In my five years playing in the scene I have come across a certain type of guy over and over. I have deemed these guys the fantasy wankfodders. What I mean is guys that act like they are looking, act like they are dying to meet you, but really you've become their real fantasy girl. They are just using you for their own personal wankfodder. This has happened to me so much, that I get pissed when I see men bitching and moaning they can't get some. Now how do you know if a fantasy wankfodder has gotten you in his trap? Here are a list of things to look for that I personally noticed throughout the years:
1) He is asking a ton of fetish specific questions and I mean a lot right off the bat(In the first message usually and if he doesn't even say hi in his first message ignore him). Lets use tickling as an example: How ticklish are you? Where are you most ticklish? Are your feet ticklish? More specifically are your toes ticklish? Do you get horny when tickled? Do you like sex after tickling? OMG can you tickle me? Do you have long nails!? Just imagine all those questions were in the first or second message.
2) This ties in with number one. He doesn't seem to care about vanilla at all and seems to only care about fetish/kink. Basically if you try to talk vanilla he'll just act like he doesn't care and will try to quickly get the conversation back to kinky. He could care less about your vanilla life.
3) He'll ask for a lot of kinky stories and I mean a lot. Besides the asking of questions; this is where he will get the bulk of his wankfodder unless you don't give it to him. Use a phrase along the lines of don't you want to create our own kinky stories together ;-). See what he says to that and then judge for yourself.
4) He'll ask for a ton of kinky pics and you'll hardly get any in return. This is pretty self explanatory.
5)ROLE-PLAYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yep if all it seems like he ever wants to do when you chat is online role-play stop chatting ASAP!
6) When you try to actually set up a play date he quickly changes the subject or when it gets close to the date he says he is sorry and can't make it. This is pretty self explanatory if he pulls these stunts a lot stop chatting with him. If he gets to be bothersome put him on ignore.
7) You have the date all set up, your super excited, and then he stood up. Yep I would say nine times out of ten this means he using you for wankfodder. Unless he comes up with a really really really good excuse I'd put him on ignore.
These are what I've personally noticed and I am sure guys can use this for gals as well.
1) He is asking a ton of fetish specific questions and I mean a lot right off the bat(In the first message usually and if he doesn't even say hi in his first message ignore him). Lets use tickling as an example: How ticklish are you? Where are you most ticklish? Are your feet ticklish? More specifically are your toes ticklish? Do you get horny when tickled? Do you like sex after tickling? OMG can you tickle me? Do you have long nails!? Just imagine all those questions were in the first or second message.
2) This ties in with number one. He doesn't seem to care about vanilla at all and seems to only care about fetish/kink. Basically if you try to talk vanilla he'll just act like he doesn't care and will try to quickly get the conversation back to kinky. He could care less about your vanilla life.
3) He'll ask for a lot of kinky stories and I mean a lot. Besides the asking of questions; this is where he will get the bulk of his wankfodder unless you don't give it to him. Use a phrase along the lines of don't you want to create our own kinky stories together ;-). See what he says to that and then judge for yourself.
4) He'll ask for a ton of kinky pics and you'll hardly get any in return. This is pretty self explanatory.
5)ROLE-PLAYING!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yep if all it seems like he ever wants to do when you chat is online role-play stop chatting ASAP!
6) When you try to actually set up a play date he quickly changes the subject or when it gets close to the date he says he is sorry and can't make it. This is pretty self explanatory if he pulls these stunts a lot stop chatting with him. If he gets to be bothersome put him on ignore.
7) You have the date all set up, your super excited, and then he stood up. Yep I would say nine times out of ten this means he using you for wankfodder. Unless he comes up with a really really really good excuse I'd put him on ignore.
These are what I've personally noticed and I am sure guys can use this for gals as well.
