Still waiting for your response to the offer of discussing your issues with me via DM. So far, nothing. And nothing is also the case for your entire board output regarding these issues that hurt you deeply. You've only had four posts in your entire history and the only one bringing up the str8 mens group issue is the first post flaming me above.
Let's bring this down to brass tacks. As I had mentioned before, I've been hearing from STRAIGHT men into M/M tickling as a kink/fetish for 20 years. At any time, there could have been any number of men that wanted to start up a supporting/connection group for them. It just so happens that I'm the first to offer having these men in a particular set of circumstances get together and know they are not the only ones out there.
If you don't think I can do it, "tiedup," here's a suggestion: step up. My contributions to this board number more than 150x yours and many of them, yes, do center on how these men are being neglected and forgotten. "Sorry" for caring.
Two facts to consider:
1) You are not entitled to a DM conversation with me. I am not obligated to have a private discussion with you. It isn't inappropriate to publicly address how you present yourself on a public forum. That is how public forums work.
2) One's post history is irrelevant to the merit of their words. Had I spent 10 years commenting and posting on this website, my statements would not be any more or less valid. Number of posts and length of post history is not an accurate measure of value a person has provided. Contributions can be good or bad. Yours, for example, often trivialize and misrepresent people.
It is astounding that you have been corresponding with straight men into tickling for 20 years and you still do not have the decency to stop typing "str8" even in this very conversation.
I clearly don't think that you can't do it, I think that you shouldn't do it. You are being willfully ignorant.
Additionally, compelling me to step up and do a better job than you is a symptom of a flawed mindset. The mindset "Well I'm doing SOMETHING, which is more than you're doing!" is self-congratulatory and flawed because, like I said earlier, not all action is helpful. If you insist, however, then I'll point out that by calling you out, I am stepping up.
You are not saving us by talking about us. The reason I take issue with your commentary on us is because you refuse to acknowledge obvious realities about our situation and deliberately present information that isn't important as though it is. You regard yourself as someone with an amount of authority on the subject and you are not.
The first and thus most important reason you list in your original post as to why straight men are uncomfortable expressing interest in m/m tickling is:
Needing discretion because of relationships, family, or work status
Not only are you indirectly condoning dishonesty within a relationship, you are willfully ignoring the actual main reason we are uncomfortable.
The main reason we are uncomfortable is because our interest in m/m tickling is one of necessity, of desperation, and of supply and demand. For 95% of the straight men engaging in m/m tickling, they would rather be doing it with women, but can't. There are very few women into tickling and getting a female tickle partner is very hard outside of a relationship. Getting a relationship with someone you love is even harder than finding a tickle partner and can take years. These men are left with very few options to explore their love of tickling. For a lot of us, the only realistic option to be tickled is to be tickled by another guy. Thus the choice between m/m ticking and no tickling at all has to be made.
For the vast, vast majority of straight guys participating in m/m tickling, it is only because they can't find women to do it with.
In your words, verbatim, on the interesting sex podcast, in which you represented the entire tickling community, you said:
I label it as straight-identified men, basically because some of them may be closeted and maybe, you know, not saying so, maybe they're not quite open.
These are your words exactly.
You do not respect us. You remain willfully ignorant.
