First time having tickle session...any advice?

[collegetickler1]

So I decided to finally indulge my fetish and post an ad on Craigslist to tickle someone. I offered money and got a response from a very good looking women that is excited to meet up with me tomorrow to get tickled. We agreed to an hour of tickling, both tickling me and her. I've never done anything like this before and I'm kind of nervous. I've got some feathers at the store today. Any suggestions or tips from people that have done this before? I'm looking forward to it but nervous at the same time. Thanks!

 

[JoePTickle]

To make sure it's legit, meet up somewhere public first if possible. Be polite, ask if she wants to be lee/ler first and about breaks, etc. Ask about limits. Start gently as ler, and read her reactions to see what she enjoys. Remember to breathe when you're the lee. More people are brush-ticklish than feather-ticklish so you might pick up a tooth or hairbrush. Post here and tell us how it went. Good luck.

 

[ticklemepls]

I second joep's post- make sure she's legit first- it's easy to come up with random pictures of women...

Also, feathers typically don't work for the general population for intense tickling if that's what you're aiming for. So again as joe mentioned, might want to pick up a hairbrush or something- I stick to hairbrushes that have the plastic bumps over the bristles to be sure it doesn't hurt- that's just my preference though.

As the lee- try not to stress out too much- it'll take away from the fun. Be cautious and establish limits and a safe word prior to starting. If using restraints, be smart in how tight and positions you're using- you don't want to cause any harm-

And since I'm always overly paranoid with stuff like that (even buying things) keep all conversations ... Just in case this person tries to take your money and then cause legal issues accusing you of something - but again, that's just me being overly cautious when it's someone I don't know. Better safe than sorry.

 

[Volsung]

How about starting with a foot massage? Actually, a general massage isn't a bad idea. Basically, you want to put the other person in as much of a relaxed state as you can. Everyone is going to be nervous enough...

 

[ticklemepls]

How about starting with a foot massage? Actually, a general massage isn't a bad idea. Basically, you want to put the other person in as much of a relaxed state as you can. Everyone is going to be nervous enough...

That's actually a really good idea too!

 

[collegetickler1]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I know she is legit since I looked her up on facebook and shes sent quite a few pictures that match up. She indicated that feathers would work on her so i picked some up. Good idea on the hairbrush though. I don't forsee it being super intense tickling, more of a teasing tickling which is what she indicated would be most ideal. I'll report back this afternoon with the results. *fingers crossed* lol

 

[ticklemepls]

Thanks for the advice everyone. I know she is legit since I looked her up on facebook and shes sent quite a few pictures that match up. She indicated that feathers would work on her so i picked some up. Good idea on the hairbrush though. I don't forsee it being super intense tickling, more of a teasing tickling which is what she indicated would be most ideal. I'll report back this afternoon with the results. *fingers crossed* lol

good luck! have fun!

 

[ElFewja]

These guys are fairly good for tickling:



As are these guys:



Feathers do not usually work very well.

I'm gping to challenge you on this person, though: so you found a facebook and the pictures match up? If they're the same pictures then I can access those as well and pose as this person. If they're not the same pictures then it might still not be that person, maybe someone that knows her or someone that has accessed other accounts, or something. Even if it is that person, there's no reason to think that she will not take advantage of you or the situation. Assuming she isn't a no-show. The safest thing is to bring someone you trust and have them sit nearby to some degree, else let someone know where you are in case something happens.

Nervousness sometimes works in favor of tickling, sometimes not.

I haven't had a problem with being able to hold down a girl even while using a hairbrush. I'm not a big guy by any means -- 150 pounds, 5'8 -- so that's something to keep in mind. I'm not sure I would recommend bondage -- either tying or being tied -- with a stranger. She should be fairly cautious about it and I think you shouldn't consider being tied. Tying the ankles is probably fine and maybe the wrists, but I wouldn't tie or be tied down to anything.

People do get tickled out but sometimes they get more ticklish as time goes on. A lot of the girls I've played with have burned out around the hour mark, though one or two has gotten much more receptive to tickling.

Do meet in a public place, do confirm that they're still interested before you head out. Just be wary if that people are with her they can still hide or come later than her.

Feel free to message me if you have more specific questions that I didn't cover.

 

[mindy]

Remember that it isn't all about you. There are two of you there, both hoping to have a good experience. Be responsive to the other person and don't get too caught up in living out your own fantasies that you lose sight of the other person's feelings about it all.

 

[NY ler]

Mindy - "it isn't all about you"??? Who's paying to whom here? Surely it's all about him, as long as she doesn't get hurt. He's not there to sing kumbaya and talk about world peace, he's there to indulge his fetish. Not to indulge hers, not to please her, not to become best friends, he's there for one reason. So it is about him 100%.

Before crazy feminists start attacking me, I'm not saying that it's ok to hurt her, that's clearly not ok.

 

[ticklemepls]

Mindy - "it isn't all about you"??? Who's paying to whom here? Surely it's all about him, as long as she doesn't get hurt. He's not there to sing kumbaya and talk about world peace, he's there to indulge his fetish. Not to indulge hers, not to please her, not to become best friends, he's there for one reason. So it is about him 100%.

Before crazy feminists start attacking me, I'm not saying that it's ok to hurt her, that's clearly not ok.

