I've been letting my girlfriend tie me up and tickle me lately. It was my idea and she's willing.
Yesterday, she was smothering me with her big boobs while she tickled me and I felt like I was going to black out.
I got a little scared, and I couldn't say anything to get her to sit up and stop the smothering.
Now, I'm afraid to let her tie me up again.
I don't want to say anything about it to her. I don't want her to know that she scared me.
You're not being a very communicative partner if you keep her in the dark about such things. She's obviously wanting to please you. What a great wife!
It's up to you to tell her these things. No one is a mind reader. Woulden't you want her to tell you if the she had been in your place... and you accidentally smothered (or intentionally) smothered her past her comfort levels? I would think you would...?
If you don't... she might do it again. Because she won't ever know or suspect what happened previously. Then at that point who's fault is it if it keeps happening? You are not coming from a place of intending to slight her or dismiss the session altogether. What you are doing is ensuring that as your Ler... she stay mindful that that particular moment genuinely scared you... and discuss what preventive measures you both can take to avoid that happening again. My Bf and I have played with tickling and breath play combinations... he ALWAYS checked in on me during them. Multiple times, each session. Accidental or intentional... that's too serious of an issue to set aside and not bring up. So... it is of the utmost importance you express this issue. I mean... you DO want to play again correct? While it may take you time to play again... you still need to tell her. And don't wait... There's nothing worse then keeping something to yourself like that. And hitting them one day out of the blue with it. Thats a real scenario. Esp if it would happen again. And then... you might come at her with anger. Which at that time... is not right. fear... anger... builds up over time... and sets the stage for intense conflict. All of that can be avoided if you tell her.
Now... if she say is offended by what you tell her.. Then that is a seperate issue and you can bring that up here to discuss. But... when people love each other... they listen and try to ensure they play safely together from there on out. I mean... I don't know her or her reactions to things that may put her on the defensive. So... I have to assume she's being good to you... supportive. And loves you enough to hear what you have to say. And abide that that was a moment she would not wish to repeat. Because she loves you and cares about your comfort levels.
I mean... once I pushed past my bf's comfort levels...I should have known better. But... out of horniess I pushed them anyway. Once in 8 1/2 years. ONLY ONCE. Man... I had to take two hours of a verbal dressing down. That wasn't fun for me and I was at first defensive. But... I came around to see his point. Because I love him. And I haven't repeated it since. If its a big deal for him... it now HAS to be a big deal for me. And thats as simple a way as I can put it.
While it true sometimes it's hard for people to take what could be misconstrued as criticism... even most hardcore sadists will be the first one to tell you that a persons comfort levels have to be respected if play if to continue.
One bad moment for 10,000 more good ones seems like quite a fair trade if you ask me. Don't overthink this...