Spouse/SO not ticklish?

[unit5610]

Hard to believe as it is for me, I actually am married, for many years, to a woman who is not at all ticklish. The best I can ever get is a split-second reflex if I sneak up on one of her bare feet when she doesn't even know I'm in the same town. She is sensitive in other (good) ways but is not ticklish. She does tickle me sometimes, which in practice makes me basically 99% 'lee. In theory, I'm probably 60% 'ler. No complaint, I have no other issues here...she's still hot at almost 50, great to me and is an excellent mom, but I do miss this tickling thing a lot. Is anyone else in a similar situation?

 

[StockedAndGagged]

I cant say I am in a similar situation now, but I was a couple years ago. Great girl, loved being with her, 97% unticklish. It was a shame, a definite ungodly criminal shame, but I dealt with it. So I feel your pain.

And I agree with you, I wasnt a 'lee until then.

B

 

[Dandy Jack]

I know about it

I know all about it. I have the opposite problem but it creates the same result. I have a girlfriend who is ticklish but refuses and hates to be tickled. I used to be extremely ticklish but I have now lost my ability to be sensitive to tickling. Therefore I can't be a Lee. I like the girl but she won't buy into my need for tickling . She thinks that it's weird. I am not happy about the situation at all.

Some girl who's into tickling will steal me away someday. I can't think that a relationship can last too long with a woman when I have a constant need and desire for tickling. I wish that I could regain my ticklishness because there are many woman who may consider being a Ler even if they don't buy into being a tickle victim.

[The woman who leaves her man with unfullfilled tickling desires will suerly loose to a Lee]



[ A conscience that's clear will have fond memories of tickling!!!]

Dandy Jack

 

[maniactickler]

I still cant understand how anyone can even get into a relationship that doesnt satisfy your fetish. i wouldnt be caught dead with a woman if the ticklish part of the relationship wasnt there. no matter how hot or how great of a person she is.

 

[steph]

Sure, it's kind of a no-brainer.
I met the guy before I met the internet. End of story.
Thank God for playmates!
XOXO

Is anyone else in a similar situation?

 

[Mitchell]

Unit, I was in much the same position as you. As I've posted on here in the past, my main ex girlfriend, Jenny, whom I was with through most of my college years, wasnt ticklish at all. I tried many ways to tickle her, and got really no reaction. Luckily, I was just into feet, and not tickling, at that time. There were only two occasions on which I saw her even remotely have any reaction to tickling. Similar to your wife, Jenny was once tickled by her brother on her bare feet when she wasnt looking, and kind of giggled, and moved her foot away. Another time, we were swimming in the pool, and her cousin had her backed up to the wall of the pool, and got her ribs, causing her to double over, and giggle. Beyond that, I tried tickling her for nearly 3 years, barefoot, and in every state of dress, including, ahem, nude, and not a reaction. Similarly, I saw other friends and relatives try to get her on all parts of her body. (Non sexual and clothed except for maybe in a bathingsuit, and no reaction) It is frustrating, but this is how it was with her.
So, I know all about being with a non ticklish woman. I was with one for almost 3 years. Now, while being with at least a semi ticklish woman would be my hope, if the girl had all the other qualities, I might be able to bear it. Iam sorry to hear that your wife isnt ticklish, but if she has all the other qualities, I guess one can easily understand choosing that over tickling.

Mitch

 

[lk70]

Sure, it's kind of a no-brainer.
I met the guy before I met the internet. End of story.
Thank God for playmates!
XOXO

Ditto.

 

[bajanandi]

I understand . . . but it is bearable

I symphathize with your plot. I too have a spouse (wife) who is not ticklish. I however am the opposite. She does not hesitate to take advantage of the situation. I've been married for 16 years now and she continually gets more beuatiful all the time. I know that I am loved and would never violate her trust even over a "fetish" such as tickling. She has five other sisters all of whom are stone cold when it comes to tickling, except for one of her younger sisters, (who is like a daughter to me) who is horribly ticklish. I have taken advantage of this and she is definetly a good sport about it, that is, both my wife and her sister. Her sister never gets mad at me either.
So I am able to cope despite the situation. I am tickled mercilessly by my wife and I get back by tickling her sister. Not too bad.

Bajanandi

 

[AffectionateDan]

I wasted 13 years...

...married to one of the most ticklish women on the planet.

The problem with that?

She LOATHED being tickled. Wouldn't let me do it. Made a great job of making me feel like a total pervert for liking it.

Thank God that I got a parole from THAT life sentence, and shortly thereafter discovered that I wasn't alone, and that there are hundreds of women out there who love BEING tickled as much as I love tickling them.

Life is good!

 

[LoveSoles81]

I have to say i'm lucky to have found a girl that is Ok with me tickling her. my Ex would never let me tickle her. If I did she would get pissed off. Anyway im very happy now

 

[ticklerticklish]

I have been there

My ex wasnt ticklish as all and only used to get the odd reaction when trying to tickle her

 

[DEEPSHOTONE]

I feel your pain

You are not alone in you situation. My wife isint ticklish either. As a matter of fact Dshe thinks everyone involved in this fetish should be thrown under a bus.. I married her knowing that she was not ticklish thinking, rather hoping I could supress my need for tickling. Boy was I wrong!! When I start surfing the net and found lots of tickling and feet web site it only made my situation worse. Needless to say were divorcing soon for many other reasons not just tickling. Moving forward, the next woman I get involved with will not only be ticklish but understand my need for it. Last year I almost lost my life to pneumonia in a Vegas hospital. The one thing I learned was that life is too short not to be happy. I'm on a mission to find my tickle soulmate. And soon I will. Good luck...

