I have a model for human metaphysics that I use to understand the experience of feelings and emotions. As a model, it is not necessarily a literally accurate representation of how things work, but is instead a tool for the human mind to visualize and conceptualize something that may normally be out of grasp. While the realistic accuracy is unimportant, the results a model can lead to is very important.
The model is relatively simple. I'll begin describing the general idea. Think of the human body as a vessel. That vessel is filled with a soul. As we go through our lives, we encounter changes in energy, for lack of a better word. We encounter positive and negative energy all the time. Any real encounter, experience, or event in your daily life is bombarding you with this energy. Whether it's a bad phone call or a kiss good morning, this generates energy. When we encounter this energy, we absorb it like a sponge. But wait, we are filled with a soul. It fits snugly, but comfortably within our existence. What happens when you cram more stuff into a space than will comfortably fit? It causes pressure!
This pressure manifests as feelings within us. Now, a lot of people would call these emotions, but I am distinguishing between the two. Feelings are those inner pressures and experiences of holding on to that energy. Emotions are the body's physical outer expressions of those feelings. For example, if it hurts, it's feelings. If it makes you cry, that's emotions. Letting this pressure (feelings) build up inside can be very unhealthy. This can even be true of pressure from positive energy buildup. And a vessel can only hold so much. After a point, something has got to give. Some of it absolutely will come out, one way or another.
People prone to holding in their feelings, not processing things as they go about their day or week, must face the consequences eventually. The pressure built up inside you can only come out through expression. If you consistently only choose emotional expression, it is likely to result in unnecessary physical or mental pain. As an example, a woman I used to work with had a lot of unresolved feelings. She disclosed to me that most nights she would cry intensely until she would finally pass out and sleep through the rest of the night. The crying did offer some form of release, but not without physical pain, headache, bloodshot eyes, etc. expressions of anger and violence can also cause you a great deal of pain. Maybe you'll destroy something you love, say something you didn't mean, or do something that compromises a valued relationship.
Probably some of the healthier forms of expression are discussion, writing, art, and physical activity. I will say that if you are in a relationship, it is very important to process feelings in a healthy way with your partner–not necessarily every time, but regularly. This is especially true when The energy is from a shared experience. Your soul is, in one way or another, entangled with this other person's. What affects you may also affect them. Disregarding this is careless and irresponsible. I recognize that much of this is easier said than done, but it helps to have the model to guide your understanding of what to do and what to work on. My wife and I are definitely the kind of people that hold things in too long. We are working together to overcome that challenge and the reward has been great.
I mentioned earlier that emotional expression can often result in pain or suffering. I want to emphasize that this is not always true, and even when it is, it is not always wrong or unreasonable. Just be aware of that common consequence. In a pinch, it is a really effective way of ripping that energy from you, releasing that pressure. Think of it like surgery for your feelings. It's a crude, but effective way of directly and immediately addressing the issue, but with some side effects. The healthier expressions mentioned earlier are more like physical therapy. They might take more effort, but are preferable if feasible.
One problem that many people experience, to include my wife and I, is that we tend to be a little emotionally suppressed–That is, even when we need to express our emotions, we find it difficult. This is one of the great things about our kinks revolving around sensation (tickling, edging, etc). It is a fun way to force emotions out of each other. It truly feels like a cleanse of the soul. When I have that pressure built up inside, my skin feels itchy or has an almost burning sensation as though the energy is screaming to get out. My wife can force those emotions out easily by tying me to a bed and tickling me senseless, or edging me until I am screaming and crying. It is a beautiful gift we have!
The model is relatively simple. I'll begin describing the general idea. Think of the human body as a vessel. That vessel is filled with a soul. As we go through our lives, we encounter changes in energy, for lack of a better word. We encounter positive and negative energy all the time. Any real encounter, experience, or event in your daily life is bombarding you with this energy. Whether it's a bad phone call or a kiss good morning, this generates energy. When we encounter this energy, we absorb it like a sponge. But wait, we are filled with a soul. It fits snugly, but comfortably within our existence. What happens when you cram more stuff into a space than will comfortably fit? It causes pressure!
This pressure manifests as feelings within us. Now, a lot of people would call these emotions, but I am distinguishing between the two. Feelings are those inner pressures and experiences of holding on to that energy. Emotions are the body's physical outer expressions of those feelings. For example, if it hurts, it's feelings. If it makes you cry, that's emotions. Letting this pressure (feelings) build up inside can be very unhealthy. This can even be true of pressure from positive energy buildup. And a vessel can only hold so much. After a point, something has got to give. Some of it absolutely will come out, one way or another.
People prone to holding in their feelings, not processing things as they go about their day or week, must face the consequences eventually. The pressure built up inside you can only come out through expression. If you consistently only choose emotional expression, it is likely to result in unnecessary physical or mental pain. As an example, a woman I used to work with had a lot of unresolved feelings. She disclosed to me that most nights she would cry intensely until she would finally pass out and sleep through the rest of the night. The crying did offer some form of release, but not without physical pain, headache, bloodshot eyes, etc. expressions of anger and violence can also cause you a great deal of pain. Maybe you'll destroy something you love, say something you didn't mean, or do something that compromises a valued relationship.
Probably some of the healthier forms of expression are discussion, writing, art, and physical activity. I will say that if you are in a relationship, it is very important to process feelings in a healthy way with your partner–not necessarily every time, but regularly. This is especially true when The energy is from a shared experience. Your soul is, in one way or another, entangled with this other person's. What affects you may also affect them. Disregarding this is careless and irresponsible. I recognize that much of this is easier said than done, but it helps to have the model to guide your understanding of what to do and what to work on. My wife and I are definitely the kind of people that hold things in too long. We are working together to overcome that challenge and the reward has been great.
I mentioned earlier that emotional expression can often result in pain or suffering. I want to emphasize that this is not always true, and even when it is, it is not always wrong or unreasonable. Just be aware of that common consequence. In a pinch, it is a really effective way of ripping that energy from you, releasing that pressure. Think of it like surgery for your feelings. It's a crude, but effective way of directly and immediately addressing the issue, but with some side effects. The healthier expressions mentioned earlier are more like physical therapy. They might take more effort, but are preferable if feasible.
One problem that many people experience, to include my wife and I, is that we tend to be a little emotionally suppressed–That is, even when we need to express our emotions, we find it difficult. This is one of the great things about our kinks revolving around sensation (tickling, edging, etc). It is a fun way to force emotions out of each other. It truly feels like a cleanse of the soul. When I have that pressure built up inside, my skin feels itchy or has an almost burning sensation as though the energy is screaming to get out. My wife can force those emotions out easily by tying me to a bed and tickling me senseless, or edging me until I am screaming and crying. It is a beautiful gift we have!
