There have been many women who have come here and asked for advice on getting to tickle their significant others, husbands.....
There has been lots of great advice given, opinions.... But there was always something missing, that's been bugging me coming from my
history, and it seemed utterly obvious:
Why don't you female ticklers just DEMAND IT?
You don't have to in a mean, demeaning way, but.......LADIES, COME ON!
First off, lay all the fetishes on a big long line. On one end is simple, tame, - kissing, playing with your boobs, then it may go to kissing your neck, then it may go a guy wearing a tie.... eventually you get to tickling, then further would be spanking, all the way down to weird and at the opposite end, utterly disgusting - being shit on or pissed on....
The ladies, and men, at that far end, just have to suck it up and deal with the fact that you will either have to give up your fetish, explore it on your own, or find some like minded partner to share it with. It is a tough life for those folks. But there are others with those kinks out there, and many have found happiness with them.
But standing back and thinking about things, which is always good.....tickling is NOT THAT BAD.
It's not painful, at worst it's annoying. But if you have someone who you truly love, who has a intense need to tickle you, being tickled by them is something that may just take some getting used to, but it's not a deal/relationship stopper, unless you are so close minded or selfish your only concern is your own sexual gratification.
It'd be kind of the same as a wife who wanted to be on top every now and then, or bottom, or something like that, and the husband adamantly refusing to please her.
Many women here have kind of felt ashamed that they have that fetish, which is understandable given our sex obsessed/repressed society, and in being that way, are really timid when asking their guys to tickle them.
If someone is too timid, usually the other person, unless they really DO want it, will just brush it off. "Oh well, she really didn't make that much of an effort to ask, so I guess it's not that big of a deal!"
What has been making me think about this, in hopes of solving problems and making you gals lives much better and more satisfied is that, women demand other things in life, that take much more effort than being tickled.
Most women totally expect their man to have a job, and go to it. Many men would happily sit around the house and watch TV and drink beer all day, and boy do a lot do that.
But most women would never, ever put up with that shit. At that point, the women wouldn't be all "Gosh, honey, if it's not too much trouble....only if you want to...well, I've been thinking...maybe....kind of....only if you feel like it...could you kind of go...apply for a ............job?...."
No, it's "get you ASS off that couch and get a fucking job!" or even "So, WHERE are you going to get a job at?!!"
There's ways of asking for stuff that causes the other person to answer in the affirmative, like instead of asking "Could you go do this for me?" it's "WHEN are you going to go do that for me?"
This comes about because......I've been thinking about my ex-in-laws. Now, don't be spoiled like them, but...they just demanded stuff from their spouses! It wasn't "Can we go on vacation?" it was an aggressive "So, WHEN are we going on vacation?!! What are YOU going to do to get me to Disney World?! This is your RESPONSIBILITY to make this happen!"
And then the poor guys floundering around working extra to get to that vacation. They were not timid.
None of them had any fetishes, but if they did, it wouldn't have been "Are you going to do X," it would have been "You're GOING TO PLEASE ME! I'm not asking, I'm telling!"
Now please DON'T be like that, stay kind and nice, it's just an extreme example of the little-more-aggressive-approach to you gal's problem.
I think you should just flat out tell them, way in the beginning...(and dressing and/or being sexy when you do it goes a long way in persuasion) ...just grin and tell him in a normal volume voice "I REALLY like TICKLING. I absolutely LOVE to tickle my boyfriends and future husband, so if you stay with me (or marry me or date me or be my fuck buddy or however you want to put it) then you're going to be tickled A LOT and your going to be laughing A LOT MORE. Like, ALL THE TIME."
And this way, in the beginning, you can let him know how it's going to be and if he's a prude, or narcissistic, or just an asshole who only cares about himself, you can get rid of him way early on before you spend any money, time, or emotion on him.
It just breaks my heart to hear about people in relationship or even marriages, who are unsatisfied because they weren't forceful enough in the beginning, and are now unhappy, with two extreme options - divorce, and all the chaos and bitterness that goes along with that, or sucking it up and dealing with it, while being miserable for the rest of your life, or having to live some "secret life" which would probably be exposed one day.
I remember there was some college professor or professional who was married for like 20 years, and he was secretly going to a BDSM club the whole 20 years, and accidentally choked one day, and was discovered by everyone. The girl at the club liked him, not in a sexual way, but with genuine concern, so he obviously wasn't a bad guy, he was just stuck in a marriage where his wife probably wouldn't do any of that stuff. If she HAD, his life would have been totally better, and much more content and happy.
I actually know people on that spectrum in the cosplay world - one is getting a divorce, many reason,s but a big one for her was that she loved dressing up, going to conventions, making costumes, and he was a complete douche, not only didn't support her, but became manipulative, saying she was a bad mother, needed to get a life, be "responsible," all that shit, even started turning some friends away from her.
She'd go to these comic and sci-fi conventions, and see the COMPLETE opposite - women, their husbands, and kids! all dressed up, smiling, laughing, happy. Or, husbands there not dressed up, supporting their wives who are..... and I knew one who guy who was cool, had a hot wife - she and the kid went dressed up, he went normal (the guy works at a port! for godsakes!) and he had so much fun, along with supporting his wife, HE'S dressing up next year!! This gruff ass port worker is going dressed as Wolverine or Darth Vadar or whatever the guy picks.
