So I saw Dan today. It wasn't easy, but I confronted him on everything from the text messages to his profile on POF. Even new information that Alice got over the weekend because while Dan is in prison she has his phone. Apparently a friend of his recently found out she has an STD, wouldn't say what she had, but she sent a text message saying that the last person she had sex with was him and she had to have gotten it from him.
Dan denied cheating on me with both this Maria chick and his friend Julie. The only time he had sex with Julie was back in January, before we met, and that she's had sex with several other men so she could have caught it from any one of them. So yeah, I'm setting up an appointment as soon as I can to get tested. I should have been more careful; I should have talked to Dan to make sure he was clean, but I didn't.
I told him I couldn't trust him and if I can't trust him then there was no point in this relationship. He asked why I can't trust him and I told him because of the text messages. He told me that I shouldn't take it out on him what other girls text to him. He claims she texted him that she wanted to have sex, but he called her and told her no because he has a girlfriend but she wouldn't take no for an answer.
As for his POF profile, he claims he set it up to find friends. The thing is, we talked about my having tickling sessions with 'lers so he wanted to do something with other women like I do with my being tickled by other men. I don't know what he wanted to do since he doesn't have a fetish. I mean, if he had a fetish then I could understand it better, but he doesn't. 😕
Anyway he set that up to find friends and he was going to tell me that weekend but things went to hell. But he met Maria through POF and he told me at the hospital that he had known her for about a month and a half. He denied saying that, that he just recently met her. Yes, he met her for the first time last week but he had been talking to her longer than that. Meaning he had his POF profile up for about the same length and he had plenty of time to tell me about it.
Then here's the kicker. He says that he loves me and that he trusts me. Yet after nine months, he told me the same thing he has said many times when we've had this discussion about cheating and if he got sent back to prison that he wouldn't hold it against me if I found and slept with someone else.
That's not trust. He still expects me to do to him what all his ex-girlfriends did before me. If he trusted me, if he knew me at all after nine months, then he would know I would never do that. 
I don't know what to believe but I know we're over. I need time to think and to heal. I don't know what will happen in the future. Maybe when Dan gets out, we can have a true heart-to-heart face-to-face and not through a video screen.
As Dan's dad told me, the truth will come out. And if he truly did not cheat on me, then I'll be woman enough to admit that I was wrong to accuse him of it. 🙁
Time will only tell.
Dan denied cheating on me with both this Maria chick and his friend Julie. The only time he had sex with Julie was back in January, before we met, and that she's had sex with several other men so she could have caught it from any one of them. So yeah, I'm setting up an appointment as soon as I can to get tested. I should have been more careful; I should have talked to Dan to make sure he was clean, but I didn't.
I told him I couldn't trust him and if I can't trust him then there was no point in this relationship. He asked why I can't trust him and I told him because of the text messages. He told me that I shouldn't take it out on him what other girls text to him. He claims she texted him that she wanted to have sex, but he called her and told her no because he has a girlfriend but she wouldn't take no for an answer.
As for his POF profile, he claims he set it up to find friends. The thing is, we talked about my having tickling sessions with 'lers so he wanted to do something with other women like I do with my being tickled by other men. I don't know what he wanted to do since he doesn't have a fetish. I mean, if he had a fetish then I could understand it better, but he doesn't. 😕
Anyway he set that up to find friends and he was going to tell me that weekend but things went to hell. But he met Maria through POF and he told me at the hospital that he had known her for about a month and a half. He denied saying that, that he just recently met her. Yes, he met her for the first time last week but he had been talking to her longer than that. Meaning he had his POF profile up for about the same length and he had plenty of time to tell me about it.
Then here's the kicker. He says that he loves me and that he trusts me. Yet after nine months, he told me the same thing he has said many times when we've had this discussion about cheating and if he got sent back to prison that he wouldn't hold it against me if I found and slept with someone else.
That's not trust. He still expects me to do to him what all his ex-girlfriends did before me. If he trusted me, if he knew me at all after nine months, then he would know I would never do that. I don't know what to believe but I know we're over. I need time to think and to heal. I don't know what will happen in the future. Maybe when Dan gets out, we can have a true heart-to-heart face-to-face and not through a video screen.
As Dan's dad told me, the truth will come out. And if he truly did not cheat on me, then I'll be woman enough to admit that I was wrong to accuse him of it. 🙁
Time will only tell.
It's already...