pfromptown
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Does anyone remember when I posted this, in 2010?
http://www.ticklingforum.com/showth...something-as-*******-stupid-as-I-ve-just-done
I would wager that not many people will remember it but the situation basically was that I accidentally genuinely tickle tortured my girlfriend for a few minutes early in our relationship, by attaching a device to her, leaving it turned on and leaving the room for a few minutes, resulting in her becoming totally overcome with fear and anxiety and choking (See the thread for more details). Starting the above thread was massively helpful to me in coming to terms with what I had done, being able to vent to people who knew the implications of my actions and were able to give me experienced advice on how to deal with it and how to avoid making any similar mistakes in the future. My girlfriend, after an understandable period of reticence towards the idea of play, eventually moved past what happened and is a perfectly willing 'lee now, as she was before the incident.
The only problem is, I don't think I'm a willing 'ler any more.
I have tried on numerous occasions since the incident to tie her up and tickle her (Usually at her request), but I just can't bring myself to find it sexy after what happened. Before the incident I was tying her up as soon as we had the house to ourselves (We lived with our respective parents at the time; we live together now) on pretty much every possible occasion. We were in the full throes of sexual exploration, with her learning to love the fact that my fetish complemented hers (Being generally dominated) and me 'living the dream' of having a beautiful woman who is in love with me and is not only willing to satisfy my sexual needs, is getting into it herself. It was going so perfectly, "Pre-Incident", but now it's a different story. She is still just as sweet and beautiful as she always has been, and makes a huge amount of effort to ensure that her feet are always looking good for me (They are divine), but 9 times out of 10 when we're having sex I will show no proclivity for tying her up and on the rare (And I mean RARE) occasion that I do, as soon as she's tied up, I just think about getting it over with quickly so we can have sex, mostly due to the fact that as soon as I tie her up, I hear her screams in my head again and again, I almost feel like I'm suffering with PTSD or some related disorder, I am starting to think that I am genuinely traumatised. I have tried to 'give it time' but if 5 years isn't enough time, then I don't know what is. This has been driving me crazy for a long time now, I don't usually post on here any more but I feel like I have to ask for advice/help because I can't discuss it with anybody else "In the real world" - only one friend knows about my fetish and didn't know what to say to me when I told him what the problem is (How would he?).
So has anyone gone through this or know of someone who has? What the fuck am I supposed to do? Am I ever going to get over this?
http://www.ticklingforum.com/showth...something-as-*******-stupid-as-I-ve-just-done
I would wager that not many people will remember it but the situation basically was that I accidentally genuinely tickle tortured my girlfriend for a few minutes early in our relationship, by attaching a device to her, leaving it turned on and leaving the room for a few minutes, resulting in her becoming totally overcome with fear and anxiety and choking (See the thread for more details). Starting the above thread was massively helpful to me in coming to terms with what I had done, being able to vent to people who knew the implications of my actions and were able to give me experienced advice on how to deal with it and how to avoid making any similar mistakes in the future. My girlfriend, after an understandable period of reticence towards the idea of play, eventually moved past what happened and is a perfectly willing 'lee now, as she was before the incident.
The only problem is, I don't think I'm a willing 'ler any more.
I have tried on numerous occasions since the incident to tie her up and tickle her (Usually at her request), but I just can't bring myself to find it sexy after what happened. Before the incident I was tying her up as soon as we had the house to ourselves (We lived with our respective parents at the time; we live together now) on pretty much every possible occasion. We were in the full throes of sexual exploration, with her learning to love the fact that my fetish complemented hers (Being generally dominated) and me 'living the dream' of having a beautiful woman who is in love with me and is not only willing to satisfy my sexual needs, is getting into it herself. It was going so perfectly, "Pre-Incident", but now it's a different story. She is still just as sweet and beautiful as she always has been, and makes a huge amount of effort to ensure that her feet are always looking good for me (They are divine), but 9 times out of 10 when we're having sex I will show no proclivity for tying her up and on the rare (And I mean RARE) occasion that I do, as soon as she's tied up, I just think about getting it over with quickly so we can have sex, mostly due to the fact that as soon as I tie her up, I hear her screams in my head again and again, I almost feel like I'm suffering with PTSD or some related disorder, I am starting to think that I am genuinely traumatised. I have tried to 'give it time' but if 5 years isn't enough time, then I don't know what is. This has been driving me crazy for a long time now, I don't usually post on here any more but I feel like I have to ask for advice/help because I can't discuss it with anybody else "In the real world" - only one friend knows about my fetish and didn't know what to say to me when I told him what the problem is (How would he?).
So has anyone gone through this or know of someone who has? What the fuck am I supposed to do? Am I ever going to get over this?