Why aren't there more women on these forums?

[emilyemilyemily]

That, and the constant begging/demands for video of the experience. Yes, I realize that since so many pay-to-pay models hang out here hawking their services y'all think that every female member is really a tickle-pornstar here to serve your every whim, but it's not true.

ily <3

 

[Jagermeistered]

That, and the constant begging/demands for video of the experience. Yes, I realize that since so many pay-to-pay models hang out here hawking their services y'all think that every female member is really a tickle-pornstar here to serve your every whim, but it's not true.

You sir, have won this thread! Too much truth in your statement...

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

Fact is, being a woman with kink is hard. If you're a ler, good luck finding a man that shares the fetish, and isn't creepy. Female lees should have no trouble finding a man to tickle them.

Sorry I have to disagree here. Women may find it easier to find a male lertif that's all they wanted out of it. But most want to feel safe with the guy before they want them touching their bodies. That is where it gets difficult I believe.

 

[Phineas]

Sorry I have to disagree here. Women may find it easier to find a male lertif that's all they wanted out of it. But most want to feel safe with the guy before they want them touching their bodies. That is where it gets difficult I believe.

I think it varies. Out here in the Bay Area scene, the NorCal gatherings are loaded with male 'lees and female 'lers. You're pretty much SOL if that's not your thing these days, as you basically spend your time sitting around waiting for all the guys to get done bottoming... and by then, everyone's scene'd out so good luck in getting any play.

I'd also go so far as to say we have a pretty good assortment of non-creepy individuals out here. 'course, few of them are single, of either gender...

 

[Daedra]

That's indeed rude to make such "flirt attempts". It always makes me wonder what's so difficult to understand the meaning of the word "No." It's rude to assume that a lady's "I'm not interested." is just a form of her playfulness (they assume every woman uses to tease). Unfortunately many see websites, often real life as well, as flesh market they can browse to find a new toy, without realizing that who- or whatever breathes, may it be a human or an animal is not a doll or action figure. Politeness and respect towards one another can be so rare to find, but it's luckily not impossible.

 

[emilyemilyemily]

That's indeed rude to make such "flirt attempts". It always makes me wonder what's so difficult to understand the meaning of the word "No." It's rude to assume that a lady's "I'm not interested." is just a form of her playfulness (they assume every woman uses to tease).

i literally just encountered this on this site in the last couple of days. a "no thanks, you're creeping me out" was interpreted as "i'm being coy. come tickle me, random stranger!" come onnnnn, guys. don't be weird.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

TIME TO MAKE EVERYTHING ALL ABOUT ME

I've actually gotten PMs from weird men wanting to tickle me. No joke. I don't think I have any pictures around laying around anymore, but a lot of these people seem to be aware of how man pretty I am and intend to have me tied to something.

Not sure if I should be horrified or flattered.

 

[voided9]

...sometimes it does get overwhelming and I just want to sign off and not come back on *but I don't. lol* ...
then I figure if you can't be creepy on a fetish site then where can you be creepy at? For alot of guys, this is their only outlet of their tickling fantasies, so theyre gonna run with it.

I completely agree with those two statements!

 

[Gothika]

not all but there are a lot of men that treat the woman here as objects and that is wrong they should be treated with respect just like anyone else here

 

[Daedra]

i literally just encountered this on this site in the last couple of days. a "no thanks, you're creeping me out" was interpreted as "i'm being coy. come tickle me, random stranger!" come onnnnn, guys. don't be weird.

I think the shorter the response you give the better, or no response at all. Sometimes people understood you very well, but are trying to provoke, hurt or insult you by their words. Now that I'm writing this it feels that we consider a message itself as creepy because we connect lines like "I want to strap you to a table and tickle you senseless." to a picture inside our heads. When I don't know someone online and they say something not particularly friendly I try to imagine emptiness, as in the end what they said doesn't really matter so much. The people who are good to you, that treat you with respect and care and vice versa are the ones deserving our attention instead.

 

[rhiannon]

Sorry I have to disagree here. Women may find it easier to find a male lertif that's all they wanted out of it. But most want to feel safe with the guy before they want them touching their bodies. That is where it gets difficult I believe.

100% agreed! Yeah, I could find a ler who is into tickling. But would I find one who I actually could trust and like? Much harder! The community especially in this country isn't that big. And to be honest: guys who aren't into tickling just DON'T F*****ING GET IT!! This is how most every conversation with a guy who doesn't have a tickling fetish goes:

Him: "So what turns you on?"
Me: "Tickling!"
Him: "With the tongue on your clit?"

Fail right there.

 

[C.A.B.]

1And to be honest: guys who aren't into tickling just DON'T F*****ING GET IT!! This is how most every conversation with a guy who doesn't have a tickling fetish goes:

Him: "So what turns you on?"
Me: "Tickling!"
Him: "With the tongue on your clit?"

Fail right there.

Bwah hahahaa! That's the funniest thing I've read all week. "Trust me, babeeeee... trussssssst meeee."

 

[C.A.B.]

Women arent as kinky as men.

oh... I have some proof to rebuke that claim.

 

[iloveddub]

I can tell you why to some extent...and someone will get mad. A lot of women don't care to hear others opinions, but are happy to give theirs. They will get offers, very pushy ones. I have made a couple of friends, but think...maybe I'm too dominant? Do the guys on here really want the tables turned?

 

[Phineas]

I have made a couple of friends, but think...maybe I'm too dominant? Do the guys on here really want the tables turned?

This comes up a lot on a dating site I frequent, usually phrased as "are men intimidated by strong, independent women?"

The answer, invariably, is "some are, some aren't" - mixed with "a lot of self-proclaimed 'independent women' can't tell the difference between 'outspoken' and 'obnoxious'."

