It's probably one of the hardest things to do. To speak up. I know it is for me and it must be for others. Why else would you hesitate to speak up when someone has done something that bothers or upsets you? You don't want to rock the boat? Maybe the person's a friend and you don't want to upset him/her?
Whatever the reasons, sometimes you should speak up. To sit idly by and let something hurt you whether it was intentional or not, it will just build up until it explodes. The explosion will hurt the person you're upset with a lot more than if you had taken them aside the first time and say "Hey, I know you meant (this), but it's bothering me so could you (this)?"
If the person is a friend, then the last thing they'd want to do is hurt you (I know the last thing I'd want to do to a friend is hurt them) so they'll respect your wishes. If it's someone you're posting with and are friendly with, again they'll respect your wishes. If they don't, then you take it to Jeff or Myriads or any of the moderators so they know that a member is harassing you.
I know it's hard to speak up to a friend because you're afraid you'll hurt their feelings, but friends talk about and work through things. No matter what. If you can't, then you probably aren't friends.
To not speak up means whatever someone did may continue to happen, meaning you'll continue to be hurt because that person doesn't know that what they're doing is hurting you. So speak up. 🙂
Whatever the reasons, sometimes you should speak up. To sit idly by and let something hurt you whether it was intentional or not, it will just build up until it explodes. The explosion will hurt the person you're upset with a lot more than if you had taken them aside the first time and say "Hey, I know you meant (this), but it's bothering me so could you (this)?"
If the person is a friend, then the last thing they'd want to do is hurt you (I know the last thing I'd want to do to a friend is hurt them) so they'll respect your wishes. If it's someone you're posting with and are friendly with, again they'll respect your wishes. If they don't, then you take it to Jeff or Myriads or any of the moderators so they know that a member is harassing you.
I know it's hard to speak up to a friend because you're afraid you'll hurt their feelings, but friends talk about and work through things. No matter what. If you can't, then you probably aren't friends.
To not speak up means whatever someone did may continue to happen, meaning you'll continue to be hurt because that person doesn't know that what they're doing is hurting you. So speak up. 🙂
