C.A.B. & Friends ~ Kooieca has been posted

It's nice to know how you decide things so we can at least try to understand. Thanks for posting this.

And I'll say this, which I'm sure many will agree, you admins/mods have a very difficult job. Thank you for putting up with us.

Brilliant post, as usual.

I was just reading a book that a father wrote for young girls about life, and it had quite a bit to say about the power we have over whether we let bullies hurt us. A lot of this post rang in a similar chime

Believe it or not, I can understand the way you're looking at this. However, do you really think it's ok to give someone who's already been banned the same considerations as you would to others? I'm sure there are many of us, myself included, who have said things that come close to crossing the line, my earlier post in the WTF thread for example. But we are ALL afforded a certain amount of leeway because everybody gets riled sometimes and most of us just needs a friendly reminder. Others who persist get the hammer.

BUT, if a user has already been banned for such offenses and comes back under a different name, why should they get those same "friendly reminders" when their own past history has proven that they will not stop? It's basically like you're allowing these banned members a new membership with a spot-free record. That right there is what I think many take exception to.

I think I worded this all the way I wanted, though I'm not above making mistakes. You can always contact me if you want further discussion or need clarification to my ramblings.

@slacker

They are not getting a spot free record. We will ban much faster and with less debate if we see a second chance ID start to act poorly. There is a lot less leeway. But we are not going to be looking for any excuse to whack 'em either.

Banning is always a last resort in my eyes. Sometimes there is no other option, and we need to take action. But mostly I think situations can be guided to better outcomes in most cases.