I actually think that was very well said- and clear she knows what she's being paid for. It is about him...

 

[ticklemepls]

My most important advice

Do NOT post the video online. No one will appreciate it; everyone will feel they are entitled to it. It will give posted all over porn sites with disregard, and if you have it removed it will just pop up again and again. If you really must post - blur the nice woman's face from view.

That's the best thing I've ever read.

 

[mindy]

Mindy - "it isn't all about you"??? Who's paying to whom here? Surely it's all about him, as long as she doesn't get hurt. He's not there to sing kumbaya and talk about world peace, he's there to indulge his fetish. Not to indulge hers, not to please her, not to become best friends, he's there for one reason. So it is about him 100%.

Before crazy feminists start attacking me, I'm not saying that it's ok to hurt her, that's clearly not ok.

I am sure that's exactly what she had in mind when she answered his ad. Go with this advice and see how that works out for you. I am not saying they are going to become best friends or anything (which you have to assume I meant, since it makes your childish advice seem legit). But even in a "business transaction" if you act like a shit, she's going to want to leave early, she'll never give him another chance and she might even call for help. Best advice is to keep it to what was discussed, and if it's getting too intense or whatever to understand that and back off. As it seems so often around here, you guys think of the women you engage in tickling with as pieces of meat. If he treats her that way, paid or no, he's going to end up terribly disappointed.

My advice? Don't take your cue on how to treat women from the guys on these forums.

 

[NY ler]

It's not about what SHE had in mind. It's about what HE has in mind and what they agree too. She is working. He is paying. It's nice if she has a good time but if she doesn't, that's too bad for her, either refund him or suck it up and take it - NO, I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT PAIN. Her job is to indulge his fetish, WITHOUT GETTING HURT.

If you hire a painter to paint your house, is your concern that he is having a jolly time or that your house gets painted well?

 

[NY ler]

It's not about what SHE had in mind. It's about what HE has in mind and what they agree too. She is working. He is paying. It's nice if she has a good time but if she doesn't, that's too bad for her, either refund him or suck it up and take it - NO, I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT PAIN. Her job is to indulge his fetish, WITHOUT GETTING HURT.

When you hire someone to paint your house, is your main concern that the painter is having a jolly time or that your house is painted well?

 

[mart]

I absolutely agree with mindy on this one. Don't listen to what most of the guys on this forum advise! They seem to feel that tickling should at all costs be unpleasant for the ticklee, hence the whole tickle torture myth. Pay her, tie her down and tickle her till she cries. After all, you'll never see her again. And to hell if it leaves you feeling like shit and parting in anger.

 

[ticklemepls]

I absolutely agree with mindy on this one. Don't listen to what most of the guys on this forum advise! They seem to feel that tickling should at all costs be unpleasant for the ticklee, hence the whole tickle torture myth. Pay her, tie her down and tickle her till she cries. After all, you'll never see her again. And to hell if it leaves you feeling like shit and parting in anger.

Well since the OP already said they discussed their plans and it was not going to be like that- your accusations are completely irrelevant ----

Not to mention no one even said that... The point was simply he was paying her- it's not about her as she knew what she was getting into... If you pay a stripper, are you supposed to bend over backwards to make their desires come true? Kinda the same thing. Relax, its not like anyone said make her scream and run for the hills.

 

[Wolf]

It's a business transaction. As long as he's made it clear what he wants in return for his money, and she's agreed to it ahead of time, he should get what he pays for.

 

[ElFewja]

I think you guys (specifically Mindy and NY ler) are actually arguing the same point without realizing it. Both of you are talking about a contract and upholding it, you both just have different ideas of what that contract entails and how much of it has been agreed upon. Mindy's issue is avoided so long as proper communication occurs, and NY Ler's issue with her comments seems to be that this contract is made and agreed upon but he believes Mindy disagrees with the content of said contract. At least that's what I perceive is going on.

All that really needs to be done is, if an individual doesn't want to talk about it beforehand, just say "Im going to do this now," and get some sort of confirmation. Have a safe word and respect it when it's used, like if someone says stop, then stop. If you want to talk about playing without a safeword and going for some super intense stuff, that's a different story and that should be communicated at the start, but so long as it's agreed upon then yes, that is what she's being paid for. Of course I would also expect the ler in that situation to realize s/he needs to stop under certain and specific circumstances.

I don't know, I've never had problems. I also check in with the person every few minutes to see if they're alright, need water or a restroom break or whatever. People are people regardless of whether or not they're being paid to do something but I don't think that's the argument anyone is having.

 

[ChicagoDavid]

It's not about what SHE had in mind. It's about what HE has in mind and what they agree too. She is working. He is paying. It's nice if she has a good time but if she doesn't, that's too bad for her, either refund him or suck it up and take it - NO, I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT PAIN. Her job is to indulge his fetish, WITHOUT GETTING HURT.

If you hire a painter to paint your house, is your concern that he is having a jolly time or that your house gets painted well?

While I comprehend the logic of this post, the fact is, getting someone alone in a room with you to indulge your fetish isn’t quite like getting someone to paint your house. OP, I will just tell you that if you start very slow, act respectfully, and pay attention because while you want to have fun, you’re hoping she does, too, it all turns out much better.