After events of recent days, I was expecting tonight's dinner to be awful. It was anything but.
I found out that the reason my father didn't email me for three days, is that my email to him pissed him off, and he didn't want to start more fights.
Tonight's dinner was not a "You bum lazy son take any job you can get", even though he said he would have if he felt that way. It was more a "I'm pissed off at you because you're vegetating in the house, and you haven't followed through with the passport to get your license. I don't think he fully understands about my uncle, but he said that's not an issue. He keeps telling me I went "over and above" for my mom, but he doesn't understand that either. He agreed to go to the headstone company, and said he would take me to the cemetery if I need to cry over my mom's grave. He said he knows the business setbacks are frustrating, but that I have to keep plugging.
I cant say hes wrong, and his presentation wasn't admonishing, or a putdown, which was helpful.
So, tomorrow, the passport, and then hopefully Wednesday, to the city to get the ID.
He did say that he s been asking around for someone to help with a part time job, but nothing yet.
I'm going to have to snap out of this doldrums. I do feel better/ Hopefully, that will continue.
I found out that the reason my father didn't email me for three days, is that my email to him pissed him off, and he didn't want to start more fights.
Tonight's dinner was not a "You bum lazy son take any job you can get", even though he said he would have if he felt that way. It was more a "I'm pissed off at you because you're vegetating in the house, and you haven't followed through with the passport to get your license. I don't think he fully understands about my uncle, but he said that's not an issue. He keeps telling me I went "over and above" for my mom, but he doesn't understand that either. He agreed to go to the headstone company, and said he would take me to the cemetery if I need to cry over my mom's grave. He said he knows the business setbacks are frustrating, but that I have to keep plugging.
I cant say hes wrong, and his presentation wasn't admonishing, or a putdown, which was helpful.
So, tomorrow, the passport, and then hopefully Wednesday, to the city to get the ID.
He did say that he s been asking around for someone to help with a part time job, but nothing yet.
I'm going to have to snap out of this doldrums. I do feel better/ Hopefully, that will continue.
