First off, where is this "rumor" you've heard? And why are you so threatened by it? Always "I heard....", "I heard....." I think you just made up this "rumor".
What's most hilarious about your thread is how you boast of your tickling skills! ""it's not pretty"....well, if it's not pretty, then you're probably doing it wrong.
As far as "sadisitic"...what do you mean? Grimaces, "ows", and rope burns? Isn't a good tickler more than just one thing? You have to mix it up, you can't just be one thing, there's a time to be "sadistic", there's a time to be sensual, there's a time for fast, slow, etc etc......I'd rather be known as a skilled tickler, maybe even a diabolical one, a person who knows how to ride the wave....a person who knows the body, a deft tickler who knows how to pull off a tickle in even the most unlikely situations.... when to tickle and when not to tickle......when to keep just a little pressure, when to dig in.......how to dig in.....
It's like back rubs, some people know how to tickle and some don't. I don't think sex has that much to do with it. I had a girlfriend who couldn't give a massage to save her life, just didn't have that skill and sensitivity to do it. How many times have you seen videos of a great 'lee and then it comes time to switch, and she has no idea what she's doing? And I've seen a million videos where the guys don't know what they're doing either. You want to jump into your screen and hit these guys up the sides of their heads!
Also, the dynamic between M/F and F/F (and F/M for that matter) is completely different.
It's ok, though, what you really wanted, you got: multiple threads where you can feel persecuted as a man, awwwww, poor widdle baby! The world just doesn't understand you!
PS: For the record, I have seen that Sole Mates Kim video and he did a fantastic job.