Advice for finding people?

[kalaxa]

I've been looking for a while now for a female around my area who likes tickling like I do. I don't know if its simply a numbers problem. Any time a female makes a post on a site like this they get a far number of responses. Far more than your average guy asking. I'm not saying that men never get responded too but what would be the optimal way. Random messages don't seem to be very well liked and making posts in the person sections are too often ignored. Yet I can't think of too many other ways to talk to people.

 

[Whoviantrekkie]

Yeah it can definitely be really hard. Its still hard for me. Although I think maybe you're approaching it the wrong way. Honestly I think its more about putting yourself out there. Make random posts in the general section. Stuff that interests you. Make yourself more accessible and maybe someone out there will want to get to know you better. Whether they are male or female its all luck of the draw really. But if you keep working at it you may find someone.

 

[Lao]

Also, keep in mind that there are more than a few morally-bankrupt pervs who ruin it for the rest of us. It is not unheard of for women on these forums to receive very disgusting messages. Also, I'm pretty certain that most members are male.

Your best bet is to show up where people are talking and gathering, strike up a conversation, and then let your winning personality do the rest.

As for women near you: this really is a numbers problem. There are a lot of us here, but much fewer of us compared to the general public. That being said, you don't need to find someone who is into tickling to fall in love. Just make sure you find someone who is willing to play with you because they love you. Hell, my girlfriend is neither into tickling, nor is she all that ticklish herself. Instead, she and I enjoy tickling other girls together. She knows that my heart belongs only to her, but tickling is something really important to me.

 

[kis123]

Well from the female's POV;

You've been a member almost a year yet only have 9 posts.....exactly what is your objective? The men who have successful times here are the ones who post and participate regularly. I've had "morally bankrupt pervs" drop in my PM box, and I've had some really nice guys drop in there too.

I like to know how a man thinks so I read his posts to see where his head is. If one doesn't have a lot of posts (or maybe a few more than nine) it's hard for me to figure if he's here to hang out or is he just here for the free clips and to hit on any woman that'll let him. I'm not trying to accuse of you such and hope you don't take it that way. My real hope is that you put yourself out there a little more and let people get to know you better. The results may surprise you.......

 

[atitudeadjuster]

My advice (and feel free to ignore it): Stop focusing on looking for a woman who likes tickling like you do and start focusing on looking for women who you click with. Go out and socialise, join interest groups, sports groups, book clubs, what ever you enjoy. The more you get out there the more chance you have of meeting someone (it might be a cliche but it works).

I know its unlikely that you'll meet a woman with a tickling fetish but so what? You'll have a good chance of meeting someone who likes you and is willing to explore tickling. Unless someone has a real dislike of it (and if that's a red flag for you, don't go any further with them) I think most people are happy to indulge their lovers with tickling, and some even get really in to it

In the two relationships I've had in which tickling was a big, big thing I was the only one with a the fetish for it, but both of them ended up loving it. Tickling is fun! Its not like people without a fetish don't do it anyway.

You may have to adjust your expectations and take it slow with them and not freak them right at first with the more hardcore side of it. But this is all something you might have to do anyway if you do meet someone who has the same fetish because it's still quite likely they'll have different needs and wants to you.

(This is all assuming you aren't already in a relationship, are looking for one and not just a play partner/tickle toy, in which case, some or all of the above might not apply).

 

[FeatherQuill]

I'm still looking for someone too so I can't really give any new advice, but I can pass on some of the great advice that was given to me. One of the things that was stressed to me is one of the keys to meeting someone is to like yourself first. If you like who you are and what you do and know that you're awesome, you'll have a much better chance of finding someone else who does too. If you don't think you're awesome, then who else will? It falls right in there with being confident and giving off a positive aura. I'm not sure how it works but I've noticed, and have been told, that women can tell when you're desperate or needy or depressed (the last one is pretty easy though) so if you're confident about yourself women will be more inclined to talk to you. From then on it's up to you and your charming personality.

I also agree with what Atitudeadjuster said: go out and socialize. I just got back from a convention today and while I didn't find "her" I did talk with several women and had great conversations with all of them. Nothing came from it and tickling was never mentioned but I found by feeling good about myself the conversations kept going longer than I thought they would and they actually wanted to talk to me. All in all it was great practice and I'm going to try again at the next event I choose to go to. Practice makes perfect and I know one day I will find her; when and where it will be who knows but I will find her. You will find yours too.

 

[GQguy]

Solid advice right here:

My advice (and feel free to ignore it): Stop focusing on looking for a woman who likes tickling like you do and start focusing on looking for women who you click with. Go out and socialise, join interest groups, sports groups, book clubs, what ever you enjoy. The more you get out there the more chance you have of meeting someone (it might be a cliche but it works).

I know its unlikely that you'll meet a woman with a tickling fetish but so what? You'll have a good chance of meeting someone who likes you and is willing to explore tickling. Unless someone has a real dislike of it (and if that's a red flag for you, don't go any further with them) I think most people are happy to indulge their lovers with tickling, and some even get really in to it

In the two relationships I've had in which tickling was a big, big thing I was the only one with a the fetish for it, but both of them ended up loving it. Tickling is fun! Its not like people without a fetish don't do it anyway.

You may have to adjust your expectations and take it slow with them and not freak them right at first with the more hardcore side of it. But this is all something you might have to do anyway if you do meet someone who has the same fetish because it's still quite likely they'll have different needs and wants to you.

(This is all assuming you aren't already in a relationship, are looking for one and not just a play partner/tickle toy, in which case, some or all of the above might not apply).

Get out there and date. Tickle your dates....see how they respond. I haven't met any women that LOVED to be tickled....I haven't met any that absolutely HATED to be tickled....but all of them loved that I was attracted to them and expressed it...even if it was through tickling. Don't use this site as match.com.....you have the worst odds. Use the site as a place to meet like minded people. Get out there and date....can't stress that enough.

 

[phillysports]

I have found 2 females within a few blocks from each other through Facebook. The one let me tickle her for an hour and the other wants to get her girlfriend involved. It all depends on the female and if its something they like. Some female friends just dont want to be bothered.

 

[voided9]

GQguy and atitudeadjuster got it right. Hope it works out for you!

 

[C.A.B.]

s'wat happens when you read a header too fast, thought this thread said "Advice for fingering people?"