Why seek others when your committed?

If you are in a meaningful relationship with someone, especially marrage, why on earth would someone still have the desire to play with other people? This is weird to me since if you are with someone you shouldn't have the need to play with others in such an intimate way. Now my longest relationship was a solid year so I hadnt been with someone too long. But even through the bad times of that relationship I never had the desire to tickle play with others.

This one even I don't know. Mostly women have the desire to cheat on me. And I'm too blind to realize this until I see them kissing the other guy in MY BED. As to why they do it? Easy.
Either his dick is 50 inches or they are just damn sluts.

I think the issue is (at least in part) one of whether it's simply fun or sexual to the person. For me, it's simply fun other than with my hubby. So, playing with others is literally that...PLAY. It isn't anything sexual at all. In fact, we avoid playing with those for whom it is only sexual since we have no interest in getting sexual with others. Then, you'll also find plenty of folks for whom a committed relationship doesn't exclude the freedom to play with other people...including in a sexual manner.

I'm sure there are other views of this as well. As with most TK related issues, it's a matter of personal preferences and beliefs.

Ann

I have never, nor could I ever cheat on someone I'm committed to. However, (and I embarrassed to admit) I have tickled with someone who has a girlfriend they supposedly love. It could have been innocent play, but he gave it a sexual connotation. He set boundaries which is probably why I agreed to it, but looking back it seems silly because most of them were broken. I didn't know his girlfriend or much about their relationship, but I do know she wasn't very open to the idea of tickling. In cases like this I do believe that your partner has to be open to your ideas and try things and vice versa. I know people would like to think things could work out with someone who doesn't share their desires, but in most(not all) cases that is just kidding yourself. Eventually things get to a point where FOREVER seems a bit too long to go without something you enjoy. On the other hand, if your partner shares your intrests then tickling, or sex, or any kind of cheating is just someone's lack of committment or ability to maintain a relationship. They could meet a person who is their perect match, and if they're an untrustworthy or unfaithful person they'll still cheat.
~Kat

I agree with Ann...other than with my fiancee it's just play, just tickling. I've posted before about the limits we have agreed on. There are a few reasons why I want to play with others, but one is that I find it particularly exciting and fun to tickle someone new for the first time. I think its the thrill of not knowing exactly what reaction I am going to get. It's also nice to share this interest with others. I have played with others several times since I have been with my current partner, and there has never been a problem with just leaving it at tickling.

Ali32

It's just like cheating (the only difference is) your just tickling and playing for fun rather then having sex with that other couple (thats either married or boyfriend and girlfriend). But if your still into tickling another man's wfie or another wife's husband vica versa. so if your into the sexual part of tickling then more then likely 100% your gonna be thinking sexual and lustful thoughts when your touching and tickling when your playing with this couple or that couple. and to me personally that's the same thing as cheating and having sex with that couple reguardless. So i don't agree to that and accept that at all. it's wrong in my view. and personally myself i would never ever do it!


But But.... if it's only for fun and (non-bondage non-nude tickling only) then i don't see or have a problem with that really much since thier all consending adults and mature enough.

Simply put, man was not created to be monogamous.

I think whether you see it as cheating or not, is a personal thing. I don't see it that way, because I am not going behind my fiancee's back. As far as lustful thoughts go, I am not thinking about having sex with that person, just tickling them. That may be a lustful thought, who knows?

Ali32

trying to recall,,

im going over in my head trying to remember stories from some members about the train wreck thier marriage became because of the desire to tickle or be tickled by others,,out of respect for them i wont mention names,, and then there are the ones who make the " speach" you know,, the one where they announce they are leaving never to return because of this and that,, the many tragic stories of frustration,,lives changed and not always for the good,,i have always found the disire to share a girlfriend with other ticklers to be a very erotic notion, im wondering how i would actually react to the aftermath,, sometimes the fantasy is better,,kinda reminds me of all those springer shows where the boyfriend beggs and beggs his girlfriend to do the 3some thing,, then he is horrified at the result,, ive actually seen it happen to close friends and its not a very pretty thing,,although some would say that tickling isnt the same thing others can argue that it is,,i guess the question you have to ask yourself is what would make me angrier? if someone touched my significant other in an innapropriate way,, or,, OR,, if someone pinned them down and tickled them into breathless hysterical laughter with streams of tears running down thier hot cheeks?,,i know how much tickling turns me on,, more than anything i can think of,, my womans ticklish laugh to me is the same as her moans of pleasure durring intimacy,,i know im rambling a bit off the topic here sorry bout that but i guess what im trying to say is heck! i dont know how i would feel cause ive never tried sharing a woman in that way,, i think it would be interesting to hear from someone who tried it and it turned out to be a disaster! and ruined the relationship,, we have heard about the succesfull relationships with couples who share each other with ticklers,, how about the ones who had a bad experiance??

Why Ask Why?

