I haven't posted in my blog in a long time, and may never do so again.
One entry, about the Racist Incident thread, and then I'm going to go back to not saying much.
I still say.. in spite of the "Spin Doctors" of the forum.. (No intent of associating such with the musicial group of the early 1990s) I'm talking about those who spun the thread.. into the whole.. "Let's do the usual blow up the thread that Mitch posts, even if it isnt about his personal life".
It was.. reprimand from know it all Chicago.
"You've learned not to post about your personal life, now you have to learn not to post threads like this".
As if she was a teacher scolding a disobedient student.
Or Wolf.
"Why did you post the thread if you didnt want to attract attention:.".
Not one person who posted in that thread.. except me.. posted about the actual topic of the thread.. The supposed "Golden Rule" of staying on topic.
Not one.
"Gee, Mitch, that's terrible that the white guy called the black guy a racial slur, the white guy who did that is an asshole."
Such would have been an .. appropriate reaction to hearing about such an incident.
The whole.
"You cant tell people how to react"
is complete and utter bullshit..
The "reactions" had nothing to do with the topic of what I posted.
I said..
"I heard a white guy call a black guy a racial slur, and it troubled me".
Instead of discussing the topic of how such blatant racism and hearing such was troubling..
I got.
"Why did you post it".
"You're immature"
"You've learned not to post about your personal life on forum, now you have to learn not to post this".
None of that had anything to do with the fucking topic of what the thread was.
Hearing racial slurs, and being troubled by hearing such.
Then when I mentioned.
"The black guy could have kicked the shit out of the white guy, because the white guy called the black guy the N word"
It was automatically,.
"Mitch is racist, because he;s assuming that only a black guy would kick the shit out of a white guy, for the white guy calling the black guy the N word".
When the fuck did I ever say that, anywhere?
The conflict could have been.;.
A White Christian Guy calling a White Jewish Guy an ethnic slur. and thinking that maybe the White Jewish Guy would kick the shit out of the White Christian Guy, because the White Christian Guy called the White Jewish Guy an ethnic slur.
As I said before, if I had posted.
"OMFG this happened in my personal life with family, friends, work, etc today"
and I had gotten the reaction I did.
Then I myself would have said I deserved the feedback I did.
This..
Was just another excuse to attack Mitch, and blow up a thread he posted, that wasnt even about him.
I wasnt even involved in the conflict between the two guys.
I just said I witnessed it, and it troubled me.
The reaction I got from those I told the incident to, in my real life, was so polar opposite that it shows me one thing.
This time.. Mitch cant be blamed for the reaction.
One time, many years ago, when my mom was still alive, and I had posted about an incident that had occurred in our personal lives, that I now know was not appropriate to post on the forum, does everyone know what she said to me.
"You got what you deserved, why would you post about our personal life on that forum".
She was 100% right.
I'm sure people are aware of how many people post every fucking detail of their lives on social media. "I went to see my shrink today" on sites such as Facebook, Twitter, etc.
I even told other people I talk to online that I dont often post about my personal experiences, but this incident troubled me.
I know the thread wont be closed. When I asked it to be closed.. I was given some technicality that because I answered one person who particularly angered me, it gave credibility for the thread to stay open.
I have to do some real soul searching.. about when enough is enough.
I think.. it's very difficult to leave after fourteen years, when so much else has changed in my life over the past four years.
I certainly cant justify that it's "healthy" for me to be here, when threads like that get spun as they were, especially when the thread was not about me, or my personal life.
Maybe I have to stay here, and just read the forum, until I feel it's time for me to go.
This whole situation feels like a toxic relationship that isnt working
That's all. The replies to that thread are what caused this blog entry.
I hope and intend to never have to make one like it again.
One entry, about the Racist Incident thread, and then I'm going to go back to not saying much.
I still say.. in spite of the "Spin Doctors" of the forum.. (No intent of associating such with the musicial group of the early 1990s) I'm talking about those who spun the thread.. into the whole.. "Let's do the usual blow up the thread that Mitch posts, even if it isnt about his personal life".
It was.. reprimand from know it all Chicago.
"You've learned not to post about your personal life, now you have to learn not to post threads like this".
As if she was a teacher scolding a disobedient student.
Or Wolf.
"Why did you post the thread if you didnt want to attract attention:.".
Not one person who posted in that thread.. except me.. posted about the actual topic of the thread.. The supposed "Golden Rule" of staying on topic.
Not one.
"Gee, Mitch, that's terrible that the white guy called the black guy a racial slur, the white guy who did that is an asshole."
Such would have been an .. appropriate reaction to hearing about such an incident.
The whole.
"You cant tell people how to react"
is complete and utter bullshit..
The "reactions" had nothing to do with the topic of what I posted.
I said..
"I heard a white guy call a black guy a racial slur, and it troubled me".
Instead of discussing the topic of how such blatant racism and hearing such was troubling..
I got.
"Why did you post it".
"You're immature"
"You've learned not to post about your personal life on forum, now you have to learn not to post this".
None of that had anything to do with the fucking topic of what the thread was.
Hearing racial slurs, and being troubled by hearing such.
Then when I mentioned.
"The black guy could have kicked the shit out of the white guy, because the white guy called the black guy the N word"
It was automatically,.
"Mitch is racist, because he;s assuming that only a black guy would kick the shit out of a white guy, for the white guy calling the black guy the N word".
When the fuck did I ever say that, anywhere?
The conflict could have been.;.
A White Christian Guy calling a White Jewish Guy an ethnic slur. and thinking that maybe the White Jewish Guy would kick the shit out of the White Christian Guy, because the White Christian Guy called the White Jewish Guy an ethnic slur.
As I said before, if I had posted.
"OMFG this happened in my personal life with family, friends, work, etc today"
and I had gotten the reaction I did.
Then I myself would have said I deserved the feedback I did.
This..
Was just another excuse to attack Mitch, and blow up a thread he posted, that wasnt even about him.
I wasnt even involved in the conflict between the two guys.
I just said I witnessed it, and it troubled me.
The reaction I got from those I told the incident to, in my real life, was so polar opposite that it shows me one thing.
This time.. Mitch cant be blamed for the reaction.
One time, many years ago, when my mom was still alive, and I had posted about an incident that had occurred in our personal lives, that I now know was not appropriate to post on the forum, does everyone know what she said to me.
"You got what you deserved, why would you post about our personal life on that forum".
She was 100% right.
I'm sure people are aware of how many people post every fucking detail of their lives on social media. "I went to see my shrink today" on sites such as Facebook, Twitter, etc.
I even told other people I talk to online that I dont often post about my personal experiences, but this incident troubled me.
I know the thread wont be closed. When I asked it to be closed.. I was given some technicality that because I answered one person who particularly angered me, it gave credibility for the thread to stay open.
I have to do some real soul searching.. about when enough is enough.
I think.. it's very difficult to leave after fourteen years, when so much else has changed in my life over the past four years.
I certainly cant justify that it's "healthy" for me to be here, when threads like that get spun as they were, especially when the thread was not about me, or my personal life.
Maybe I have to stay here, and just read the forum, until I feel it's time for me to go.
This whole situation feels like a toxic relationship that isnt working
That's all. The replies to that thread are what caused this blog entry.
I hope and intend to never have to make one like it again.
