The Kentuckians Will Be Home On Saturday...

Yeah - it sucks - but it's the world we live in. Unfortunately, it's not going to stop, so the girls just have to learn to not take these fools seriously.

You're right, of course. Given what I've seen, it can get overwhelming. I'll be accused by some of trying to be a white knight, but whatever. A number of people just lack common decency.

Thank you for the compliment, Bella. Wish I didn't even have to blog about it!

Oh yeah... I got lots of experience with this... not personally, mind you, although I was mistaken for a woman once. <_< But yeah... I've heard about crap like this from female friends on the forum, and not only this forum but regular, non-sexual ones too. Sometimes it's really just sick, and the rest of the times it's awkward... I got a few people on here in mind right now, who I think fall into the "creep" category... They piss me off to no end, but luckily they are mostly lurkers and have like 10-20 posts. Once I actually DO see them post though... bloody hell, I avoid the entire thread just because it feels like they have corrupted it with their mere presence.

The thing is that I want to make friends here. Male or female doesn't matter, but half the forum members will act suspicious towards me at first... just because I'm a guy! I mean what the hell? I perfectly understand it, but I hate the fact that it has to be that way! It's obviously worse for the ladies, but this is another side effect that us "good guys" have to deal with practically every day.

I realize there is no real structure to this reply, because I'm basically just ranting right now, but... the worst people are the ones who play the "friend game" for two or three PM's before they turn creepy. They are the ones who REALLY hurt the community; not only do they ruin it for the rest of the male TMF society, but worst of all I believe these are the cases where the ladies actually end up LEAVING the forum... Imagine if you open up to some guy, and he goes stalker on you after finding out your real name and whatnot... I sure as hell would have left if that happened to me, especially if I knew said person still frequented this place.

Wow... If I ever went homicidal and brought out the hatchet, the people I would be targeting would be guys like these. Worst thing is they exist in our everyday lives too, but at least then it is easier to weed them out because they can't hide behind a screen and a bunch of fancy PM's...

I have a LOT to say on this topic, but I'll just stop writing now. My reply will be longer than your entire blog entry if I don't.

Epic response, dude. Thank you for that. You could have made an entire blog of it, yourself. And you're so right. It's the legit guys that suffer as a side effect. There's a shadow of suspicion that automatically gets cast over us because of idiots like them. I'm telling you, start publishing those creepy PMs for the entire forum to see and we'll see a significant downturn in that type of behavior.

Thanks! I bet I probably WILL blog about it at some point.

I'm telling you, start publishing those creepy PMs for the entire forum to see and we'll see a significant downturn in that type of behavior.

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Actually, I am not entirely convinced. Or well it depends on where you out said people. I really, REALLY doubt many of them frequent the General Discussion Forum, for example... Maybe if you started a thread in Tickling Discussion, but being the walking paradox I am I would still just end up asking myself how ethical it is to publish things like that. I know it's stupid, I just don't like the idea of publishing Private Messages for the world to see - no matter what they contain. I guess I might draw parallels to reading other people's letters, which is illegal over here no matter the circumstances...

Oh and the creeps could just create new accounts... I think the best thing would be if people could contact the admins/mods if they received PM's that they were uncomfortable with. The sender would get a warning if the mods deemed it appropriate, and... well, after a certain number of warnings, you put an IP ban on them.

I know you're right, man. I just wish we could figure out the perfect deterrent. Publishing private mail probably isn't the way, but no doubt that this bullshit is a big problem.

Yeah, I also wish there was something we could do... Judging from my walls of text above I think it is quite obvious that I have given this a lot of thought... I still think the best thing would be if the mods could help out. The ladies shouldn't be forced to leave the TMF; the creeps should!

I think the way it is now is very similar to how bullied children are forced to switch schools instead of the bullies, to draw a parallel. It should obviously be the other way around, but for some reason it isn't. 🙁

I think that sometimes, the gals are afraid to go to the mods for help. Maybe I'm wrong but it seems that way at times. That shouldn't be the case. Our mods are pretty good people and will gladly help with issues like that, from what I've seen.

True... I mean they are mods for a reason after all. I shall be honest with you though, I don't know our mods that well... I'm still a bit of a newbie around here, lol. Do we have enough active FEMALE mods? It might be easier for a burnt girl to approach one of them perhaps, I don't know...

Mistress Aura and BellaRisa immediately spring to mind. They're both very approachable from what I gather, too. Seriously ladies, if you have an issue, don't hesitate.

As a female friend pointed out to me once, most of them KNOW they're making the females uncomfortable by posting creepy shit in their in-boxes. It's that act in itself which turns them on. That's how they get their rocks off. It's sad and pervy but these are people who're most likely lashing out in sexual frustration online because they can't even muster a "Hello" in real life due to being socially awkward.

And as far as asking for a session immediately at a gathering, wow. Seriously, just wow. I wasn't even aware that happens. I think one of the best responses to any of these creepy session asking PM's is simply to reply back with a giant bold, BWAHAHAHAHA!!

How were you all raised people? How? Do you really expect something like that to work? Do you really expect some female worth a damn to respond to that how you're hoping she will? If you do, then you fully deserve getting the same end-result you've probably been getting all your life both online and off: Remaining alone and single.

As far as all the "Nice Guys" getting a bad rap because of the pervs, whatev. I've never been a perv and/or creepy to anyone here so if I say hi to a female and she doesn't respond because she automatically assumes I'm gonna follow up with something like, "Show me ur feetz lol!!!!111" based on someone else prior to my introduction who has nothing to do with me then that ain't my problem. And why would I want anything to do with someone who judges everyone who comes after everyone who came before in the first place?

Good points, Marquis. It really is sad that there are those types that are actually turned on by being filthy. Really fucking sad. As far as the nice guys getting a bad rep, I think I would have worded it differently if I had to do it over again. We are approached with trepidation due to prior bad experiences. Of course, it's natural to approach anyone with a little bit of doubt at first, but I feel that the actions of a few bad apples do prolong the warming up process.

True. But...I dunno. Yeah, I guess it does suck a little. I've said hi a few times and not gotten a response back but...I dunno. I don't invest that much time into it unless I think someone is REALLY cool. Then I start to wonder if it was something I said. *shrugs*

Spot on Adam 🙂

Its a shame that some guys on here just think the women are game meat for tickle play but for a lot of us its a sexual thing as well as fun so, of course, a lot of woman are not gonna just jump up on a bed and be restrained by a complete stranger, giving her body and trust to someone she doesn't know, duh!

Get over it dudes and learn some manners first.

LeeLee

You guys rock. Thank you all for the nice input. It's especially nice to hear from the ladies that have experienced this type of thing firsthand. For some, it's daily. I can't even imagine what it must be like to log in everyday and expect to get an offensive PM. For those it doesn't happen to all that much, I'd say you're lucky, but still shouldn't have to put up with it regardless.