, and being a jewelry and antique sales person, I've never really worked at a job, where I had to take orders from a boss, and punch a time clock. Such is going to be a new experience, and difficult. Everything that should have happened to me in my early 20s, with living on my own, and first real job is going to happen at 42, 43 years old. I've been a gracious gentleman to everyone in my father's family who doesnt give a damn about me, and in fact despies me so much that they want me to fail, so I know that while it might be difficult at first, I will have to get used to a job too, until my business hopefully yields enough money, that I can do it full time, and make a living from it. I'm determined not to go on "disability", and give my uncle, my father's cousins, and probably even my father himself the satisfaction of doing that.
My father also suggested that I start dating women. His reason for his, I suspect, is not because he cares about companionship for me, but, rather because he was with our wonderful cousins over this past week. I'm the only member of the family who doesnt have a wife, gf, or partner, and I just know there are whispers from everyone in my paternal family regarding whether or not I'm gay. (Not that there's anything wrong with gay. I respect anyone's sexual choices, but anyone who knows me and my discussions on this forum over the past ten years, I'm definitely not gay).
I know that my focus over the next year must be working at whatever job I find, and doing my business. My relationship with my father will always be difficult, and will likely never change. I had my wonderful, pure loving relationship with my mom for 42 years and 2 and a half months. I will cherish that forever. As for my situation with my father, I have to accept what is, know he will aggravate me at times, and just try to get through. I'm done with my uncle for good, and as for the cousins, I told my father I'll make the decision as to whether to attend the next family gathering at Passover at that time, based on what's going on in my life at that time, and whether or not anything in my life would be cause for my cousins to subject me to ridicule as they have this year.