[email protected]

 

[natural tickler]

Well, one of my brothers two years ago got married, and his wife wasn't ticklish at all. So much she used to let him try to find a spot and laugh at him when no reaction. Well, to make a long story short, after a 3 week session with me, she is the most ticklish person out there- save for my wife, of course

 

[unit5610]

Thanks DEEPS (and others)...good luck on your search for the ticklish Ms. Right. I can relate to thinking that the tickling thing might just "go away" with time, but as we all know that just doesn't happen. I must say that I do get some satisfaction from giving my wife long foot massages with lotion almost nightly, sometimes pretending it tickles her. I have this secret motivation that this will somehow make them more sensitive. In the end it keeps them soft and pretty but the ticklish part of it didn't work! That's okay, I'll keep doing the massages anyway

 

[steph]

Then she's a lucky girl, love...
XOXO

Thanks DEEPS (and others)...good luck on your search for the ticklish Ms. Right. I can relate to thinking that the tickling thing might just "go away" with time, but as we all know that just doesn't happen. I must say that I do get some satisfaction from giving my wife long foot massages with lotion almost nightly, sometimes pretending it tickles her. I have this secret motivation that this will somehow make them more sensitive. In the end it keeps them soft and pretty but the ticklish part of it didn't work! That's okay, I'll keep doing the massages anyway

 

[NJLaughs]

Sure, it's kind of a no-brainer.
I met the guy before I met the internet. End of story.
Thank God for playmates!
XOXO

Also a ditto here. I met and married my wife, whom I love dearly, before I realized that I really HAD a tickling fetish. A divorce would not be worth it to me because we do love each other, but I know how you feel about needing tickling, as ler or lee, and not getting it. I echo Steph's sentiments of appreciating tickle playmates. However, I have to be careful because my wife would see this TMF activity as outright flirting, which she doesn't appreciate.

 

[Dandy Jack]

life is too long...

Life is too long not to have someone that you love to tickle and take care of your tickling desires.

I have met women that were into to tickling but I did not like them in other areas. Many people think of tickling as weird, strange,etc.

Many times when i meet a new girl I take a long time before I mention it. I usually pay for sessions like at Passive Arts... I have occassionally paid strippers to tickle them. They think that I am weird because I am not asking for sex only tickling fun.

Anyway that's how I satisfy my need for tickling. Because everything is on the clock.... it takes away from some of the enjoyment.

Qoute: A day without tickling can seem like an eternity....




Dandy Jack

 

[unit5610]

Also a ditto here. I met and married my wife, whom I love dearly, before I realized that I really HAD a tickling fetish. A divorce would not be worth it to me because we do love each other, but I know how you feel about needing tickling, as ler or lee, and not getting it. I echo Steph's sentiments of appreciating tickle playmates. However, I have to be careful because my wife would see this TMF activity as outright flirting, which she doesn't appreciate.

You nailed that NJ...I also have to be careful when I post...this would not go over well at all. I really like the people here though and what we have in common, so it's worth it.

 

[toyou444]

My wife IS ticklish but does not share my love of tickling. Yes, she indulges me and yes she tickles me a good bit...but it is not all I would ever ask for. We have more in common than that so I can overlook the tickling and get my fill elsewhere. I tickle everybody and have great fun doing it. She knows that it is not sexual except with her and she tries to understand which is all I can ask. I had a dream one night where she and I attended a gathering. I told her about it and she said it must have been a dream because something like that would never happen...so I know that the TMF and this side is never going to interest her...but she intrests me on many different levels.

~ toyou

 

[steph]

Well, yanno, I figure we're all adults here and you have to be discreet.
I know he has his straight porn thing and I have this, no big whoop... It's my adventure and the ride is a short one, I'll live it how I want...
XOXO

Also a ditto here. I met and married my wife, whom I love dearly, before I realized that I really HAD a tickling fetish. A divorce would not be worth it to me because we do love each other, but I know how you feel about needing tickling, as ler or lee, and not getting it. I echo Steph's sentiments of appreciating tickle playmates. However, I have to be careful because my wife would see this TMF activity as outright flirting, which she doesn't appreciate.

 

[lk70]

It's my adventure and the ride is a short one, I'll live it how I want...
XOXO

Can I get an AMEN?

 

[Ray<3tiklishft]

Can I get an AMEN?

AMEN! AMEN!

 

[ticklemo]

My husband

My husband tickles me all the time! He's horribly ticklish, problem is, he blocks it out! He does the whole 'mind over matter' bit. So I get attacked constantly, and I can't retaliate!!

 

[Eternal Tomboy]

Been there...oh, wait...I still am!

I'm married to a guy that doesn't like to be tickled. I got married very young, and long before I found the worldwide web. We have been together for about 12 years, and he is slowly coming around. In the beginning, he HATED it, and I have now gotten to the point where he will even let me tie him down and tickle him, but I've got to take it VERY easy on him....which, I'm sure I don't need to tell you guys is REALLY hard!! It's okay though because I'm probably about 75% lee anyway. But it would be nice to be with someone that not only tolerated the tickling, but actually loved it as much as I do.

I think that this thread is good for those youngins around here that haven't married yet. Let your feelings about tickling be known to any potential partner LONG before you take that walk down the isle. It'll save you a bundle in divorce court

 

[jayson752003]

@BajandAndi Did your wife and her un-ticklish sisters ever gang up on ya?