Thats good to hear Ali because your fiancee is my best online friend. Youve got a fine man, treat him well. As for cheating, hell its a thrill! Especially when you do it with something like your wifes cousin,sister or (in very special cases)her mother. It makes you feel like you are getting away with murder and gives you a God complex at the same time. Try it! You just might like it! 😉

Easy one to answer actually and not as baffeling of a scenario as you see.
Couples like to tickle others too and meet others (especially couples) for some intense tickling and tickle play just as much as singles. Has nothing to do with not wanting to play(tickle)with each other, which couples do on a regular basis, including me and my GF. It is just different. A Change and more intense when there are more involved.
No cheating involved at all. WE play as couples. Not as individuals outside of the relationship.

TTD😉😀

Re: Why Ask Why?

ElectricEye72 said:

Thats good to hear Ali because your fiancee is my best online friend. Youve got a fine man, treat him well. As for cheating, hell its a thrill! Especially when you do it with something like your wifes cousin,sister or (in very special cases)her mother. It makes you feel like you are getting away with murder and gives you a God complex at the same time. Try it! You just might like it! 😉

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sorry but i don't agree

Cheating is wrong in my book and it always will be wrong (it doesn't matter if your cheating on your best friend's girl your cousin your mother or bob from down the street) it's still plain flat out wrong. and i myself would never do that or even think about doing it with someone that i cared for and loved and was in heels mad over love in

Ah VC! You remind me of myself when I was your age. Things change as you get older, get boring,ordinary and the stamina you once had? Gone! So if you have a chance to go to Greenwich Village and pick up some leggy college girl whos asian and into new things believe me when you get older youre gonna take it.

ElectricEye72 said:

Ah VC! You remind me of myself when I was your age. Things change as you get older, get boring,ordinary and the stamina you once had? Gone! So if you have a chance to go to Greenwich Village and pick up some leggy college girl whos asian and into new things believe me when you get older youre gonna take it.

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when i say never i mean never. i have morals and i don't give into peer pressure that easy or go doing what's cool or in just because the world tells me to. beleive you me i will never cheat. Marriage or just being a couple is Gods plan and so once that's broken you broke one of Gods plans and written laws. so i guess i'm just set in my ways right now. and for the record i'm single for now anyways i haven't found anybody

Dont worry VC if a subhuman like me found a wife you will too! Youre a good honorable young man. But say you take your younger cousin to see Britney Spears and you have backstage passes. You go backstage and Britney is nice to your cousin but cant help looking at you. Before you leave Britney walks up to you in a leather skirt and high heels and asks you to her hotel room while stroking your arm up and down. What do you do? I know theyd need a construction vehicle to pull me off of her! I bet you would take Brit up on her offer too, its one of those things youd have to experience before you say no.😀

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ElectricEye72 said:

Thats good to hear Ali because your fiancee is my best online friend. Youve got a fine man, treat him well. As for cheating, hell its a thrill! Especially when you do it with something like your wifes cousin,sister or (in very special cases)her mother. It makes you feel like you are getting away with murder and gives you a God complex at the same time. Try it! You just might like it! 😉

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So let me get this straight.. you're telling my fiancee to treat me well.. then telling her to try cheating on me??!! Something is wrong with that picture.

No double T im telling HER to treat you well but YOU are the one who should try cheating! Take the Britney scenario I put one post up for VampireCult and apply it to you. What would you do? Look Charles Manson said women recieve men, women reflect men, in the bible it says man hold dominion over woman! Its a sin against God not to cheat!!!! Now go caress Britneys magnificent legs and steadly progress higher and higher!!! 😀

It's a sin against God not to cheat?? What planet did you get that from??!! When people take a wedding vow they commit to each other. COMMIT. I do believe that word would involve NOT CHEATING. You are starting to worry me EE.

If either the man or the woman went OUTside the relationship and sought having tickle play alone with another, especially if the partner does not know about it BEFORE hand and give approval for such, then it is WRONG and is cheating. IF the couple does it together, that is a whole other story but to purposely seek anything outside the relationship on the sly? That relationship has issues.


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Cheating is wrong in my book and it always will be wrong (it doesn't matter if your cheating on your best friend's girl your cousin your mother or bob from down the street) it's still plain flat out wrong. and i myself would never do that or even think about doing it with someone that i cared for and loved and was in heels mad over love in

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Its so nice to hear you say that, and I agree entirely... I feel extremely guilty about the situation I posted earlier and it wasn't even my relationship, so it never and will never happen again. I have never been cheated on (to my knowledge)but if I ever found out someone I was committed to had cheated on me I'd be devistated. I've seen a lot of situations that involved cheating, so now it takes a lot to gain my trust. If I actually give that to someone, my worst fear is them throwing it away.

HelloKittyKat said:

Its so nice to hear you say that, and I agree entirely... I feel extremely guilty about the situation I posted earlier and it wasn't even my relationship, so it never and will never happen again. I have never been cheated on (to my knowledge)but if I ever found out someone I was committed to had cheated on me I'd be devistated. I've seen a lot of situations that involved cheating, so now it takes a lot to gain my trust. If I actually give that to someone, my worst fear is them throwing it away.

