I've been doing a lot of thinking since the thread that turned into a disgrace about my leaving Aflac was finally closed.. and some things came to me.
I suppose.. I had hoped.. that since people I've known on this forum for.. 12 years.. saw how diligently I worked to pass the insurance exam, and at Aflac.. they might.. understand.. just how difficult having to leave Aflac was to me. Sometimes.. a few supportive words goes a long way.
I did get a few supportive words.. from a few people.. but.. some of the replies were positively disgraceful.
CHICAGO (Typing her "Name" in capital letters to show I get it". "Suck it up, cupcake". Extremely intelligent, and civilized on her part.
Libertine: An attacking breakdown of how I live my life, and how I should/must live my life, like he's the maven on how to live life. He is GOD .
coldneck: The same attacking, disgraceful behavior he';s shown in all his posts to me.
There were a few others, but it's late, and I cant remember them all. Those were the main culprits.
In my real life.. not one person, except for.. ironically my friends,. and now former co workers in the company I just left, said anything kind.,. supportive.. or helpful.
My father: "Its disappointing". And "People do what they have to do". Then proceeded to leave for FL for the weekend, to, it dawned on me, probably rent his winter home. The SOB didn't say to me : "Gee, Mitch, I feel really badly for you that Aflac didn't work out for you, I know how hard you worked, and.. if you want to discuss your next career move with me, I';m here to do that with you". I don't mean, people, mavens of the world. That I wanted him to say "I'm here to pay for you for the rest of your life". On the contrary.. I wanted.. ADVICE from a parent.. of what he thinks is a feasible career move to do next.
My "Friend" Barney, who lives, right across the parking lot from me.. Went to see his friend Paul..., for the weekend. without offering me.. one hour.. of discussion, or support, etc./ As long as I've been there to support Barney.. all the times that he's been fired. Which,. as I stated previously, was many times.
My friend Adam.. Nice guy, but.. has time to see his friend Peter two weekends in a row, and no time to see Mitch.. at a really bad time in Mitch's life.
My speech therapist, and nominally, my aunt the artist were the ONLY ones.. who have offered me support during the difficult week that I was forced to leave Aflac.
IF the right people in my real life.. had been there for me.. and done what they were supposed to.. I would not have posted that thread in the forum.
My father wants me to be the pillar of understanding to him, when he expresses frustration about his work, his life, relatives that I loved and he hated, who have been dead for years, and decades,. and yet... he couldn't offer a real supportive word (I don't mean money, maven CHICAGO) to his son, at the most difficult time of his son's life, since his son's mother died.
Basically, after the disgraceful replies to that thread.. and how it was allowed to carry on before being finally closed.. I SHOULD take at least a long hiatus from the forum.
Something is preventing me from leaving. I don't know what... I don't know WHY, and that bothers ne, because, as I've posted before, if one doesn't know why, they don't know anything, as a professor of mine told the class years ago.
The only thing I can do, if I choose to stay.. is to post absolutely no information, certainly not in the main forum, good or bad.. so that the attack dogs who so viciously jumped all over me in that thread, will have no information with which to attack.
Also: I've learned in life, that it's never good to be insensitive or attack someone, in their time of need, because, one never knows when they might need to talk to someone, or vent. I can assure, that if any of the people who so viciously attacked and judged me in that thread.. have difficult times, and need to vent.. they will be receiving a deaf ear and no support from me.
Those people's actions, and the fact that it wasn't sanctioned, and those people weren't held accountable, under this "Golden Rule" were far more disgraceful, than the thing itself that Mitch posted, about losing his position at Aflac. That could have been dealt with simply, either with supportive words.. or following the Golden Rule, saying nothing at all if you have nothing nice to say. Those people couldn't do that. They saw an opening to launch irrational vicious attacks, to make the thread worse than the topic itself. I can guarantee that wont be happening again. I wont give such information as fuel for those trolls to do something like that again.
I suppose.. I had hoped.. that since people I've known on this forum for.. 12 years.. saw how diligently I worked to pass the insurance exam, and at Aflac.. they might.. understand.. just how difficult having to leave Aflac was to me. Sometimes.. a few supportive words goes a long way.
I did get a few supportive words.. from a few people.. but.. some of the replies were positively disgraceful.
CHICAGO (Typing her "Name" in capital letters to show I get it". "Suck it up, cupcake". Extremely intelligent, and civilized on her part.
Libertine: An attacking breakdown of how I live my life, and how I should/must live my life, like he's the maven on how to live life. He is GOD .
coldneck: The same attacking, disgraceful behavior he';s shown in all his posts to me.
There were a few others, but it's late, and I cant remember them all. Those were the main culprits.
In my real life.. not one person, except for.. ironically my friends,. and now former co workers in the company I just left, said anything kind.,. supportive.. or helpful.
My father: "Its disappointing". And "People do what they have to do". Then proceeded to leave for FL for the weekend, to, it dawned on me, probably rent his winter home. The SOB didn't say to me : "Gee, Mitch, I feel really badly for you that Aflac didn't work out for you, I know how hard you worked, and.. if you want to discuss your next career move with me, I';m here to do that with you". I don't mean, people, mavens of the world. That I wanted him to say "I'm here to pay for you for the rest of your life". On the contrary.. I wanted.. ADVICE from a parent.. of what he thinks is a feasible career move to do next.
My "Friend" Barney, who lives, right across the parking lot from me.. Went to see his friend Paul..., for the weekend. without offering me.. one hour.. of discussion, or support, etc./ As long as I've been there to support Barney.. all the times that he's been fired. Which,. as I stated previously, was many times.
My friend Adam.. Nice guy, but.. has time to see his friend Peter two weekends in a row, and no time to see Mitch.. at a really bad time in Mitch's life.
My speech therapist, and nominally, my aunt the artist were the ONLY ones.. who have offered me support during the difficult week that I was forced to leave Aflac.
IF the right people in my real life.. had been there for me.. and done what they were supposed to.. I would not have posted that thread in the forum.
My father wants me to be the pillar of understanding to him, when he expresses frustration about his work, his life, relatives that I loved and he hated, who have been dead for years, and decades,. and yet... he couldn't offer a real supportive word (I don't mean money, maven CHICAGO) to his son, at the most difficult time of his son's life, since his son's mother died.
Basically, after the disgraceful replies to that thread.. and how it was allowed to carry on before being finally closed.. I SHOULD take at least a long hiatus from the forum.
Something is preventing me from leaving. I don't know what... I don't know WHY, and that bothers ne, because, as I've posted before, if one doesn't know why, they don't know anything, as a professor of mine told the class years ago.
The only thing I can do, if I choose to stay.. is to post absolutely no information, certainly not in the main forum, good or bad.. so that the attack dogs who so viciously jumped all over me in that thread, will have no information with which to attack.
Also: I've learned in life, that it's never good to be insensitive or attack someone, in their time of need, because, one never knows when they might need to talk to someone, or vent. I can assure, that if any of the people who so viciously attacked and judged me in that thread.. have difficult times, and need to vent.. they will be receiving a deaf ear and no support from me.
Those people's actions, and the fact that it wasn't sanctioned, and those people weren't held accountable, under this "Golden Rule" were far more disgraceful, than the thing itself that Mitch posted, about losing his position at Aflac. That could have been dealt with simply, either with supportive words.. or following the Golden Rule, saying nothing at all if you have nothing nice to say. Those people couldn't do that. They saw an opening to launch irrational vicious attacks, to make the thread worse than the topic itself. I can guarantee that wont be happening again. I wont give such information as fuel for those trolls to do something like that again.
