Ever had casual sex?

[Angel77]

No biggie if someone bumps an older thread, in my opinion. Some folks, such as myself, may have not seen it before and after a while, so many threads seem to be duplicates of another so yeah, even if it's an older thread, at least it's something different.

Oh and no, I've never had casual sex.

 

[Bothersome]

Necrothreadia is possibly my biggest pet peeve. If it's one-two years, it's not a big deal. This thread was dead for five years.

 

[maniactickler]

Necrothreadia is possibly my biggest pet peeve. If it's one-two years, it's not a big deal. This thread was dead for five years.

I agree. two year limit on thread revivals. although id cut some slack for Emily since shes one of my all time favorite TMFers.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I'd rather see a revived thread about an interesting topic than the 400 threads out there about celebrity feet.

On topic, I've had a casual sexual encounter or two, and I never felt bad about the not being in a relationship part. I'd do it again. As long as you're both on the same page, why not?

 

[c7_assassin]

Necrothreadia is possibly my biggest pet peeve. If it's one-two years, it's not a big deal. This thread was dead for five years.

I agree. two year limit on thread revivals. although id cut some slack for Emily since shes one of my all time favorite TMFers.

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Yep, I've had casual sex. It can be fun, and there's something in being able to say you've done it, but I'd say on the whole it's much more satsifying to be with someone you love.

Also, better to bump an old thread than start a new one on a topic that's been discussed. Also, you can see what people were thinking back in 2006. Awesome.

 

[milagros317]

I don't have casual sex. When I was a foolish young man, I sometimes did. One notable occasion was in Berlin (actually West Berlin then) in the summer of 1970. I spent the night with a young woman that I had met in a bar there. I never knew her last name. I didn't use a condom. (There was no AIDS known then and the other STD's were curable by penicillin or tetracycline.)

If I see a 40-year-old German skinhead rioter on the news who looks like me, then I will be very sorry.

 

[goddess_nemesis]

Yeah, I've had casual sex. Initially after I broke up with my ex, I sought out casual no-strings-attached relationships as a way to get back at my ex. I don't regret it, but I'm not exactly proud of how I behaved after the break up. If it were to happen again, it would be because I want a bit of fun without the strings.

 

[Mephistopheles]

Yeah, lots of it. It can be wonderful, although experiences may vary.

 

[Libertine]

If I see a 40-year-old German skinhead rioter on the news who looks like me, then I will be very sorry.

Are you talking about that slightly Woody Allenesque one, who was waving a placard with equations scrawled on it while screaming theorems?

As for the main topic in the post, why not? But the casual sex problem is different for men and women.

Physically speaking, sex, casual or otherwise, is easy to get for a woman, but difficult to enjoy.

Women's magazines never seem to run articles titled 'Ladies, Last Longer! You Too Can Prevent Premature Orgasm!!'

For a man, it's difficult to get, but easy to enjoy.

Esquire or GQ are strangely bereft of articles titled 'The Big 'O'- Every Time!!'

 

[Myriads]

There is no issues with bumping old threads if one has something valid to add to the topic.

This one was bumped with a valid reason. The people who spoke out against it however committed GR violations with their replies. Don't do that.

On topic:

Casual sex is a mixed bag. And it's value lies in what sexual pressure one is trying to relieve. For physical need, it does the job. For psychological, not so much. Many people seek and desire intimacy and see sex as a path to it. Casual sex does not.

So mostly it will depend on what one is seeking. A snack or a meal.

Myriads

 

[Bothersome]

Okay, okay. My mistake. Won't happen again.

 

[maniactickler]

On topic, ive had casual oral.

 

[Persephone]

On the topic of casual sex....no thanks.

Women can say that they are able to have casual sex and not have any feelings...but I find that hard to believe.

Sex is something that is very intimate for a woman. So I find it hard to believe a woman can have a "no-strings attached" sexual relationship without SOME kind of feelings there.

That is just my opinion

 

[cttickler44]

Yup, in college. Though I just graduated so idk how it is in the real world. But yeah try it out man I think you'd enjoy it, it would put less pressure on yourself for relationships and what not

 

[Leo tickles]

I haven't had sex period, specifically to ensure that when I do, it won't be just casual. So nope.

 

[PurpleStyle]

On the topic of casual sex....no thanks.

Women can say that they are able to have casual sex and not have any feelings...but I find that hard to believe.

Sex is something that is very intimate for a woman. So I find it hard to believe a woman can have a "no-strings attached" sexual relationship without SOME kind of feelings there.

