Last night I was watching the NY Knicks Atlanta Hawks NBA game from MSG in NY.
At some point, for whatever reason I got a vicious, uncalled for, nasty email from T.
Earlier in the day, he had "lectured me" on the phone, and I purposely sat quietly, and got off, figuring hopefully he would drop it.
Then, at some point, I forget when, he blasted me in an email, even after I said nothing when he started in on the phone.
His email said
"You think you know it all. Unlike you, I actually do research, and come from "A point of concern"
As I mentioned T is also very wealthy.
We came up with a system where I take two trains to his house, the subway into Penn Station, and then a 90 min train ride to T's house in NJ, then he would pay for an Uber to go home.
The email.
"I "spoiled you" with Ubers, from now on you take the train both ways"
This, after he had said to me not long ago that he does not keep track of such, because I help him on other ways. I also share with him if I get extra $$$ and always treat T and his friends to dinners when I go down there.
I then offered a situation where I would still come down by train, but I would split an Uber with him coming home. Thus, he gets 75 % of what he wants.
That was not good for him either.
"My decision is firm" He said.
T's ex gf and others have taken him for a lot of $$$, and even though I am willing to compromise it must be all his way.
Thus, it blew up.
I have a strong feeling it is going to end with him.
T's dialysis is not my fault, and I told him that I know my migraines and seizures are not his fault.
Yet, T lets out all his anger and frustration at me.
His eruption at me about how to live my life three weeks ago when I had just spent the day at the hospital with my uncle and my Dad while my Dad was operated on, really made me lose it for him.
I dont see how this can be resolved. He is verbally abusive, puts me down, and is not willing to compromise in any way.
Last summer, things were not as bad. I went to several pool parties at T';s house, and T, other friends, and his now ex gf had a good time,.
T knows full well that my Dad is not well, and the pain my Dad is in, and the concern and worry I have over my Dad, and how my Dad has to be my focus along with myself.
I told my Dad about this situation from last night, this morning, and my Dad was furious,.
My Dad said,.
"Mitch dont worry about T Tell, him to go fuck himself"
I did not want to do that. Such is why I have remained calm even when T has been verbally abusive.
I will not stay in a friendship to be put down and verbally abused by T, and then if I express my anger, T gets worse.
My email to him this morning probably finished it.
This has been brewing for a year and a half since his mother died.
I did not see him for 11 months between July 4, 2020, and June 2021 due to this.
When I told him last year how upset I was, and I held it in to be respectful of him maybe having a rough time after his mother died, T said.
"If you feel something , say it"
Had he just hung up the phone and not sent the nasty email after, this whole thing would never have happened.
T had to shoot off again.
I do not see how this can survive.
His "I'm sorry you have trouble walking down stairs, but my decision is firm even if you take a train one way and pay for half of a car way home" shows his controlling nasty attitude.
So thats it.
I hope it does end. I am tired of T;s putdowns, verbal abuse, and then getting more abusive if I express my feelings.
That is not a friendship or a relationship.
I hope it ends.
I frankly do not need this, with my constant worry about my 81 year old father's health, and not knowing what the headache Dr will say when I see him for my migraines.
Jericho. We will see what I do with T in my stories.
Right now I know that my Dad is downplaying his pain to be even when we talk every day.
I'm really , really worried.
My Dad says hes most worried about my headaches, and emotional health due to all the goings on with my Dad's operations, and my migraines the past several weeks.
Hopefully, God Willing, my Dad and me will find solutions to our health, and it will end with T
It is time.
At some point, for whatever reason I got a vicious, uncalled for, nasty email from T.
Earlier in the day, he had "lectured me" on the phone, and I purposely sat quietly, and got off, figuring hopefully he would drop it.
Then, at some point, I forget when, he blasted me in an email, even after I said nothing when he started in on the phone.
His email said
"You think you know it all. Unlike you, I actually do research, and come from "A point of concern"
As I mentioned T is also very wealthy.
We came up with a system where I take two trains to his house, the subway into Penn Station, and then a 90 min train ride to T's house in NJ, then he would pay for an Uber to go home.
The email.
"I "spoiled you" with Ubers, from now on you take the train both ways"
This, after he had said to me not long ago that he does not keep track of such, because I help him on other ways. I also share with him if I get extra $$$ and always treat T and his friends to dinners when I go down there.
I then offered a situation where I would still come down by train, but I would split an Uber with him coming home. Thus, he gets 75 % of what he wants.
That was not good for him either.
"My decision is firm" He said.
T's ex gf and others have taken him for a lot of $$$, and even though I am willing to compromise it must be all his way.
Thus, it blew up.
I have a strong feeling it is going to end with him.
T's dialysis is not my fault, and I told him that I know my migraines and seizures are not his fault.
Yet, T lets out all his anger and frustration at me.
His eruption at me about how to live my life three weeks ago when I had just spent the day at the hospital with my uncle and my Dad while my Dad was operated on, really made me lose it for him.
I dont see how this can be resolved. He is verbally abusive, puts me down, and is not willing to compromise in any way.
Last summer, things were not as bad. I went to several pool parties at T';s house, and T, other friends, and his now ex gf had a good time,.
T knows full well that my Dad is not well, and the pain my Dad is in, and the concern and worry I have over my Dad, and how my Dad has to be my focus along with myself.
I told my Dad about this situation from last night, this morning, and my Dad was furious,.
My Dad said,.
"Mitch dont worry about T Tell, him to go fuck himself"
I did not want to do that. Such is why I have remained calm even when T has been verbally abusive.
I will not stay in a friendship to be put down and verbally abused by T, and then if I express my anger, T gets worse.
My email to him this morning probably finished it.
This has been brewing for a year and a half since his mother died.
I did not see him for 11 months between July 4, 2020, and June 2021 due to this.
When I told him last year how upset I was, and I held it in to be respectful of him maybe having a rough time after his mother died, T said.
"If you feel something , say it"
Had he just hung up the phone and not sent the nasty email after, this whole thing would never have happened.
T had to shoot off again.
I do not see how this can survive.
His "I'm sorry you have trouble walking down stairs, but my decision is firm even if you take a train one way and pay for half of a car way home" shows his controlling nasty attitude.
So thats it.
I hope it does end. I am tired of T;s putdowns, verbal abuse, and then getting more abusive if I express my feelings.
That is not a friendship or a relationship.
I hope it ends.
I frankly do not need this, with my constant worry about my 81 year old father's health, and not knowing what the headache Dr will say when I see him for my migraines.
Jericho. We will see what I do with T in my stories.
Right now I know that my Dad is downplaying his pain to be even when we talk every day.
I'm really , really worried.
My Dad says hes most worried about my headaches, and emotional health due to all the goings on with my Dad's operations, and my migraines the past several weeks.
Hopefully, God Willing, my Dad and me will find solutions to our health, and it will end with T
It is time.
