Hi,
I am a female switch in Eau Claire WI. I have been active in the community since July 2020. I do prefer to lee but also will ler if the play partner wants to lee. I have had play sessions with 258girl and Drebin along with LDarkhart if you want local references along with LanceBJohnson from MN. I have talked with many more members here in private messages, kik, facebook messenger, fetlife, and discord.
I'm always looking for new friends and if they want to be play partners all the better
I have found so many good friends in the community. Some I have met in person others just talked to online.
I'm sorry you have had some bad experiences but I hope you find there are a lot of good lers/lees/and switches out here. I have gotten into a couple tight spots with new play partners so I completely understand where you are coming from. When I meet with new play partners I let you set the pace as to how the session goes if you are lee and I will stay within the boundaries you set. I also make sure the people I play with are comfortable with me first before proceeding. 258girl was my savior a couple times with lers I should not have met with and taught me a lot of things I didn't know when I first started having sessions.
I would be interested in chatting with you more on discord if you want. My discord username is the same as here plphpet. You can contact me there anytime or if you want to send me your username I will contact you. I do have a reddit account but right now I can't get it to log in.
Before I play with any new play partner I like to meet and talk in person first.
I will travel to you if you feel more comfortable with that, or we can meet half way if you prefer. But this will only be after we talk in messages for a while, and you feel comfortable enough to meet.
Like Dark said it's hard to find female members in WI there aren't many of us, I know of one other still in WI and I'm not sure she is meeting with people yet.
I hope to hear from you soon.
Plphpet