I've always been a little more old fashion when it comes to sex. Partly because of my Christian upbringing and partly due to my own thoughts and feelings about it.
Originally when I was younger, I made a promise to myself to wait 'til marriage. Then as I got older, I started questioning my beliefs and what was the best for me. Waiting until marriage changed to waiting until it would be with someone I loved.
When I started dating Dan, I was honest with him about how I felt about sex and shocked him by telling him I was still a virgin. When I felt that I was ready to take our relationship to that next level, Dan was the one to hesitate. The last time he was with a virgin, it was with the mother of his eldest kid and he was a virgin too. Me being a virgin scared him because he didn't want me to end up regretting it and wanted me to be absolutely sure. 😀 When I'm sure, I'm sure, and I don't regret anything I do. 🙂
Dan's my first... everything. First boyfriend, first true kiss, first love. But just because I was a virgin when I met doesn't mean I never had an opportunity to get rid of my V-card. 😀 With my first 'ler, it would have been simple. During a session, thinking it was the natural progression of the session (to say I wasn't turned on would be to lie), he was about to enter me when I stopped him and he did.
Dan says I was really lucky that he was decent enough to stop considering I was tied up and unable to stop him. Honestly the idea of being tied up, tickled, then fucked is a turn on. Anyway I stopped him because it didn't feel right, though I probably would've enjoyed, I would've regretted it. And I never want to regret something that I do.
I enjoy sex. I'm working on getting Dan to be a little more adventurous and indulge some of my other kinks. But I still believe sex should be between two people who love each other. For those who are polyamorous (or whatever the term is), I think it should be between people who love each other.
Sometimes I feel old fashioned for thinking this way. Partly because it seems like so many people my age or younger have sex without a second thought. There were so many girls when I was in high school who were getting knocked up or were just too casual about who they were doing it with. I have a coworker, 17 years old, and, I hate to say this, acts like a slut. She was fired from a job because she got caught out in the parking lot fucking a coworker. Her mom lives in denial because she firmly believes her daughter's not doing anything.
I don't know. Some people think sex is sex, and that's fine. If it works for you, then ok. But I think sex has lost some of its value. I'm glad that we're living in a time where sex isn't this dirty, evil thing. I just think younger generations should be taught that sex is good but that waiting for love or for when you're ready isn't a bad thing either. 🙂
Originally when I was younger, I made a promise to myself to wait 'til marriage. Then as I got older, I started questioning my beliefs and what was the best for me. Waiting until marriage changed to waiting until it would be with someone I loved.
When I started dating Dan, I was honest with him about how I felt about sex and shocked him by telling him I was still a virgin. When I felt that I was ready to take our relationship to that next level, Dan was the one to hesitate. The last time he was with a virgin, it was with the mother of his eldest kid and he was a virgin too. Me being a virgin scared him because he didn't want me to end up regretting it and wanted me to be absolutely sure. 😀 When I'm sure, I'm sure, and I don't regret anything I do. 🙂
Dan's my first... everything. First boyfriend, first true kiss, first love. But just because I was a virgin when I met doesn't mean I never had an opportunity to get rid of my V-card. 😀 With my first 'ler, it would have been simple. During a session, thinking it was the natural progression of the session (to say I wasn't turned on would be to lie), he was about to enter me when I stopped him and he did.
Dan says I was really lucky that he was decent enough to stop considering I was tied up and unable to stop him. Honestly the idea of being tied up, tickled, then fucked is a turn on. Anyway I stopped him because it didn't feel right, though I probably would've enjoyed, I would've regretted it. And I never want to regret something that I do.
I enjoy sex. I'm working on getting Dan to be a little more adventurous and indulge some of my other kinks. But I still believe sex should be between two people who love each other. For those who are polyamorous (or whatever the term is), I think it should be between people who love each other.
Sometimes I feel old fashioned for thinking this way. Partly because it seems like so many people my age or younger have sex without a second thought. There were so many girls when I was in high school who were getting knocked up or were just too casual about who they were doing it with. I have a coworker, 17 years old, and, I hate to say this, acts like a slut. She was fired from a job because she got caught out in the parking lot fucking a coworker. Her mom lives in denial because she firmly believes her daughter's not doing anything.
I don't know. Some people think sex is sex, and that's fine. If it works for you, then ok. But I think sex has lost some of its value. I'm glad that we're living in a time where sex isn't this dirty, evil thing. I just think younger generations should be taught that sex is good but that waiting for love or for when you're ready isn't a bad thing either. 🙂
