Can someone please explain to me what's so appealing about staying in a shitty relationship? I mean, I understand that it's not easy to break up, especially under certain circumstances, specifically, having a kid (or kids) together, but seriously, do people assume that they're going to be able to make their child(ren) happy when they're not happy themselves?
I cannot count on one hand the number of friends of mine who are in uber-shitty relationships right now, and almost half of them stay because they have kids (or are about to have a kid). It's a noble thing to try and work it out so that your son or daughter doesn't have to grow up in a "broken home," but it's doomed from the start.
When you tell your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife that you HATE them..you don't care if they DIE...if they CHEAT on you...SPY on you...THREATEN you...where, PLEASE someone show me, where is the love? This crap line you're feeding me and yourselves about "working it out" is exactly that: crap.
It's about time for each and every one of you to man up, stop being scared to stand on your own two feet. Stop thinking that if you stand up to him he'll abandon you and the baby. Stop thinking that if you leave her you'll be an absent father. Guess what, you're only going to be an absent father if you CHOOSE to. And if he's going to abandon you, he's either going to do it now or later, but he's going to do it either way. Why do you people want to wait until these kids are old enough to feel the pain of a divorce or see the absolutely horrible dynamic between his or her parents? Do you really want your kid learning what a relationship is supposed to be like from the relationship you're in now??
I get that it's hard and it's scary, and that sometimes you have no choice but to stick around and get your ducks in a row before you have the means to leave, but for crying out loud why just sit there and let your relationship and your self-esteem deteriorate? Why let your S.O. make you feel like you don't deserve to be happy?
I just don't get it.
I cannot count on one hand the number of friends of mine who are in uber-shitty relationships right now, and almost half of them stay because they have kids (or are about to have a kid). It's a noble thing to try and work it out so that your son or daughter doesn't have to grow up in a "broken home," but it's doomed from the start.
When you tell your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife that you HATE them..you don't care if they DIE...if they CHEAT on you...SPY on you...THREATEN you...where, PLEASE someone show me, where is the love? This crap line you're feeding me and yourselves about "working it out" is exactly that: crap.
It's about time for each and every one of you to man up, stop being scared to stand on your own two feet. Stop thinking that if you stand up to him he'll abandon you and the baby. Stop thinking that if you leave her you'll be an absent father. Guess what, you're only going to be an absent father if you CHOOSE to. And if he's going to abandon you, he's either going to do it now or later, but he's going to do it either way. Why do you people want to wait until these kids are old enough to feel the pain of a divorce or see the absolutely horrible dynamic between his or her parents? Do you really want your kid learning what a relationship is supposed to be like from the relationship you're in now??
I get that it's hard and it's scary, and that sometimes you have no choice but to stick around and get your ducks in a row before you have the means to leave, but for crying out loud why just sit there and let your relationship and your self-esteem deteriorate? Why let your S.O. make you feel like you don't deserve to be happy?
I just don't get it.
