After mulling it over in my mind about the Hannakah party, I came to the conclusion that enough was enough. I have a slight cold, but, if I really wanted to attend, I'd have pushed myself. I sent my father an e-mail, explaining to him that I didnt feel a family gathering was the appropriate place for me to see my uncle for the first time in 25 years. Additionally, I was forthright with him about the cousins. As I've posted before, his two first cousins, Sandy and Gail, who are sisters, have been very rude to me, and also attacked my mom. Tomorrow would have been the third time since Sept that I would have seen them, which I thought was too much. He never understands how I feel about anything. All he said to me was "You're an adult". There was never a validation of. "Yes, I know these people have been rude to you, and I can see where seeing them three times in ten weeks is too much". They know how to be rude, but, they never have contacted me to inquire about my well being.
After he gave me his displeasure about my not attending the party, I inquired about when I would be able to see my uncle. His reply was "Ira and I are having dinner alone on Sunday night, we'll let you know". While I understand his wanting to see his brother, his complete brush off of me, like my feelings dont count, was rude and uncalled for.
I expressed this to my maternal aunt, and her feeling is that he will never change, and I shouldnt aggravate myself about it, Fact is, I live in the same city as my father, and since his birthday, which was two months ago, I've seen him twice, for a total of maybe four hours. He still hasnt introduced me to the lawyer who I want to go to about my business. If hes looking to make me feel unimportant, hes doing a very good job.
Unfortunately, as I've posted before, I'm trapped with him due to my financial situation. I really have to push to deal with everything ASAP, as I seriously need to untie from him.
So, he wont be seeing me this weekend. Fine. Let him be that way. My friends think hes appalling.
Mitch
After he gave me his displeasure about my not attending the party, I inquired about when I would be able to see my uncle. His reply was "Ira and I are having dinner alone on Sunday night, we'll let you know". While I understand his wanting to see his brother, his complete brush off of me, like my feelings dont count, was rude and uncalled for.
I expressed this to my maternal aunt, and her feeling is that he will never change, and I shouldnt aggravate myself about it, Fact is, I live in the same city as my father, and since his birthday, which was two months ago, I've seen him twice, for a total of maybe four hours. He still hasnt introduced me to the lawyer who I want to go to about my business. If hes looking to make me feel unimportant, hes doing a very good job.
Unfortunately, as I've posted before, I'm trapped with him due to my financial situation. I really have to push to deal with everything ASAP, as I seriously need to untie from him.
So, he wont be seeing me this weekend. Fine. Let him be that way. My friends think hes appalling.
Mitch
