Tonight I had a meeting alone with my uncle. I'm now convinced that nothing will ever be good between my paternal family and me, no matter how hard I try.
My uncle began with an attack, saying how people told my father to put my mom in the street by not paying the alimony. Evil, because the woman is dead.
I then said to him "Ira, you dont know all the facts, and I cant tell you, because its detrimental to me to divulge it". He doesnt know about my father's professional misconduct, my taxes etc". My uncle said to me "If you have so much trouble with your father, why arent the two of you estranged?" Er, very encouraging. I dont know what I did to cause this. After attacking me and my mom, my uncle told me how I attacked his son, who has Aspergers Symdrome, in an email six years ago. My uncle's son accused me of being "controlled" by my mom, and I e-mailed him expressing my displeasure.
There is a friend of my father's and Ira's, Marvin, who was completely uncivilized to me and my mom. The man said vicious things to my mom once when she called him to try and help in my father's and my estrangement. All I commented is that it would have been nice had Marvin sent me a condolence card. Marvin's wife has Altzheimers, and Ira said this is the reason Marvin didnt send a condolence card.
Then, the topper to the cake, which outraged my aunt the artist and me. I've consistently said how I want to start my business, and then will look for part time outside work,. My uncle and my father want me to go on disability. I'm not disabled., I had/have two aunts on/were on disabiilty. My aunt who has worked, and has never been on disability, said once and if I do that, I'm labeled, and will have trouble finding work.
Even though my uncle said the words "I'm sure my brother has his part in this", its very clear that my father's family, even though I have been concilatory about seeing them, and have tried to take as little issues as possible, want to cause another estrangement between he and I. This is an outrage, considering all 'I've forgiven them for.
I'm going to have to push myself to look for something ASAP. If my father doesnt take me to the trademark attormey for the business, I will find one myself. As for the extended family, I have to try and have as little to do with them as possible, until I figure a way out of this. My father said something about going to Vegas to visit my uncle for my bday, but after this weekend I think thats a bad idea.
I dont know what comes next. My father has been seeing me very little lately. I can see this sprialing out of control quickly.
Mitch
My uncle began with an attack, saying how people told my father to put my mom in the street by not paying the alimony. Evil, because the woman is dead.
I then said to him "Ira, you dont know all the facts, and I cant tell you, because its detrimental to me to divulge it". He doesnt know about my father's professional misconduct, my taxes etc". My uncle said to me "If you have so much trouble with your father, why arent the two of you estranged?" Er, very encouraging. I dont know what I did to cause this. After attacking me and my mom, my uncle told me how I attacked his son, who has Aspergers Symdrome, in an email six years ago. My uncle's son accused me of being "controlled" by my mom, and I e-mailed him expressing my displeasure.
There is a friend of my father's and Ira's, Marvin, who was completely uncivilized to me and my mom. The man said vicious things to my mom once when she called him to try and help in my father's and my estrangement. All I commented is that it would have been nice had Marvin sent me a condolence card. Marvin's wife has Altzheimers, and Ira said this is the reason Marvin didnt send a condolence card.
Then, the topper to the cake, which outraged my aunt the artist and me. I've consistently said how I want to start my business, and then will look for part time outside work,. My uncle and my father want me to go on disability. I'm not disabled., I had/have two aunts on/were on disabiilty. My aunt who has worked, and has never been on disability, said once and if I do that, I'm labeled, and will have trouble finding work.
Even though my uncle said the words "I'm sure my brother has his part in this", its very clear that my father's family, even though I have been concilatory about seeing them, and have tried to take as little issues as possible, want to cause another estrangement between he and I. This is an outrage, considering all 'I've forgiven them for.
I'm going to have to push myself to look for something ASAP. If my father doesnt take me to the trademark attormey for the business, I will find one myself. As for the extended family, I have to try and have as little to do with them as possible, until I figure a way out of this. My father said something about going to Vegas to visit my uncle for my bday, but after this weekend I think thats a bad idea.
I dont know what comes next. My father has been seeing me very little lately. I can see this sprialing out of control quickly.
Mitch
