A lot of us relate Hyn. One of the not really obvious things to know is that it's not just the 'lee who must take a big leap of trust to arrange and complete a tickling session.
Actually the most times I've looked back on some meet-up that didn't work, and thought "hmm I was a bit naive to really expect that would go ahead" were episodes when I was lined up to be a 'ler.
So that's the environment you're in, and for my 2 cents it's worth spending 6-9 months getting to know people via chat/email/whatever before raising the stakes to the next level. The more that contact period is about getting-to-know, and the less it's about cyber roleplay the better also.