This weekend I made a major mistake that I will never make again.
Rewind Three Weeks.
I've posted on here about "T"
In more recent times, things had seemed a bit better with T. So much so that I've seen him a few times this summer.
T has had on and off problems with alcohol. He's cleaned up for a while , then slipped.
This relates to me, aside from being his friend, in the following way.
T lives with his partner, a woman. Recently they have been having major problems in their relationship.
On Friday, three weeks ago, I forget the date,. T told me to come down there unexpectedly and that he was having major problems.
Being the caring, wanting to do the right thing friend, I went.
I got down there, entered T's house. His girlfriend looked at me making the "Drinking motion" like T had been drinking alcohol.
T was clearly extremely drunk. No matter how many times we tried to get him to stop,. he would not, and kept drinking. His partner finally went through the house, found all the bottles of alcohol, and poured them out. T was then like. "You think I fucking care if you pour them out, I will call a cab and get more"
T then finally passed out. His girlfriend was watching him. I went upstairs to the room I sleep in,
As I was about to drift off to sleep. T's girlfriend screamed. "Mitch, get down here"
I ran downstairs. There was broken bottle all over the place. T had either dropped, or intentionally smashed a bottle.
T's girlfriend cleaned up the mess, and he passed out.
The next day, she packed her clothes, left and told T that they were finished.
I came home the following day.
Since then T has entered outpatient rehab, where hes been many times before.
The girlfriend, who has been burned by T with this before, heard that he entered rehab, and moved back in.
This weekend he invited me. I figured. "Okay, hes not drinking anymore, hopefully this weekend will be calm"
I've posted about how sick my Dad has been. This started the Wednesday after T's night of drunk.
I almost did not want to go, because T lives a couple of hours from here. I discussed it with my Dad and he told me to go, and said he would call me if he had to go to the hospital or felt worse.
I have not been sleeping, so when I got down there, I passed out on the couch from exhaustion Friday and Saturday.
Instead of T understanding that I'm exhausted from worrying about my Dad;'s serious health issues, T said. "Mitch, if you were going to sleep, why did you come"
However, yesterday I was up all day, and T and his gf were sleeping, which I guess to T is okay because to him, the rules are different for him than they are for me because he says so.
I posted before how I'm working on something major. The thing I'm working on involves my Dad, and its been delayed due to his health issues. The head of the place that it involves has been very understanding, saying "Mitch, most important is your Dad. If it happens a few weeks later, so be it"
It is going to be delayed, as my Dad said he needs to get better before we can do it.
Fine. Again most important is my Dad's health.
The whole situation with my Dad's hospitalizations, and infections, started the Wednesday after the episode with T.
Instead of being understanding that Mitch's father is very sick, and Mitch needs to stay calm, and focus most on his fathers health. T has been getting into every fucking subject for the intent of making me upset, and riled up.
T is all arrogant because his gf came back, and now Mitch has a problem.
This weekend was just major hell. T would not shut his fucking mouth and do anything to calm me down, as long as I was there for him in his time of need.
I came home last night, and I was thrilled to get the hell of there.
I have to see my neurologist tomorrow because I had another fall down the stairs at T's house this weekend.
Considering the whole situation, it would seem to be that it is time for a nice, long hiatus from T.
It is acceptable for T to be happy that his gf came back.
It is not acceptable for him to be condescending and abusive to Mitch, especially when Mitch is so concerned about his father, and when Mitch was there for T in T's time of need.
Truly disgraceful. I'm appalled by T's behavior.
Rewind Three Weeks.
I've posted on here about "T"
In more recent times, things had seemed a bit better with T. So much so that I've seen him a few times this summer.
T has had on and off problems with alcohol. He's cleaned up for a while , then slipped.
This relates to me, aside from being his friend, in the following way.
T lives with his partner, a woman. Recently they have been having major problems in their relationship.
On Friday, three weeks ago, I forget the date,. T told me to come down there unexpectedly and that he was having major problems.
Being the caring, wanting to do the right thing friend, I went.
I got down there, entered T's house. His girlfriend looked at me making the "Drinking motion" like T had been drinking alcohol.
T was clearly extremely drunk. No matter how many times we tried to get him to stop,. he would not, and kept drinking. His partner finally went through the house, found all the bottles of alcohol, and poured them out. T was then like. "You think I fucking care if you pour them out, I will call a cab and get more"
T then finally passed out. His girlfriend was watching him. I went upstairs to the room I sleep in,
As I was about to drift off to sleep. T's girlfriend screamed. "Mitch, get down here"
I ran downstairs. There was broken bottle all over the place. T had either dropped, or intentionally smashed a bottle.
T's girlfriend cleaned up the mess, and he passed out.
The next day, she packed her clothes, left and told T that they were finished.
I came home the following day.
Since then T has entered outpatient rehab, where hes been many times before.
The girlfriend, who has been burned by T with this before, heard that he entered rehab, and moved back in.
This weekend he invited me. I figured. "Okay, hes not drinking anymore, hopefully this weekend will be calm"
I've posted about how sick my Dad has been. This started the Wednesday after T's night of drunk.
I almost did not want to go, because T lives a couple of hours from here. I discussed it with my Dad and he told me to go, and said he would call me if he had to go to the hospital or felt worse.
I have not been sleeping, so when I got down there, I passed out on the couch from exhaustion Friday and Saturday.
Instead of T understanding that I'm exhausted from worrying about my Dad;'s serious health issues, T said. "Mitch, if you were going to sleep, why did you come"
However, yesterday I was up all day, and T and his gf were sleeping, which I guess to T is okay because to him, the rules are different for him than they are for me because he says so.
I posted before how I'm working on something major. The thing I'm working on involves my Dad, and its been delayed due to his health issues. The head of the place that it involves has been very understanding, saying "Mitch, most important is your Dad. If it happens a few weeks later, so be it"
It is going to be delayed, as my Dad said he needs to get better before we can do it.
Fine. Again most important is my Dad's health.
The whole situation with my Dad's hospitalizations, and infections, started the Wednesday after the episode with T.
Instead of being understanding that Mitch's father is very sick, and Mitch needs to stay calm, and focus most on his fathers health. T has been getting into every fucking subject for the intent of making me upset, and riled up.
T is all arrogant because his gf came back, and now Mitch has a problem.
This weekend was just major hell. T would not shut his fucking mouth and do anything to calm me down, as long as I was there for him in his time of need.
I came home last night, and I was thrilled to get the hell of there.
I have to see my neurologist tomorrow because I had another fall down the stairs at T's house this weekend.
Considering the whole situation, it would seem to be that it is time for a nice, long hiatus from T.
It is acceptable for T to be happy that his gf came back.
It is not acceptable for him to be condescending and abusive to Mitch, especially when Mitch is so concerned about his father, and when Mitch was there for T in T's time of need.
Truly disgraceful. I'm appalled by T's behavior.
