So I met a girl in TMF's chatroom

[Knot Amewzed]

We were the same age and from the same state. She asked for my pic and said she'd send me hers after. She kept asking how tall I was and how much I weighed because she's hooked on her ex who was apparently like 6'2" and 350 pounds or something insane. I like to keep in shape and I'm average height (about 5'7" or so) and I weigh 145. She looked at my pic and said "sorry, not interested." I guess you need to be a blob who tickles to see her picture. Oh well.

Excellent! What's her name!!!

 

[-Hari-]

Worry not dude, The chatroom is a mixed bag, ive met a few genuine nice people in there and in the past ive met up with a few really nice girls too who i had met in there.

On the flip side Ive also met people who are only there to be rude to you or to simply lead you on. Also people who litrally just didnt have the right connection with me.

This person either got from you what they wanted or you just simply aint theyre cup of tea, no harm done.

Perhaps youl have better luck in the future, hope it hasnt put you off at all, theres some REALLY nice freindly peoples in there on a reg basis

 

[JS805]

Whoa, I'm sorry I made this topic. This topic was made to be more of a joke to laugh at myself. For example, I went to my usual video game message board (which I KNEW I would get ripped on over there) and told them the entire story (except I replaced tickle chatroom with porn chatroom) and I said it just because I knew everyone on my video game message board would rip on me and figured it would be a funny time (or they'd say something like "what's a girl". I knew they'd laugh at me for looking for a girl in a chatroom and would laugh even more at my rejection...I have a good sense of humor so I'd end up laughing because they'd find it funny also. I made this topic just to get a few laughs about it and then move on...but I didn't realize everyone would be so passionate about what happened. It's really no big deal to me one way or the other.

Now...let me address the last few posts individually:

bugman: Ha, don't worry. I was just ripping on myself...it's more of a joke than anything. I don't really crave attention...just when people say something like "well why did you make this topic?" I'll usually response by saying "I crave attention." A way of jokingly making fun of myself.

Skipadeedoodah: What can I say? I'm a hypocrite and you're right

kis123: Thank you for coming to my aid! <3

Haribish: Thanks for the confidence boost!

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

With all due respect from one BBW to another, the girl/woman brought this on herself by basing her decision solely based on his looks. He's entitled to an opinion whether any of us like it or not. She made the judgement call and insulted him over his looks. Besides he referred to him as a blob, not you or me; smaller guys need love and respect too. If they don't get it, they may occasionally lash out-I understand that. Besides, if the man is under 5'7" and under 150 lbs, they have a way of fixating on my big butt like a heat seeking missile! I had to get used to it because initially it spooked me; if a man that size stood behind me the only thing you'd see would be the top of his head!

For her to then PM him saying he was disrespectful was more hypocritical to me; she can dish it out but obviously can't take it. I don't like it when people are over critical over looks alone; they may be shortchanging themselves from a meaningful friendship or relationship just because he/she doesn't have perfect looks? Plain stupid to me, IMO.

Sure - he has a right to be mad at her - but he wasn't insulting her, he was insulting the larger men she (may or may not) prefer to play with. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but whatever that opinion is, should be expressed respectfully.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

Sure - he has a right to be mad at her - but he wasn't insulting her, he was insulting the larger men she (may or may not) prefer to play with. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but whatever that opinion is, should be expressed respectfully.

Thank God, I was about to go out and pick up some Lean Cuisines.

 

[Raytheon]

Looking at the flip side of the coin personally i think the woman has every right to do and treat men as she pleases. To many men are arrogant sex based stalkers who treat women like objects and i say good on the lady for standing up for herself. The lady can quite rightfully choose and reject who she wants to satisfy herself with. Its like a nightclub. The few attractive men get all the women and the rest of us are left stood at the side wishing we were like them.
That is todays sex society we live in.

 

[kis123]

Looking at the flip side of the coin personally i think the woman has every right to do and treat men as she pleases. To many men are arrogant sex based stalkers who treat women like objects and i say good on the lady for standing up for herself. The lady can quite rightfully choose and reject who she wants to satisfy herself with. Its like a nightclub. The few attractive men get all the women and the rest of us are left stood at the side wishing we were like them.
That is todays sex society we live in.

There's always a right and wrong way to do something; she could've been a little more considerate and respectful and still got her point across. Based on the OP, she simply blew him off without even showing her photo. I've had that done to me before; it's rude and disrespectful. No one wants to be made to feel unattractive or undesirable, especially by someone who doesn't show themself. It's like she wanted to get the jump on him before he could reject her. Real high-schoolish IMO.

We all have our opinions on this but I've been in his position before and as a female, it sucks double to me.

 

[Goodieluver]

Im always told by people im not their type when i send my picture


We big guys get no respect

 

[Goodieluver]

Looking at the flip side of the coin personally i think the woman has every right to do and treat men as she pleases. To many men are arrogant sex based stalkers who treat women like objects and i say good on the lady for standing up for herself. The lady can quite rightfully choose and reject who she wants to satisfy herself with. Its like a nightclub. The few attractive men get all the women and the rest of us are left stood at the side wishing we were like them.
That is todays sex society we live in.

Women are quite capable of manipulating and using men for their wishes as well

two wrongs dont make a right

 

[Raytheon]

Women are quite capable of manipulating and using men for their wishes as well

In my age group thats what all women do anyways...Men at my age are just sex toys these days

There's always a right and wrong way to do something; she could've been a little more considerate and respectful and still got her point across. Based on the OP, she simply blew him off without even showing her photo. I've had that done to me before; it's rude and disrespectful. No one wants to be made to feel unattractive or undesirable, especially by someone who doesn't show themself. It's like she wanted to get the jump on him before he could reject her. Real high-schoolish IMO.

