SpiffyTickler
1st Level Red Feather
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- Oct 24, 2006
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Now, don't get me wrong. My question isn't why don't people just keep their fetish locked up in a closet somewhere. But why is this something that people feel they need to "come out" with? Something worth making an announcement to their SO about like it's big and momentous?
Is this something that people feel can't naturally come out on its own in their sex lives? That you can't just start slowly incorporating tickling during a makeout session, or as a thing you do after introducing them to bondage, and so on, where it just naturally takes on a prominence in your sex life as something you like to do instead of something you have to do a press conference about?
I've never had to sit anyone I've dated down and explain to them clearly that I'm into bondage and tickling. It just naturally comes out through sexual play. And I don't think that the reason is that I've just been lucky and had a long string of girls that were against all odds into this stuff. It was just never an issue, and even if some girls weren't completely into it, they were still fine with it to a degree.
Now, if you're dating someone that's very sexually inexperienced then I can understand why. But otherwise, I'm a little miffed at all of the threads on here about people coming out, or seeing their therapist because no one will accept their tickling fetish, and I have a feeling it's because people are either placing far too much importance on the idea that this is a thing you have to verbally come out about, or are just really bad at selling the idea to whoever their dating.
Is this something that people feel can't naturally come out on its own in their sex lives? That you can't just start slowly incorporating tickling during a makeout session, or as a thing you do after introducing them to bondage, and so on, where it just naturally takes on a prominence in your sex life as something you like to do instead of something you have to do a press conference about?
I've never had to sit anyone I've dated down and explain to them clearly that I'm into bondage and tickling. It just naturally comes out through sexual play. And I don't think that the reason is that I've just been lucky and had a long string of girls that were against all odds into this stuff. It was just never an issue, and even if some girls weren't completely into it, they were still fine with it to a degree.
Now, if you're dating someone that's very sexually inexperienced then I can understand why. But otherwise, I'm a little miffed at all of the threads on here about people coming out, or seeing their therapist because no one will accept their tickling fetish, and I have a feeling it's because people are either placing far too much importance on the idea that this is a thing you have to verbally come out about, or are just really bad at selling the idea to whoever their dating.