Tickling_bully
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PS: Both of these should be easy to find on youtube.
Chris
Chris
Thank you all so much. Means alot to me. I may use one of the poems at her funeral.
hugsssssssss to you all
Been through this twice-both parents were dead of cancer by the time I was 32.
(1) Say everything you have to say and spend as much time with her as possible so you don't feel anything was left undone.
(2) Sometimes the nicest people get remarkably unpleasant while suffering a long fatal illness; try to ignore it.
(3) The older relatives are often the most difficult to deal with, because they know their time is short, too, and see themselves in the dying person's position.
(4) Deathbeds are not only depressing, but boring as well. Don't feel guilty for secretly wishing, in the final stages, that they'd just get on with it. Since they can't get better at this point, a quick exit is best for all concerned.
(5) Hearing is the last sense to go. So keep talking to them as they slip over the edge.
(6) Develop a morbid sense of humour. Odd as it may seem, there will be one or two moments of the blackest comedy imaginable, so get ready to have to bite your lip on occasion to keep from laughing.
Lastly, there is the story of a buddhist monk who was given food and shelter for the night by a poor family. In the morning they gave him breakfast and asked him for a blessing before he set off to continue his wanderings. He replied, 'First the grandparents will die, and then the parents will die, next, the children will die, and finally the great-grandchildren will die.'
The family looked at him, shocked. And the monk smiled and said, 'Would you prefer it to happen in any other order?'
I know I have not been in here in awhile and feel guilty posting this because of it.
It has been the longest 6 months of my life.
Watching MOM go from beeing full of life and never home to loosing all her dignity and independance. Having to have someone babysit her, loosing her bed and having a hospital bed in living roon. IT about killed her- There were so many times she cried about it to me.
We have been taking turns staying with her so her best friend who is her main caregiver have time to get away to sleep , run errons or just time to her self.
This last week Mom is barely awake and talking to family that has passed away as if in the room only she can see.
There are times she is awake and knowign what is going on and other times she is talking out in left field and we just go with her to keep her calm.
The Hospice Doctors have taken her off all her meds and only gets liquid meds to keep her calm and pain free. She is not able to swollow so only has apple sauce, jello, pudding when she askes for it then we have to make sure she does not asperate. Her tongue is swollen and you can hear the fuid in her lungs as she breaths. Her death will come with her lungs filling with fluid and drowning. I pray God will take her and we all have given her permission to go.
She was able to say good bye to all of us before she got bad this week. It will only be a few days before she passes away.
Could really use prayer and energy to deal with this and for family as there is alot of anger and bad words/family split happening.
HUGSSSSSSSS
I get the impression you have had to perform all those sad dotes before??.