That is just my opinion

Sex is very intimate... to you. I know a few women who enjoy casual sex. We're not necessarily wired to, but since when has that ever stopped anybody from doing things?

I haven't had sex period, specifically to ensure that when I do, it won't be just casual. So nope.

That is just golden.

As for being on-topic - nope. Almost had casual sex once.. the risk outweighed the benefit in that particular situation.

 

[milagros317]

Are you talking about that slightly Woody Allenesque one, who was waving a placard with equations scrawled on it while screaming theorems?

Very funny.

As for the main topic in the post, why not? But the casual sex problem is different for men and women.

For me, the reason why not is that I enjoy BDSM play with somebody who knows me and cares about me more than casual sex.

 

[Persephone]

I just see casual sex as something that definitely has more negative aspects than positive. Sure it can give you satisfaction in the moment, takes away that momentary feeling of loneliness, and just feels plain good. However with all the STD's floating around out there, unwanted pregnancies, risk of being sexually molested IF you decide you don't want it, and a large portion of people NOT wearing condoms or any type of protection...it makes me just want to, again, say...N.O thanks.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I just see casual sex as something that definitely has more negative aspects than positive. Sure it can give you satisfaction in the moment, takes away that momentary feeling of loneliness, and just feels plain good. However with all the STD's floating around out there, unwanted pregnancies, risk of being sexually molested IF you decide you don't want it, and a large portion of people NOT wearing condoms or any type of protection...it makes me just want to, again, say...N.O thanks.

Casual doesn't have to mean with a stranger. You can have friend-with-benefits that I would consider "casual", but not dangerous in any of the ways you described above. If it's not for you, that's cool, but that doesn't mean that everyone who does it is irresponsible.

 

[Cokecan]

Casual sex is when you do it with like, a golf shirt on right? Or is that business casual sex?

What?

 

[TropicThunder]

Casual doesn't have to mean with a stranger. You can have friend-with-benefits that I would consider "casual", but not dangerous in any of the ways you described above. If it's not for you, that's cool, but that doesn't mean that everyone who does it is irresponsible.

^This.

 

[Mephistopheles]

I just see casual sex as something that definitely has more negative aspects than positive. Sure it can give you satisfaction in the moment, takes away that momentary feeling of loneliness, and just feels plain good. However with all the STD's floating around out there, unwanted pregnancies, risk of being sexually molested IF you decide you don't want it, and a large portion of people NOT wearing condoms or any type of protection...it makes me just want to, again, say...N.O thanks.

Well, speaking as a person who enjoys casual sex with strangers, the problem of STDs and pregnacy is a really good reason to wear a condom. And get tested for STDs if the condom fails, combined with trips to the pharmacy to get morning after pills.

So yeah, there might be dicks around, but you might be missing out on a lot of fun.

 

[GQguy]

Casual sex is great! Especially between to consenting partners who see it as nothing more than an exclamation point on a great evening. Vegas is best for this. Falling in love for one night. It's one of the highs of adulthood. I think everyone should try it at least once....and I assume that every girl i've dated has done it once(though I won't ask). It's not something that should be forced....or even the goal for the night. Personally I never go out to the bar/club/restaurant with the intention of getting laid. I'd take great conversation with a woman i'm completely attracted to over sex with that same woman without the conversation......but sometimes life doesn't ask you to choose and you can have a great convo with the beautiful woman and cap off the night with great sex. Man I love life!!

GQ

 

[Persephone]

Casual doesn't have to mean with a stranger. You can have friend-with-benefits that I would consider "casual", but not dangerous in any of the ways you described above. If it's not for you, that's cool, but that doesn't mean that everyone who does it is irresponsible.

I definitely respect what you're saying...I am just talking about people who meet random strangers at bars, clubs, parties, whatever...and just hook up with them in the heat of the moment and take no time to think about it responsibly.

If it's with a trusted friend, then I see no problem in that because it's a mutual agreement and definitely safe .

 

[tickmankyle1]

I'm a supper shy guy. Don't really date much> I know if a women found me everyone tells me she will be in heaven cause I will treat her like a queen. In my experience i see all these guys miss treat girls and get a different one every week. To me sex is something special and I want it to be that way. Because of things in my childhood having it be a first time thing went out the window, so because of that I want to have it be special with a girl if I find one. If you want it to be special it should be if you want a one nyte stand to overcome shyness do it. Just don't do something cause someone want you too. If it feel right you will know. feel free to pm if you want to talk more. good luck on what ever you decide