Okay, I'm always long winded.....
There has been lots of great advice given, opinions.... But there was always something missing, that's been bugging me coming from my
history, and it seemed utterly obvious:
Why don't you female ticklers just DEMAND IT?
You don't have to in a mean, demeaning way, but.......LADIES, COME ON!
First off, lay all the fetishes on a big long line. On one end is simple, tame, - kissing, playing with your boobs, then it may go to kissing your neck, then it may go a guy wearing a tie.... eventually you get to tickling, then further would be spanking, all the way down to weird and at the opposite end, utterly disgusting - being shit on or pissed on....
The ladies, and men, at that far end, just have to suck it up and deal with the fact that you will either have to give up your fetish, explore it on your own, or find some like minded partner to share it with. It is a tough life for those folks. But there are others with those kinks out there, and many have found happiness with them.
But standing back and thinking about things, which is always good.....tickling is NOT THAT BAD.
It's not painful, at worst it's annoying. But if you have someone who you truly love, who has a intense need to tickle you, being tickled by them is something that may just take some getting used to, but it's not a deal/relationship stopper, unless you are so close minded or selfish your only concern is your own sexual gratification.
It'd be kind of the same as a wife who wanted to be on top every now and then, or bottom, or something like that, and the husband adamantly refusing to please her.
Many women here have kind of felt ashamed that they have that fetish, which is understandable given our sex obsessed/repressed society, and in being that way, are really timid when asking their guys to tickle them.
If someone is too timid, usually the other person, unless they really DO want it, will just brush it off. "Oh well, she really didn't make that much of an effort to ask, so I guess it's not that big of a deal!"
What has been making me think about this, in hopes of solving problems and making you gals lives much better and more satisfied is that, women demand other things in life, that take much more effort than being tickled.
Most women totally expect their man to have a job, and go to it. Many men would happily sit around the house and watch TV and drink beer all day, and boy do a lot do that.
But most women would never, ever put up with that shit. At that point, the women wouldn't be all "Gosh, honey, if it's not too much trouble....only if you want to...well, I've been thinking...maybe....kind of....only if you feel like it...could you kind of go...apply for a ............job?...."
No, it's "get you ASS off that couch and get a fucking job!" or even "So, WHERE are you going to get a job at?!!"
There's ways of asking for stuff that causes the other person to answer in the affirmative, like instead of asking "Could you go do this for me?" it's "WHEN are you going to go do that for me?"
This comes about because......I've been thinking about my ex-in-laws. Now, don't be spoiled like them, but...they just demanded stuff from their spouses! It wasn't "Can we go on vacation?" it was an aggressive "So, WHEN are we going on vacation?!! What are YOU going to do to get me to Disney World?! This is your RESPONSIBILITY to make this happen!"
And then the poor guys floundering around working extra to get to that vacation. They were not timid.
None of them had any fetishes, but if they did, it wouldn't have been "Are you going to do X," it would have been "You're GOING TO PLEASE ME! I'm not asking, I'm telling!"
Now please DON'T be like that, stay kind and nice, it's just an extreme example of the little-more-aggressive-approach to you gal's problem.
I think you should just flat out tell them, way in the beginning...(and dressing and/or being sexy when you do it goes a long way in persuasion) ...just grin and tell him in a normal volume voice "I REALLY like TICKLING. I absolutely LOVE to tickle my boyfriends and future husband, so if you stay with me (or marry me or date me or be my fuck buddy or however you want to put it) then you're going to be tickled A LOT and your going to be laughing A LOT MORE. Like, ALL THE TIME."
And this way, in the beginning, you can let him know how it's going to be and if he's a prude, or narcissistic, or just an asshole who only cares about himself, you can get rid of him way early on before you spend any money, time, or emotion on him.
It just breaks my heart to hear about people in relationship or even marriages, who are unsatisfied because they weren't forceful enough in the beginning, and are now unhappy, with two extreme options - divorce, and all the chaos and bitterness that goes along with that, or sucking it up and dealing with it, while being miserable for the rest of your life, or having to live some "secret life" which would probably be exposed one day.
I remember there was some college professor or professional who was married for like 20 years, and he was secretly going to a BDSM club the whole 20 years, and accidentally choked one day, and was discovered by everyone. The girl at the club liked him, not in a sexual way, but with genuine concern, so he obviously wasn't a bad guy, he was just stuck in a marriage where his wife probably wouldn't do any of that stuff. If she HAD, his life would have been totally better, and much more content and happy.
I actually know people on that spectrum in the cosplay world - one is getting a divorce, many reason,s but a big one for her was that she loved dressing up, going to conventions, making costumes, and he was a complete douche, not only didn't support her, but became manipulative, saying she was a bad mother, needed to get a life, be "responsible," all that shit, even started turning some friends away from her.
She'd go to these comic and sci-fi conventions, and see the COMPLETE opposite - women, their husbands, and kids! all dressed up, smiling, laughing, happy. Or, husbands there not dressed up, supporting their wives who are..... and I knew one who guy who was cool, had a hot wife - she and the kid went dressed up, he went normal (the guy works at a port! for godsakes!) and he had so much fun, along with supporting his wife, HE'S dressing up next year!! This gruff ass port worker is going dressed as Wolverine or Darth Vadar or whatever the guy picks.
Okay, I'm always long winded.....
