Best posted in the blog, even though I know the potential for a problem exists anyway.
My dad came to visit me for a short time today. We discussed the situation with Barney. He says I'm obsessing over it, and need to find more friends. He's right. He also told me he feels I need to see a shrink. I dont dispute this either.
Then he said something that I didnt understand. First he said "If your life was so busy that you didnt have time to see me, I'd be happy that you were busy" Okay. He then took it a step further by saying "If it was best for your life that we be estranged, I'd understand". He then made plans to have lunch with me on Saturday, and said we will be meeting with the attorney to do my business.
After missing 20 years with him, it's not my goal to be estranged. I get upset with him, and fight with him, and say that if I was on with my own life, I wouldnt see him. Those are just words. Fact is: If my mom was still here to talk to him, she would tell him that I was devestated when he and I were estranged. Life is so short, and hes getting older. I know he isnt going to be around forever.
As much as people thought I was a "Mommas boy" by living with her to an advanced age, there were plenty of times when I was in college that I barely saw her. I'd be at school during the week. Even if I came home on weekends, she would be busy with friends and dates, and I'd be studying, etc. I also spent many weekends at friends houses. Even when I was at my busiest, and we had our worst fights, estrangement never crossed my mind.
I'm hopeful he was just talking. I just wonder why this is.
My dad came to visit me for a short time today. We discussed the situation with Barney. He says I'm obsessing over it, and need to find more friends. He's right. He also told me he feels I need to see a shrink. I dont dispute this either.
Then he said something that I didnt understand. First he said "If your life was so busy that you didnt have time to see me, I'd be happy that you were busy" Okay. He then took it a step further by saying "If it was best for your life that we be estranged, I'd understand". He then made plans to have lunch with me on Saturday, and said we will be meeting with the attorney to do my business.
After missing 20 years with him, it's not my goal to be estranged. I get upset with him, and fight with him, and say that if I was on with my own life, I wouldnt see him. Those are just words. Fact is: If my mom was still here to talk to him, she would tell him that I was devestated when he and I were estranged. Life is so short, and hes getting older. I know he isnt going to be around forever.
As much as people thought I was a "Mommas boy" by living with her to an advanced age, there were plenty of times when I was in college that I barely saw her. I'd be at school during the week. Even if I came home on weekends, she would be busy with friends and dates, and I'd be studying, etc. I also spent many weekends at friends houses. Even when I was at my busiest, and we had our worst fights, estrangement never crossed my mind.
I'm hopeful he was just talking. I just wonder why this is.