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I believe strongly in forgetting and forgiving. But i don't really know if i was put in a spot where my girlfriend cheated on me (even if i was only one time) if i would be able to forgive her and give her a second chance? i really don't know what i would do if i was placed in something like that. But i'm single for right now i don't have to worry about none of that

My ladyfriend has a boyfriend. She says that he's okay with the fact that I tickle her for three hours every Saturday night. Why would she have me tickle her when he's available? She just said that I'm the only one she'll let tickle her. Why? I haven't a clue. But...

a funny thing happened the other day... she and he were giving each other massages. While he was massaging her, he began rubbing his tallywhacker up and down her body. She told him, "I almost thought Frankie was here for a moment. That feels like something he'd do!" WHAT????!!!! That's all I need! I like my teeth inside my mouth, not lying on the floor! She didn't realize that he was using his penis as a tickle toy. She thought it was some other tickle tool. I'm glad he knows me well enough to know that I would never cross those boundaries with his girlfriend.

I think that if you seek tickling from someone other than your significant other, you'd all better lay down some ground rules or else you may encounter huge misunderstandings. But if you can be massaged by someone other than your Sweetie, what's wrong with a little tickling?

ElectricEye72 said:

No double T im telling HER to treat you well but YOU are the one who should try cheating! Take the Britney scenario I put one post up for VampireCult and apply it to you. What would you do? Look Charles Manson said women recieve men, women reflect men, in the bible it says man hold dominion over woman! Its a sin against God not to cheat!!!! Now go caress Britneys magnificent legs and steadly progress higher and higher!!! 😀

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Have you lost your mind???

I've have read several of your posts, and I personally think that you do it for attention and shock value. But, just in case I'm wrong, however could you quote Charles Manson as an expert on women? That's twisted by anyone's standards.

If you are as unhappy in your marriage as I've heard you from several posts, there's a relatively easy and inexpensive way out--GET A FREAKIN DIVORCE!!!! Then again, you have no desire to divorce her because cheating gives you a cheap thrill and some sort of sick power trip. Are you on this site to share the benefits of a tickling forum or just to pick up women for your perverse pleasure and use? Personally if she's 1/10th as bad as you claim, you both deserve each other and till death should you miserably part! But if you're following the teachings of a psychopath who made "helter skelter" a household word, I don't know how she's lasted this long.

As far as your misquote of the bible is concerned, here is a couple of bible verses straight from the King James version for future reference:

001:027 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God
created he him; male and female created he them.

001:028 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and
multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have
dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the
air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

genesis 1:27-28. God never designed man to have dominion over a woman-He designed man and woman to have dominion together over the earth. Misquoting and misinterpreting the bible is the oldest trick in the book and people are still falling for it today at the expense of a lot of lives. Charles Manson is a psycho whose only reason for being still alive is the laws in the state of CA. No one should be quoting him or following his footsteps.

Getting back to the subject of tickling when you're committed to someone else:

I've been on this board long enough for folks to know I believe that if you're committed to someone, that person is the one you should be with. You shouldn't be with anyone who is incompatible phsyically. Tickling can be viewed and felt as sexual, and those feelings should be intimate and exclusive. That keeps you out of trouble. A lot of people compromise and marry too soon or marry someone they know is incompatible but don't want to take the chance of being alone. So they're married to someone who doesn't share their interests or needs. Then they start making deals and adding stuff to their marriages that doesn't belong there. Then they wonder why the marriage isn't working. This does not apply to all married couples, only the seriously mismatched ones.

Now I know that they're several couples on the forum that seem able to keep arrangements. I'm glad this has worked for them. As for me, I wouldn't want my man touching anyone else but me at any level!! I guess it's a matter of what the couple works out between themselves. I just don't understand why couples would even want tickle anyone else other than each other? I hope my comment opens the door for some of these couples' contributions to this thread.

TickledToDeath, you stole the words right off my keyboard. Whether it`s at a dungeon or at a play party makes no difference. Without your significent others approval you are cheating and are risking a date in divorce court.

Ah! The King James Version!

1st off young lady if you believe in some lawyers book Helter Skelter about a poor Kentucky hillbilly who couldnt even get a good lunch taking over the minds of college students and convincing them to start a "race war" (whatever that means!!!!) then ive got a bridge to sell you. Go to www.atwa.info for the true story, it just might shock you. Now as for me cheating on my wife, being a disciple of Charles Manson, etc. let me bypass those allegations to answer another one of your questions...why am I on this board? I am on this board TO HAVE FUN. Nothing more,nothing less. I dont care whos vice-president of the U.S., I dont care about the Palestinians and I sure dont care what people think of me! I am married yes and have been since 2000, now let me ask you a question woman, if im such a bad husband how could I stay married for this long? I have previously said on those "other threads" youve read that my wife is a catholic school teacher, hint:education,intelligence. Now if im screwing everything in sight dont you think this educated 33 year old woman might kind of (oh I dont know) HAVE A CLUE???? Dont take everything you read on the "Tickling Media Forum" so seriously kis123, on my birthcertifcate it doesnt read ElectricEye72. 🙄