Today, I saw my uncle for the first time since the day after my 18th bday. We had lunch at PJ Clarkes in Manhattan for a total of.. an hour. My father was there. The two of them did most of the talking, and I did most of the listening. I'm supposed to meet my uncle for dinner alone tomorrow at Shun Lee Palace, the famous expensive chinese resturant in Manhattan.
My father gave me nothing for Hannakah, which I found hurtful, but not surprising. As I mentioned before, he has to hold my money for me because of my credit problems. He handed me what I considered to be a large amount of cash (Of my own money). While I always take subways around NY, for both time issues, and to watch my money, I questioned whether I should perhaps take a cab home, for safety purposes. He told me that he thought I should take the subway, and that I shouldnt be "paranoid". Everything from him is a potshot, a putdown, etc. Of course, he had to leave very quickly to go to his real family, his wife and stepdaughter. The man has spent a total of 2 hours with me since Thanksgiving. An hour a week ago Wednesday and another hour today. Hes not working full time anymore, so he cant use time or work as an excuse., He had no time for me all of last week, which is just an outrage, but again, not surprising. I get his message of just how much I mean to him, loud and clear.
Supposedly, before he and Cheryl go on their second lavish vacation in a month, he will be taking me into the lawyer to deal with the business I want to do. I'll believe that when I see it.
My real life friends, and maternal family, think hes treating me just miserably. Unfortunately, as I've posted before, I cant untie from him now due to the situation with my rent, and my money issues. If I can get my company started, and God willing after a time I can make the money needed to sustain myself, my plan is to repay every penny he''s laid out for this apartment, and then tell him to take a long walk off a short pier. Everyone knows I'm trapped with him due to my circumstances, but no one who cares about me thinks I should stay with him long term.
So, thats the latest. i'll see how my dinner with my uncle goes tomorrow. My feeling is it will go better than anything has with my father. For whatever my uncle did to me in the past, hes been very nice since reconnecting with me after my mom died,. a lot nicer than my father has.
Mitch
My father gave me nothing for Hannakah, which I found hurtful, but not surprising. As I mentioned before, he has to hold my money for me because of my credit problems. He handed me what I considered to be a large amount of cash (Of my own money). While I always take subways around NY, for both time issues, and to watch my money, I questioned whether I should perhaps take a cab home, for safety purposes. He told me that he thought I should take the subway, and that I shouldnt be "paranoid". Everything from him is a potshot, a putdown, etc. Of course, he had to leave very quickly to go to his real family, his wife and stepdaughter. The man has spent a total of 2 hours with me since Thanksgiving. An hour a week ago Wednesday and another hour today. Hes not working full time anymore, so he cant use time or work as an excuse., He had no time for me all of last week, which is just an outrage, but again, not surprising. I get his message of just how much I mean to him, loud and clear.
Supposedly, before he and Cheryl go on their second lavish vacation in a month, he will be taking me into the lawyer to deal with the business I want to do. I'll believe that when I see it.
My real life friends, and maternal family, think hes treating me just miserably. Unfortunately, as I've posted before, I cant untie from him now due to the situation with my rent, and my money issues. If I can get my company started, and God willing after a time I can make the money needed to sustain myself, my plan is to repay every penny he''s laid out for this apartment, and then tell him to take a long walk off a short pier. Everyone knows I'm trapped with him due to my circumstances, but no one who cares about me thinks I should stay with him long term.
So, thats the latest. i'll see how my dinner with my uncle goes tomorrow. My feeling is it will go better than anything has with my father. For whatever my uncle did to me in the past, hes been very nice since reconnecting with me after my mom died,. a lot nicer than my father has.
Mitch