You'll find plenty of submissive men dying to throw themselves at your feet if you know where to look. On the other hand, you'll also find guys like me who don't want to be bossed around. Try to 'dominate' someone like me and I'll show you the door.*

If you're consistently pushing men away, you might want to re-evaluate what kind of men you're interacting with and how. If there's really, truly nothing off-putting about what you're doing, then it's either just a matter of time or picking the right recipient.

Good luck,
P



*Disclaimer: In that vein, there's a lot of confusion over just what constitutes "independence". A lot of women seem to think it means "my way or the highway". Others think that outright asking for what they want is being too pushy (IE, "dominant"). There is a happy middle ground between being a bossy ballbuster and a passive wallflower. Also also wik, merely asserting yourself will not guarantee compliance - a rather staggering huge number of women I've run across seem to think that if they ask a guy out, he's obligated to accept and if he doesn't, it must be because she asked him out and not because he wasn't attracted to her (because, Heaven forbid, right?).

 

[Phineas]

to be honest: guys who aren't into tickling just DON'T F*****ING GET IT!! This is how most every conversation with a guy who doesn't have a tickling fetish goes:

Him: "So what turns you on?"
Me: "Tickling!"
Him: "With the tongue on your clit?"

Fail right there.

You just described in a nutshell why I hate "vibrator tickling" videos. Just because the doofus is doing something to the model that may tickle her doesn't mean that it's a tickling video, especially if the end result is, say, an orgasm. The tickling is a means to an end, not the thing itself, IMHO.

Sorry for the hijack, but someone finally articulated it.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

This comes up a lot on a dating site I frequent, usually phrased as "are men intimidated by strong, independent women?"

The answer, invariably, is "some are, some aren't" - mixed with "a lot of self-proclaimed 'independent women' can't tell the difference between 'outspoken' and 'obnoxious'."

You'll find plenty of submissive men dying to throw themselves at your feet if you know where to look. On the other hand, you'll also find guys like me who don't want to be bossed around. Try to 'dominate' someone like me and I'll show you the door.*

If you're consistently pushing men away, you might want to re-evaluate what kind of men you're interacting with and how. If there's really, truly nothing off-putting about what you're doing, then it's either just a matter of time or picking the right recipient.

Good luck,
P



*Disclaimer: In that vein, there's a lot of confusion over just what constitutes "independence". A lot of women seem to think it means "my way or the highway". Others think that outright asking for what they want is being too pushy (IE, "dominant"). There is a happy middle ground between being a bossy ballbuster and a passive wallflower. Also also wik, merely asserting yourself will not guarantee compliance - a rather staggering huge number of women I've run across seem to think that if they ask a guy out, he's obligated to accept and if he doesn't, it must be because she asked him out and not because he wasn't attracted to her (because, Heaven forbid, right?).

I agree totally. Nothing turns me off more then a bossy women. Don't treat me like your child or a moron; I won't stand for it. Be independant all you want, i'm not a threatened by it. If fact I encourage it. But if she is a woman that needs to dominate men to feel empowered...go somewhere else. I had a mother already. I am not so arrogant to believe my way is the best way. I've been living on my own for awhile and I don't have a criminal record or past issues so I've done okay on my own without a sitter.

 

[Gitana]

Being a lez, I wish I knew the answer to this question as well!! But I guess it has to do somewhat with the nature of society as men being the "pursuers" of sex and women not seeking it out as much. No matter where you go online, chats, dating sites, etc. there are many more men trying to get with women than vice versa. Though there are some exceptions to this. Women are taught that it's not okay for them to like these types of things when really I believe a lot more of them do than outwardly admit it. Plus as mentioned before, it's a lot easier for a girl to find a guy who is willing to tickle her (guys will usually do it regardless) than it is for guys to find willing ticklees. So all of these are contributing factors.

 

[AlishaTickles]

HEY IM HERE! LOL... JUST JOINED, ACTUALY

 

[Gitana]

HEY IM HERE! LOL... JUST JOINED, ACTUALY

Hey girl hey! Welcome to the forum.

 

[PurpleStyle]

Being a lez, I wish I knew the answer to this question as well!!

Plus as mentioned before, it's a lot easier for a girl to find a guy who is willing to tickle her

I think that about sums it up. We have a wide variety of options, and for myself... I don't visit the forum as often as I used to because I'm sort of like a cat. I only want to play with the string when it's dangling just out of reach. When it's easily within my grasp, I get bored and walk away.

 

[Jagermeistered]

I think that about sums it up. We have a wide variety of options, and for myself... I don't visit the forum as often as I used to because I'm sort of like a cat. I only want to play with the string when it's dangling just out of reach. When it's easily within my grasp, I get bored and walk away.

She wants a carrot(vagina), that tastes like chicken(wet). I feel the sameway...

 

[Phineas]

I think that about sums it up. We have a wide variety of options, and for myself... I don't visit the forum as often as I used to because I'm sort of like a cat. I only want to play with the string when it's dangling just out of reach. When it's easily within my grasp, I get bored and walk away.

To continue that analogy, I'm the cat whose owner never read that article in Cat Fancy that pointed out that in order for the cat to enjoy a good rousing game of String, they must be allowed to catch it every once in a while. It's gotten to the point where I don't even bother to look up from my warm spot on the sofa when they start waggling a string around, because I know it's a pointless endeavor of getting all worked up for no payoff.

 

[Leo tickles]

Desperate men looking for things to tickle.
Real life women, ya know, people, looking to test the water.



That combination results in a bunch of scared females, thus, they either never post or forget this place exists.

 

[WorkInProgress]

I want to set your house on fire just to fuck you in the flames until we both burn to death. - Me to my "grr friend". We're pretty fucked up people.

Well at least one of you is. LOL.