Lately, several people in my life, both family members, and friends, have suggested that I should try to fill the void in my time by attempting to actively meet a woman.
They say.. how can you ever meet anyone, when all you do is sit in the apartment, figuring out what to do about work, looking for jobs/positions, and go out to lunch, etc.
I say, no, that now is not the right time to do so, for several reasons.
The main one.. my work situation, and how I feel about myself in general.
When I was working at Aflac, and before the situation with the business deal I thought I was going to do, fell through, I was feeling much better about myself than I had in years.
Had that law firm signed, I was immediately planning to actively start looking for a woman, because I felt I had what was needed to bring to the table, so to speak, for a successful relationship. I would have been able to come across with self confidence, and would have had something good to offer a woman.
Since I've left Aflac, I feel worse about myself than even when I was living in Lancaster.
The whole situation with losing Aflac, the difficulty with the job search, and it's affect on me, has taken it's toll on me emotionally, physically, and self confidence wise.
It doesnt seem fair to me, or to the hypothetical woman, to attempt to be in a relationship when I'm feeling like this.
So, for as much of an asshole as people on here think I can be.. I should be given credit for not attempting to just dive into a relationship for my own emotional and physical gratification.,
I start to think... What would I talk to said woman about?
My latest frustration with the job search?
My problems with my family, and friends?
My latest seizure or health issues?
Someone I know told me that meeting a partner can happen when you are least looking for it/expecting it.
I also know someone else who told me that because I don't go anywhere to put myself in a position to meet someone, it's likely I wont.
I know that if I were to meet someone, I wouldnt be the only person who is unemployed/not really working/looking for a job to be dating.. or be with a partner.
There are times I do feel very lonely, and wish I could be with someone.
However, I just dont feel that now is the right time, and that I need to focus on improving myself first, before attempting to enter into a relationship;
They say.. how can you ever meet anyone, when all you do is sit in the apartment, figuring out what to do about work, looking for jobs/positions, and go out to lunch, etc.
I say, no, that now is not the right time to do so, for several reasons.
The main one.. my work situation, and how I feel about myself in general.
When I was working at Aflac, and before the situation with the business deal I thought I was going to do, fell through, I was feeling much better about myself than I had in years.
Had that law firm signed, I was immediately planning to actively start looking for a woman, because I felt I had what was needed to bring to the table, so to speak, for a successful relationship. I would have been able to come across with self confidence, and would have had something good to offer a woman.
Since I've left Aflac, I feel worse about myself than even when I was living in Lancaster.
The whole situation with losing Aflac, the difficulty with the job search, and it's affect on me, has taken it's toll on me emotionally, physically, and self confidence wise.
It doesnt seem fair to me, or to the hypothetical woman, to attempt to be in a relationship when I'm feeling like this.
So, for as much of an asshole as people on here think I can be.. I should be given credit for not attempting to just dive into a relationship for my own emotional and physical gratification.,
I start to think... What would I talk to said woman about?
My latest frustration with the job search?
My problems with my family, and friends?
My latest seizure or health issues?
Someone I know told me that meeting a partner can happen when you are least looking for it/expecting it.
I also know someone else who told me that because I don't go anywhere to put myself in a position to meet someone, it's likely I wont.
I know that if I were to meet someone, I wouldnt be the only person who is unemployed/not really working/looking for a job to be dating.. or be with a partner.
There are times I do feel very lonely, and wish I could be with someone.
However, I just dont feel that now is the right time, and that I need to focus on improving myself first, before attempting to enter into a relationship;