We all have our opinions on this but I've been in his position before and as a female, it sucks double to me.

I absultly 100% agree with you there yes I expect my age (22) and the chavy british night life i have to put up with probably warps my perseption of rejection

I think this subject touches a very unspoken hurtful truth that alot of men feel insignificant and the whole "why dont women like me" thing. You just have to look at the personals section of this webbie to see its full of men wishing that the ladies of this board would meet up for no strings attached tickle sex sessions on a regular basis lol (thats ment lightheartedly).
Speaking from my experiances when i go to nightclubs which isnt very often i find its very depressing. Watching stunningly beautiful women jumping into bed with absolute asshole greasy chavs and thinking to myself what the hell is wrong with me...

A close girly friend sat me down and told me that its not about how you look or who you look, its where you look that makes the differance. Girls go to nightclubs to find a tall strapping bloke with a big cock for a fun overpowering sexy one night stand. Taking this into mind at college i got some confidence together and asked the hottest girl in the class if she fancied some coffee at costa in town and some christmas shopping. She jumped on me and said yes please...we had the best evening it was amazing! I even got in a poke in the ribs and a "mm your ticklish ill have to remember that" one liner xD

so seemlessly linking that back to the TMF (lol) maybe the chatroom is more of the nightclub scenario and out here is more the costa coffee....

does that make sence?

 

[ViperGTS]

It was probably a guy anyway.

That muscly guy is thinking, "Crap! Now I can't wipe my ass!"

 

[Knot Amewzed]

It was probably a guy anyway.

Although an assumption, I whole-heartedly agree.

 

[maniactickler]

Ive been burnt a million times by women who said they would send their pic after i sent mine first. thats why i wont send my pic first anymore, until i see theirs.

 

[DimpleToes]

There are lots of great people here.Start posting,don't depend on just the chat room.There is no reason to limit yourself here.But it takes time to make real friends here,just as it does out there in real life.

Send pms to people.As long as you are respectful and polite you might be amazed at the replys you get.It's all good man.Join us!

I agree.. let ppl get to know you for you , for a freind ship, when you do meet it wont matter what you look like..

Here is another thought.

Perhaps she is tall woman and has a preference for taller men.

Or perhaps she is a larger woman, and thinks a "skinny" or average build guy would not accept her because she is a BBW.

I had an issue like this once. I had a several month chat relationship with a woman in the chat room. She finally got around to telling me she wanted a picture of me, I told her I had one in the members pics area. And she went off to go look. She came back in the room but would not respond to any of my PM's which after about 3, I went ahead and called it quits. I was not going to harass her if I was not her type.
About 3 days later I was still wondering at times what the deal was and sent her a PM, that said...nicely and respectfully,"I was just wondering if you were OK. After you went to see my picture, you no longer wanted to chat with me. And I understand, and its OK. I was just wondering if it was something about me or something I did. If you do not wish to answer that is fine, I respect your decision and will not message you again. I just wanted you to know no matter what you are a great person and I appreciate the time we chatted. Your Friend, Rob."

She did respond about 3 days later, and told me that after she saw the picture she was concerned that if I saw hers that I would not talk to her anymore, because she is a lot larger than I am, and did not want to get rejected by someone else like she had several times before in chat after they saw her picture.

So sometimes there may be something more to it than just someone blowing people off, there may be more.

Oh, and her and I continued talking, I told her seeing her picture was not important to me, because I already liked who she was, seeing her would not make that more so or any less. We continued talking again for about a month and she sent it to me. And afterward we still talked. Up until she left the forum for her own reasons, but on occasion when she checks in on stuff she will send me a quick PM. She is married now and happy, and I am happy for her.

Rob

ROb you rock... luvs ya man..

Thank God, I was about to go out and pick up some Lean Cuisines.

what ever.. you dont need them ya goof.

Im always told by people im not their type when i send my picture


We big guys get no respect

wow that is way too much muscles.. cut about 1/4 of that out. he may be a nice guy but wow that is alot of muscles.. he would crush me even though I am a BBW.

 

[TheDubliner]

What if the guy wasn't a blob but a hugely buff guy? Or what if he's a pretty thin guy with a giant tumor? Oh the stuff I sit here and think about... *sigh*. Maybe he has a conjoined twin and together they weigh 350. Or maybe it's a cyborg, then 350 would seem pretty flimsy, I guess.

 

[Scouse]

For whatever reason, its the girls choice who she does and doesnt speak to. This is a fetish board, with a fetish chatroom connected to it. Although a lot of people come here for the general discussion, its safe to assume that the rest have their pants round their ankles.

If she doesn't find you attractive she doesn't find you attractive. Move on, talk to more people. I'm sure you'll find enough people up for conversation

 

[casa86]

that girls lame then lol

 

[Mister Scruff]

It was probably a guy anyway.

Punto muy bueno, senor!

That muscly guy is thinking, "Crap! Now I can't wipe my ass!"

Y un otro!!

 

[ViperGTS]

Punto muy bueno, senor!



Y un otro!!

Dos para uno!

Gracias!

 

[Mister Scruff]

Dos para uno!

Gracias!

De nada, amigo! Es mucho mejor de uno!