I had lunch with my father today, and for the first time.. it seems.. he behaved.. human. and showed an understanding how I feel about things.
He told me that he knows my situation with Maria is frustrating.
He did not rip my mom to shreds.. or talk about what he "could" have done to her.
He promised me that he is not going to bring up my uncle, or his cousins., He said that he knows I despise them all, and don't want to hear about them.
He announced that he and I are spending Father's Day alone. He said to me "Mitch, how many children do I have".
He told me that he knows tomorrow is a very difficult day for me.
One major thing I always had against him, is how he never spent time with me, alone, as a single father.. working on our relationship at the time he and my mom split, when I was in my early 20s. Instead, he occupied his time with his various women, built his life with Cheryl, and made his extended family, including my uncle, his cousins, and at the time, my paternal grandmother, top priority over building a healthy relationship with me.
He promised me that we are going to the cemetery, to have the stone put on my mom's grave.
He said "Mitch, even if we have a fight, you don't have to worry about my taking your apartment away from you. "
His only comment, and he's right, is that I have to be more pro active. I'm going to move forward with the business, try to get in place the source that I want to help me with the business, as well as get a job, and began looking into grad programs.
His comment as we said goodbye today was: "I hope you;'re not going to send me a nasty email when you get home". Er.. no. If you leave your family who doesn't mean anything to me out of it, and stop dissing my mom.. I have no reason to go off on you,.
He informed me that Cheryl has OCD which seems to be getting worse. She called him several times while we were at lunch today, and he clearly seemed exasperated.
I know that I have to be there for my dad to.. if he needs to vent. or a break from Cheryl.
Such is one reason I'm so enraged at my uncle for my uncle;s behavior. My uncle's son has Asperger's, and when we were speaking, my uncle used to tell me how his son drives him crazy. I told my uncle how I would be there for him if he needed to vent to me, and my reward was to be told that my dad should put me in the street.
I'm supposed to spend tomorrow with my aunt and cousin, seeing The Great Gatsby. When I got home today, I cried hysterically, and was talking to my mom.
I know my problems are solvable,. Maria isn't the only girl in NY. I can get a job, and a business, and my grad degree.
Hopefuily, if he and I are getting along better, and I don't have to hear about his meaningless family every time I see him, I can calm down, and not worry about him, and focus on what I have to do.
While I know I have a way to go, I'm feeling cautiously optimistic for the first time in a long time.
He told me that he knows my situation with Maria is frustrating.
He did not rip my mom to shreds.. or talk about what he "could" have done to her.
He promised me that he is not going to bring up my uncle, or his cousins., He said that he knows I despise them all, and don't want to hear about them.
He announced that he and I are spending Father's Day alone. He said to me "Mitch, how many children do I have".
He told me that he knows tomorrow is a very difficult day for me.
One major thing I always had against him, is how he never spent time with me, alone, as a single father.. working on our relationship at the time he and my mom split, when I was in my early 20s. Instead, he occupied his time with his various women, built his life with Cheryl, and made his extended family, including my uncle, his cousins, and at the time, my paternal grandmother, top priority over building a healthy relationship with me.
He promised me that we are going to the cemetery, to have the stone put on my mom's grave.
He said "Mitch, even if we have a fight, you don't have to worry about my taking your apartment away from you. "
His only comment, and he's right, is that I have to be more pro active. I'm going to move forward with the business, try to get in place the source that I want to help me with the business, as well as get a job, and began looking into grad programs.
His comment as we said goodbye today was: "I hope you;'re not going to send me a nasty email when you get home". Er.. no. If you leave your family who doesn't mean anything to me out of it, and stop dissing my mom.. I have no reason to go off on you,.
He informed me that Cheryl has OCD which seems to be getting worse. She called him several times while we were at lunch today, and he clearly seemed exasperated.
I know that I have to be there for my dad to.. if he needs to vent. or a break from Cheryl.
Such is one reason I'm so enraged at my uncle for my uncle;s behavior. My uncle's son has Asperger's, and when we were speaking, my uncle used to tell me how his son drives him crazy. I told my uncle how I would be there for him if he needed to vent to me, and my reward was to be told that my dad should put me in the street.
I'm supposed to spend tomorrow with my aunt and cousin, seeing The Great Gatsby. When I got home today, I cried hysterically, and was talking to my mom.
I know my problems are solvable,. Maria isn't the only girl in NY. I can get a job, and a business, and my grad degree.
Hopefuily, if he and I are getting along better, and I don't have to hear about his meaningless family every time I see him, I can calm down, and not worry about him, and focus on what I have to do.
While I know I have a way to go, I'm feeling cautiously optimistic for the first time in a long time.
