I'm going to post this in the blog, but I'm aware I might get the predictable replies here.
My father is a biggest hypocrite on the face of the planet. For all his carrying on that "Your mother treated you like a child", the reality is.. its HIM who treats me like a child.
Even if I'm able to get the business started, I'm going to have to look for a part time job to make some money. I dont have a strong resume, of course. Some months ago, he had suggested I go into the Forest Hills Jewish Center. I went there, to the jewelry store I sold all my mom's jewelry to.. and several other places, and found nothing.
My friends told me that their experience is that someone without a strong resume is best off getting a job through a contact, etc.
Recently, my father came up with the idea that I should "Go door to door looking for jobs". (No doubt probably a suggestion from my prick uncle, as my dad has no mind of his own). My aunts and my friend Adam were against this idea, feeling I'm not a 16 year old kid anymore, annd that doing such would be humiliating., I wanted to be agreeable. I gently said to my dad something along the lines of "I'll try, but I've already been down that road, and found nothing, and I dont think they are looking to hire a 43 year old with a weak resume. I had suggested again maybe looking on Craiglist, with a temp agency, etc. He flew off the handle at me, telling me "Not to listen to people who dont know" (Like he does).
I've attempted to do it "All his way" this whole year, putting up with abuse from him and his family, and asking him for nothing. Once I cant even have a difference of opinion with him, without getting attacked, thats a real problem.
I know what the replies will be "Dont take his money, and cut bait". I'd love to, but that isnt realistic.
I seriously think what this all is about is he finally gets to act out 43 years of anger with me, to do it all his way or else, because he knows I need him for the apartment. Had I known this, I should have prepared myself by staying in Lancaster, taking a roommate into my apartment, and trying to find a job there. Now that option isnt available.
unclebill can say that my father isnt ready to commit to a business because my father doesnt think I'm ready. Its more than that. If I become successful at a business, he loses control, and cant control me.
Today (March 5) is exactly one year that I'm living alone.
What I plan to do now is to give my father rope to hang himself. I'm going to try his way of going door to door (likely to no avail) give him until Passover to take me into the lawyer for the biz, and then if not, explode at him and refuse to go to the family Passover gathering.
I view my father as a boss, not a father. I've tried extremely hard this year to forgive both him and his family for their horrible treatment of me. Its been a year of him and his family raking my mom over the coals, being abusive to me, and basically acting just horrid. What I dont get about the SOB's anger is that he WON THE WAR. He left my mom in bad shape financially after the divorce, went on with his life with another woman, lived a lavish life,. and then got me back his way after my mom suffered and died of the worst disease. Yet, hes still carrying on. For those who dont know, and think he';s so perfect, and that all of this is my fault, he has antagonized every business person hes ever worked with.
I have no choice but to play this out. I see no good coming of this, no matter what I try to do to please him.
My father is a biggest hypocrite on the face of the planet. For all his carrying on that "Your mother treated you like a child", the reality is.. its HIM who treats me like a child.
Even if I'm able to get the business started, I'm going to have to look for a part time job to make some money. I dont have a strong resume, of course. Some months ago, he had suggested I go into the Forest Hills Jewish Center. I went there, to the jewelry store I sold all my mom's jewelry to.. and several other places, and found nothing.
My friends told me that their experience is that someone without a strong resume is best off getting a job through a contact, etc.
Recently, my father came up with the idea that I should "Go door to door looking for jobs". (No doubt probably a suggestion from my prick uncle, as my dad has no mind of his own). My aunts and my friend Adam were against this idea, feeling I'm not a 16 year old kid anymore, annd that doing such would be humiliating., I wanted to be agreeable. I gently said to my dad something along the lines of "I'll try, but I've already been down that road, and found nothing, and I dont think they are looking to hire a 43 year old with a weak resume. I had suggested again maybe looking on Craiglist, with a temp agency, etc. He flew off the handle at me, telling me "Not to listen to people who dont know" (Like he does).
I've attempted to do it "All his way" this whole year, putting up with abuse from him and his family, and asking him for nothing. Once I cant even have a difference of opinion with him, without getting attacked, thats a real problem.
I know what the replies will be "Dont take his money, and cut bait". I'd love to, but that isnt realistic.
I seriously think what this all is about is he finally gets to act out 43 years of anger with me, to do it all his way or else, because he knows I need him for the apartment. Had I known this, I should have prepared myself by staying in Lancaster, taking a roommate into my apartment, and trying to find a job there. Now that option isnt available.
unclebill can say that my father isnt ready to commit to a business because my father doesnt think I'm ready. Its more than that. If I become successful at a business, he loses control, and cant control me.
Today (March 5) is exactly one year that I'm living alone.
What I plan to do now is to give my father rope to hang himself. I'm going to try his way of going door to door (likely to no avail) give him until Passover to take me into the lawyer for the biz, and then if not, explode at him and refuse to go to the family Passover gathering.
I view my father as a boss, not a father. I've tried extremely hard this year to forgive both him and his family for their horrible treatment of me. Its been a year of him and his family raking my mom over the coals, being abusive to me, and basically acting just horrid. What I dont get about the SOB's anger is that he WON THE WAR. He left my mom in bad shape financially after the divorce, went on with his life with another woman, lived a lavish life,. and then got me back his way after my mom suffered and died of the worst disease. Yet, hes still carrying on. For those who dont know, and think he';s so perfect, and that all of this is my fault, he has antagonized every business person hes ever worked with.
I have no choice but to play this out. I see no good coming of this, no matter what I try to do to please him.
