Early in my relationship with Lazarus, I felt the same way. I wanted him to experience the fun and thrill and good time of a gathering, but I didn't know if I could get past the feelings of jealousy and possesiveness I felt each time I even thought of it. It was the same way for him when he toyed with the notion of others tickling me.
The reason we had those feelings was because we WERE still fairly new in the relationship and had not gotten to that point of total trust and belief in one another yet. Now we both are eager to attend or host our first gathering together as a couple, and engaging in tickling play with others...AS A COUPLE. Anything you do with your spouses/significant others knowledge and approval is NOT cheating. I could never and would never cheat on Lazarus. He is the ONLY one with the keys to my kingdom. And I can readily admit that tickling does arouse me, even when engaged in platonic play with fellow adult ticklephiles. That's just the way our bodies are geared to read and receive the sensations tickling provides. It does not make us adultering monsters. We have no control over that. What we DO have control over is whether we act on those feelings of arousal...or more specifically, if we react to them with anyone but our partner. That is where loyalty and faithfulness comes in...not in the act of engaging in tickling with someone else, but if you're capable of keeping your body and mind on your partner. If after a session with someone else (say at a gathering) you find yourself being attracted to or wanting to have sex with a platonic tickle playmate, then you have a problem. However, if the only thing on your mind is where the next play is taking place, or finding a private room for you and your partner to share in your excitement, then there is nothing unethical going on.
I can't see where having a relationship in which you don't or can't trust your partner to even tickle someone else could be considered healthy. If you are that jealous and possesive of your mate, perhaps the problem lies somewhere other than tickling. A good relationship should involve complete and total trust in your partner. Suspicions and worries of that sort will only destroy it.
Mimi
The reason we had those feelings was because we WERE still fairly new in the relationship and had not gotten to that point of total trust and belief in one another yet. Now we both are eager to attend or host our first gathering together as a couple, and engaging in tickling play with others...AS A COUPLE. Anything you do with your spouses/significant others knowledge and approval is NOT cheating. I could never and would never cheat on Lazarus. He is the ONLY one with the keys to my kingdom. And I can readily admit that tickling does arouse me, even when engaged in platonic play with fellow adult ticklephiles. That's just the way our bodies are geared to read and receive the sensations tickling provides. It does not make us adultering monsters. We have no control over that. What we DO have control over is whether we act on those feelings of arousal...or more specifically, if we react to them with anyone but our partner. That is where loyalty and faithfulness comes in...not in the act of engaging in tickling with someone else, but if you're capable of keeping your body and mind on your partner. If after a session with someone else (say at a gathering) you find yourself being attracted to or wanting to have sex with a platonic tickle playmate, then you have a problem. However, if the only thing on your mind is where the next play is taking place, or finding a private room for you and your partner to share in your excitement, then there is nothing unethical going on.
I can't see where having a relationship in which you don't or can't trust your partner to even tickle someone else could be considered healthy. If you are that jealous and possesive of your mate, perhaps the problem lies somewhere other than tickling. A good relationship should involve complete and total trust in your partner. Suspicions and worries of that sort will only destroy it.
Mimi