Sex without tickling?

[Kyle1986]

This is sort of an embarassing question but I fugure it might be answered logically here. I'm 21, male, college student. I am finding it difficult to be completely passionate about having sex if there is no tickling involved. In other words, I'm nowhere near as turned on as people should be when having sex. This is becoming an embarassing problem because it leads to an inability to perform, and a lame excuse to follow. I almost have to force myself to stay interested, and even fantacize about tickling during the encounter. I never wanted it to get to this point and I dont know how it got there, or if this is just natures course of action with me.

Does anyone else have this problem? Has anyone been able to overcome it?

Im single so I don't have a gf to confide in about my fetish, and I am not at the point where I can be open about it during random encounters. Thankyou for any feedback, and sorry if this is a repost of a common issue.

Kyle

 

[Manticore]

I (unfortunatly) also have this problem. I do ahve a Gf, and have confided in her, but she isn't into tickling, so we don't do it very often, and almost enver during sex. Everything you described happens to me, and so far I have not been able to overcome it.

If anybody else here has this problem but has a solution I would be really interested in hearing it, I like tickling, but I don't want it to be the ONLY thing that can get me off...

 

[barefeetarebest]

This is sort of an embarassing question but I fugure it might be answered logically here. I'm 21, male, college student. I am finding it difficult to be completely passionate about having sex if there is no tickling involved. In other words, I'm nowhere near as turned on as people should be when having sex. This is becoming an embarassing problem because it leads to an inability to perform, and a lame excuse to follow. I almost have to force myself to stay interested, and even fantacize about tickling during the encounter. I never wanted it to get to this point and I dont know how it got there, or if this is just natures course of action with me.

Does anyone else have this problem? Has anyone been able to overcome it?

Im single so I don't have a gf to confide in about my fetish, and I am not at the point where I can be open about it during random encounters. Thankyou for any feedback, and sorry if this is a repost of a common issue.
Kyle

Yes, Yes, Yes. I completely understand and sympathize with ya here, brother. I've had this condition long before I was sexually active with any partners.... And many times it just seems to get in the way....
My advice to you.... Find a girlfriend, one that is really good and you wouldn't mind staying with, and confide in her and relay what it is you really want. Seeing as how this is what turns you on the most, she should participate so she can enjoy extra pleasure once you become an "animal"
Be a good bf, though, take one for the team sometimes (meaning if she gets to complaining that youre always incorporating tickling into sex), sex without tickling gets better once you get a good feel for it and it becomes a second-favorite sensation.

I speak from experience, brother and In your situation that's your best bet.

 

[metroguy2k4]

Dude, chill. As a lifelong tickling fetishist and a natural sub, I also become boring during plain vanilla sex. I usually have to fantasize about being tickled, being bound, etc, in order to keep going. The trick is to find a girl who will play along with your fantasies. Even if a girl is not "into" tickling, I've found that girls who want to have sex with you will generally be willing to do the things that turn you on, within reason of course. You just have to garner the courage to tell the girl you're sleeping with about your fetish, or at least make sure she finds out that tickling turns you on. (I.e., start tickle fights with her and make sure she realizes that something's going up, up, up during the tickling!). Once I had a girlfriend who noticed the correlation between her tickling me and me wanting to have sex, and so she just started to tickle me every time she was horny. I wasn't complaining.

Ultimately, you can either deny what really turns you on, or you can embrace it and find girls who will give a little to get a little.

 

[Anna6-9]

Hey its ok! I get tickled everytime my husband and I have sex and I tickle him everytime too. I thought about it a couple of weeks ago. I wonderd if I were to have sex with someone else if I could resist the urge to tickle. I also wonder how I would feel not being tickled too. Its been a huge part of my life since I got together with my husband. I wasnt into tickling at all before him but when I saw what a turn on it was for him....how could I not want to join in?! Now after 5 years of being tickled everyday Im not sure I could go without. Im not sure I would be as interested. But I think the problem for you is you need to know the person well enough to be comfortable to enjoy yourself. Maybe this is your subcontious telling you these random acts arent what you really want. Im not trying to be an advertisement for manogamy but maybe you should look before you leap so to speak.

 

[Kyle1986]

Very good advice. Thankyou all for your responses. Glad to hear it can be overcome in time.

 

[tickmankyle1]

hello

you will get over it just try adding tickling off and on in the love making and slowly pull it away and that should work. just start to make you body know that is doesn't need ticking all the time for sex and that should work later

 

[xionking]

ey man, yeah i can relate to your problem. vanilla porn really doesn't do much for me, but tickling straight away causes an extension program downstairs.

i guess it's just a mental thing really. sometimes i find just touching a girl softly over her body can turn me on, cuz its almost on its way to tickling, whilst being sensual without provoking a reaction, ya know?

i also believe there's a correlation between the laughter a girl makes when you are tickling them and the noises they make during sex. when a girl is noisy during sex, im a happy camper, hehe.

 

[Happyman]

how often are you looking at tickling porn? sounds like your brain has made a stronger connection with tickling then it has with sex. Not a problem though, you can correct that, and im going to say this with the hopes that im not going to get attacked by the forum right away...but your going to have to stop going to tickling sites as much, if not totally for a while. Im not saying give up your fetish, but just give your brain a chance to get things in the right order. I had that problem at one point, and I guessed it was this and it didnt take too long to fix by doing this. So take a break from the internet (or limit yourself by once a week at these sites) and just enjoy yourself with the beautiful woman you are with. When it comes to sexual excitement, the act of sex should be ranked number 1, tickling is great, and I love it, but it shouldnt be number 1, if you come to that point you have a fairly high chance of having sexual problems and unsatisfaction.

 

[Coda]

I'm sort of confused. Why are you trying to have sex, then...?

 

[Kyle1986]

I'm sort of confused. Why are you trying to have sex, then...?

I don't understand the context of this question

 

[Coda]

Well, you started out by talking about sex; you're not enthusiastic about it without tickling involved... correct? Am I also to understand that you can feel comfortable enough to have sex with somebody, but not comfortable enough to talk to them about your interest in tickling?

I know I don't really know anything more about you, or how that feels to you. Based on that, though, it almost makes having sex seem like something you do just because it's more "normal" or "acceptable"... not because it's something you actually want to do. You do want to explore tickling with a partner, though? From my perspective as someone who was just reading, the obvious answer is not to worry about sex right now, and to try to trust somebody you actually know enough to explore your tickling interest.

I know I may be off the mark, but that's what I meant, anyway.