This is an opinion piece - please note subject matter involves the DDLG branch of BDSM and if this content matter is not your cup if tea - please move along to another post 🙂
Noîhing makes me less impressed or less comfortable than someone who just starts referring to themselves as Daddy.
A Daddy is not just a title we throw around. It MEANS something. It means you are responsible for the person you are a Daddy to.
It's a part of a relationship dynamic which is agreed to between two people - not just something you automatically get to be because the person you are talking to is a little.
Like, can you imagine if people started referring to themselves as your boyfriend/girlfriend just because you were single? I mean, it's the same thing.
You are not automatically anything, especially not something as big and important as a Daddy.
And further to this - You demonstrating ignorance to the significance of the Daddy title is the quickest way to prove yourself a poor candidate.
I can’t be safe with a DaddyDom who doesn’t respect that their position is a gift, not a given.
When a daddy/mommy starts using terms out of the blue it is a red flag they do not and will not respect you or your well being, they are only talking to you for there own needs. I not calling you Daddy until we've talked for a while and it's officially been discussed. Much like having a discussion about whether you're someone's boyfriend/girlfriend.
When flirting/RP I will more comfortably refer to someone as Sir. I feel this is a polite acknowledgment that they are Dom, however it's not automatically granted. Perhaps someone is wanting to RP the DDLG dynamic, and if this is the case - I feel like it should be specified as such - a role-play. So, like any role-play, it's an activity that two people are a part of, and both players should be comfortable.
I am a little though, this is NOT a role-play for me. This is a 24/7 part of my identity and part of who I am. I don't need to role-play as myself... and while I might be comfortable roleplaying in a DDLG storyline, it would be something I would hope is discussed prior to the interaction.
Noîhing makes me less impressed or less comfortable than someone who just starts referring to themselves as Daddy.
A Daddy is not just a title we throw around. It MEANS something. It means you are responsible for the person you are a Daddy to.
It's a part of a relationship dynamic which is agreed to between two people - not just something you automatically get to be because the person you are talking to is a little.
Like, can you imagine if people started referring to themselves as your boyfriend/girlfriend just because you were single? I mean, it's the same thing.
You are not automatically anything, especially not something as big and important as a Daddy.
And further to this - You demonstrating ignorance to the significance of the Daddy title is the quickest way to prove yourself a poor candidate.
I can’t be safe with a DaddyDom who doesn’t respect that their position is a gift, not a given.
When a daddy/mommy starts using terms out of the blue it is a red flag they do not and will not respect you or your well being, they are only talking to you for there own needs. I not calling you Daddy until we've talked for a while and it's officially been discussed. Much like having a discussion about whether you're someone's boyfriend/girlfriend.
When flirting/RP I will more comfortably refer to someone as Sir. I feel this is a polite acknowledgment that they are Dom, however it's not automatically granted. Perhaps someone is wanting to RP the DDLG dynamic, and if this is the case - I feel like it should be specified as such - a role-play. So, like any role-play, it's an activity that two people are a part of, and both players should be comfortable.
I am a little though, this is NOT a role-play for me. This is a 24/7 part of my identity and part of who I am. I don't need to role-play as myself... and while I might be comfortable roleplaying in a DDLG storyline, it would be something I would hope is discussed prior to the interaction.
