Tonight, I found out the real reason that Barney has been avoiding me, and I felt very sad.
Barney says he has been avoiding me because of my temper. I do admit to throwing him out of my apartment last Saturday night. That was after he refused to tell me why he has been avoiding me.
I apologized to him, and he said he accepted. We have plans to go to dinner this Saturday night. That makes me happy. Just like old times.
I don't remember if I posted that my dad told me in an email this past week, that he has been avoiding me for the very same reason, because of my temper, and he feels that I attack him. I told my dad about my conversation with Barney tonight, and also apologized to my dad. My dad accepted, but he also said that its more important that I understand this, and improve it, for my own life, and not because of him. I'm supposed to see my dad,.,. I think/hope later this week too.
I think, and I'm not justifying, because I used to do this with my mom too.
Sometimes, if your best friend, someone in your own generation, who you have known for a long time, says something.. you tend to listen more.. because when a parent says it, you feel they are just saying it to be opinionated. Everyone on this forum who knows me, knows how much I loved my mom. Yet, a lot of times when she told me something, whether about my dad, my ex best friend, something on the forum, etc etc, I would simply ignore her, and do whatever I wanted to anyway. I'm very, very bad at taking advice when it comes to my personal life. I always listen carefully at work, because of concern of getting in trouble with my supervisor, getting fired, etc. In personal relationships, I'm not good at taking advice.
Sigh! Hopefully all of this with my dad and Barney will calm down, and get back to normal, so I can just get back to work.
Barney says he has been avoiding me because of my temper. I do admit to throwing him out of my apartment last Saturday night. That was after he refused to tell me why he has been avoiding me.
I apologized to him, and he said he accepted. We have plans to go to dinner this Saturday night. That makes me happy. Just like old times.
I don't remember if I posted that my dad told me in an email this past week, that he has been avoiding me for the very same reason, because of my temper, and he feels that I attack him. I told my dad about my conversation with Barney tonight, and also apologized to my dad. My dad accepted, but he also said that its more important that I understand this, and improve it, for my own life, and not because of him. I'm supposed to see my dad,.,. I think/hope later this week too.
I think, and I'm not justifying, because I used to do this with my mom too.
Sometimes, if your best friend, someone in your own generation, who you have known for a long time, says something.. you tend to listen more.. because when a parent says it, you feel they are just saying it to be opinionated. Everyone on this forum who knows me, knows how much I loved my mom. Yet, a lot of times when she told me something, whether about my dad, my ex best friend, something on the forum, etc etc, I would simply ignore her, and do whatever I wanted to anyway. I'm very, very bad at taking advice when it comes to my personal life. I always listen carefully at work, because of concern of getting in trouble with my supervisor, getting fired, etc. In personal relationships, I'm not good at taking advice.
Sigh! Hopefully all of this with my dad and Barney will calm down, and get back to normal, so I can just get back to work.
