or is it just me..this fetish hasnt allowed me to have a normal sex life and now im pushing 25 and dont know how to please a girl because all i want to do is tickle her..i dont even care about sex and its ruined all my relationships and seemingly tough to shake? anyone else have this problem, or maybe im just a little too infatuated with tickling? PLEASE HELP ME
First and foremost, let me say that I am not a licensed therapist or psychologist and in no way should this be substituted for professional advice.
With that said, there is a POSSIBLE way to get rid of your fetish permanently. Do a search on google for "aversion therapy" or "reparative therapy". Granted, it mainly applies to homosexuals, but the therapy can also apply to those who want to rid themselves of a particular paraphelia (fetish).
The reason why I know this is because I once sought it out, knew what was involved, but did so because I felt like I was some sort of "pervert" or "freak" and I wanted to be like the "average person in everyday society".
The therapist first asked me if my fetish caused me any distress. I said yes. They wanted me to explain it detail. My reasoning is different from yours, but when they heard that I was tired of being judged by others and wanted to be "like them", they pretty much told me that I needed to forget about it, resign myself to the fact that this is who I am, and that my issue was more about self esteem/self confidence than anything else, and that those other people who thought that way were obviously not meant for me to be around, nor should I try to prove them wrong or try to be accpeted by them.
If you are still reading, this is what aversion or reperative therapy involves. They put you into a room and adminster a drug to you that causes violent vomiting. They put in an x-rated video that is related to your fetish, where you watch it and soon become ill and puke your guts out.
But that's not all. Once you pass that phase, there is another one. The next one involves electric shocks.
They put a catheter up inside your penis that measures the blood flow and temperature. The more blood that circulates to your penis, the higher the temperature gets. The higher the temperature gets, the more aroused you get, which is how they can tell if you are being truthful with them when you give them the answers they are looking for.
They will ask you after a certain scene, from a 1 to 10 scale, 1 being no stimulus at all, with 10 being as turned out as you could possibly get, how turned on were you. The higher the number, the more volts you get. So if you tell them 10, they will crank it up all the way, and administer the maximum amount of electricity to your private area.
The idea is to condition you were you no longer see tickling as a turn on (positive stimulus). They are trying to attempt to get you to associate your fetish (tickling) with pain (a negative stimulus).
And even if you were approved for such treatment, there is NO 100% GUARANTEE that you will be "cured". Some people end up in worse shape before they went in (i.e. traumatized from the experience, an even lower self esteem/self confidence than before they entered treatment, mainly because they blame themselves, thinking they failed somewhere because the treatment didn't work for them, they wind up confused as to how they should really feel inside, and so on).
Personally, I do not recommend it. I think you need to resign yourself to the fact that this is who you are, accept that fact, embrace it, and realize that somewhere in this world, there is some lady out there who shares the same thing as you do, and would love to be with you.