Waitaminute, the last hump and omnomnom weekend grope was at MY house darn it, I resemble these remarks!
And a lovely omnomhump it was.
Just a different strokes for different folks issue, I think... For some folks, it's a more private, intimate thing. And if they're feeling more alienated by perceived changes, they're going to describe the things that they feel alienate them with more extremity (Re: "weekend gropes").
I hope we're not further alienating by pouncing on poor choices of words.
By the way, none of the people in this thread seem to use words like pwn, and only one of them sucks a binky that I know of 🙂
Let me explain, if I can, what bugs me about this thread. It's the notion that the way someone else acts can somehow ruin the forum for you. Believe me when I tell you, there are plenty of people on this forum who conduct themselves in ways that I don't like.
And I'll be honest with you, it annoys me a little bit when people use huge, purple letters to post. 🙂 But that's just me... you have a right to act however you want here, and when you do, it doesn't change my experience in any way except that when I see a post by you, I might think to myself "Well that's not how I would do it if I were her."
And I just can't get behind this idea that somehow someone else using the word pwn, or even more remote, sucking on a binky, changes anything for you. How, sincerely, does it affect your forum experience in any way that people suck on a binky in real life? I'm pretty sure there's no answer to that question, and that's a big part of why this thread has me scratching my head.
Actually, by my estimation, you and Helena have a lot in common, here, Jeff... She values the Forum and the character of it that she has become accustomed to, and you value it innately, as the owner. You're both passionate about this place and your fetish. People don't typically make a fuss over something about which they don't care.
When you see something as invasive to something you love, it'll loom larger in your mind than maybe it needs to... Just because one group uses binkies and it may spawn some talk about it, or folks use lolspeak, it doesn't necessarily indicate a meaningful change in this place -- we still gather here out of a mutual interest, and that's a powerful and rare commonality.
But the differences can seem imposing and spur a large response, just as one thread expressing questioning and mild disillusionment (out of thousands of mundane threads) can perhaps loom large as an attack on the forum or where it's going in the minds of its guardians, perhaps, and result in unnecessarily defensive reactions...
The point is that you both love this place. One of you has questions. No shame in that. Cultures change, people make adjustments. Myriads covered this somewhere in another thread.
But it's not so much the substance of the changes that affects folks and spawns these reactions -- the real changes are pretty superficial and often limited. It's more the
idea...
Sometimes, just the tiniest amount of brussel sprouts in the chocolate can make you question if you really want the chocolate. Sometimes, even the idea of the combination will make people shy away.
Wish I could stick around and help work this one out, folks, but I've got training. Play nice.
Luv ya all!
🙂
