On behalf of the sensible people on this forum I want to applaud your efforts. From the opposite end of the spectrum, off putting remarks and comments are what whittle down our determination and suddenly we feel as though there's a vendetta against us because a certain text triggered its recipient.
Suddenly we find ourselves skating on thin ice with hot blades, pensive and uninspired which can lead to a dull and flat conversation that dances around whats in the back of our minds because the word literally litters the page as we shift our eyes about the corners of our computer screens. Too afraid to elevate the conversation we go in circles, which to some is as equally unappealing.
Or, you could try to get to know someone before "elevating" the conversation to your particular agenda.