I travel here quite a bit. (Nashville)
If you all really do want to get together- Do it! From what I hear, the first munches/ lunches/ brunches (lol) were guys just talking about tickling, and then there was one female and then more. People just kept at it.
Just get something started. Maybe meet on 2nd Saturdays or Tuesdays at a spot for a bite to eat. Start bringing friends with you. Use word of mouth and the net and just keep at it whether there are 2 or you meeting or 20 meeting.
Doesn't take long for folks to get comfortable. Have informal little gatherings/ play parties in folks homes or at a hotel that won't be bothered by noise.
The hardest thing is to start and keep it going. It is even harder if one person is always organizing everything. Just too difficult really.
Well- That all being said, let me know if you all want to meet up for dinner or drinks or lunch. Just take one step- You never know.
Sunny