During the day, I practice control over everything - people, animals, situations. I'm in charge - even more so now that I'm a partner/owner at the clinic. For starters, I found that I enjoy giving up control to the right person. Someone whom I trust and with whom I share mutual respect. I can let my guards down and strip myself barer than I have ever been - more exposed and vulnerable than mere nudity. Soul bearing nakedness...it's such a raw state.
One of the first things I discovered during my exploration about D/s is that the physical aspect isn't the most important thing. It's almost a secondary aspect or an aside. For me, it became evident that what intrigued me most was the mental aspect. Not only did I have to be actively participating in the usual ways, but my mind had to wrap around some of the finer nuances of obedience and power play.
My choice of Dom shows a lot about the importance of being open minded. In his spare time, he's a hunter/fisherman - and anyone who knows me would say this is almost my antithesis. But somehow, we clicked. We never lack for conversation. We can talk about vanilla subjects or BDSM. I could sit quietly with him in his truck (yeah, he's not quite a redneck...) and watch the snow fall and some deer grazing as we stole a few moments for "lunchtime" together. The more we connected, the more intense our sessions became.
I'll never forget one of our earlier conversations about collaring. He brought up the subject of leashes, and with my given profession, I admitted to him that I didn't think I could embrace those because it hit a little too close to home. It's the same difficulty I have with people who use the term "pet" as an affectionate nickname for a sub. That grates on me. So to find someone who can accept me and limitations and my imperfections and being willing to work with me, teach me, mentor and coach me to reach new heights...what a fantastic journey!
One of the first things I discovered during my exploration about D/s is that the physical aspect isn't the most important thing. It's almost a secondary aspect or an aside. For me, it became evident that what intrigued me most was the mental aspect. Not only did I have to be actively participating in the usual ways, but my mind had to wrap around some of the finer nuances of obedience and power play.
My choice of Dom shows a lot about the importance of being open minded. In his spare time, he's a hunter/fisherman - and anyone who knows me would say this is almost my antithesis. But somehow, we clicked. We never lack for conversation. We can talk about vanilla subjects or BDSM. I could sit quietly with him in his truck (yeah, he's not quite a redneck...) and watch the snow fall and some deer grazing as we stole a few moments for "lunchtime" together. The more we connected, the more intense our sessions became.
I'll never forget one of our earlier conversations about collaring. He brought up the subject of leashes, and with my given profession, I admitted to him that I didn't think I could embrace those because it hit a little too close to home. It's the same difficulty I have with people who use the term "pet" as an affectionate nickname for a sub. That grates on me. So to find someone who can accept me and limitations and my imperfections and being willing to work with me, teach me, mentor and coach me to reach new heights...what a fantastic journey!
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