A Little Advice

[WorkInProgress]

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. That's an old cliche, but it should be taken more seriously than it is. The whole idea that we should look at these movie stars and these supermodels and feel inferior to their looks is an idea that should be smashed into a billion subatomic particles. When two people come together, part of the deal is that they find each other attractive, just as they are. And speaking as a creative writer (though not of tickle erotica, but rather, of other kinds of "works in progress"), there is indeed a huge difference between our creative inspirations and our real-life interests.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

I liked what Myriads said. And, coming from someone who is in a relationship and still writes kink fiction with my other half being aware of it, those characters don't even belong to us as writers in a way. They're inventions of whatever you want to call the creative and imaginative spark in everyone. They're fantasy, as it's been pointed out. They don't belong in this world, nor would they survive in it and would ignite like a vampire in sunlight if given a glimpse of a real world. Keep in mind it isn't just the women. They belong in an entirely different universe where the rules are made up - all of it imagined. That world needs them and they need to be in it in order to breathe. In turn, it allows the writers to explore parts of ourselves we wouldn't get a chance to.

In simple terms, think of it of whenever he writes, he's watching a movie. When he stops the typing, the movie is over and he loves you completely.

🙂

 

[Tiger.Lily]

This is a fantastic thread. 🙂

 

[ticklebunny 2]

I agree I think this is also a fantastic thread as well. It is very interesting and very informative and helpful. Thanks for making this thread darkharp. I think you are going to help a lot of women that might be having these similiar self confidence/some negative self body images but afraid to admit it out loud to others or here on this forum. Thanks for shedding light on this.

 

[darkharp]

🙁 If you want to talk or someone to listen, I am here for you pm me anytime. I have been there, still struggle with it-have a idea the pain of the emotional/mental misery you are going through.Hugs DarkHarp. Oh by the way great responses, great advice given to you-great advice-response Myriads-that is true. You have helped me greatly as well so thank you. Also sadly not just the pain and fear of rejection-fearing rejection just from your partner you share your love and life with-/date-also the fear of rejection -being rejected in general in the world by others too. I know this battle sadly too well. Hope things get better for you DarkHarp.

You are just the most beautiful person. Thank you so much for your response. It can be really difficult to be a woman sometimes, dammit! Haha. It's nice to know I'm not the only one who's going through this. I will definitely send you a message if I'm feeling really down. And the same goes for you, I'm always here if anyone needs to talk 🙂

I totally understand what you're going through. My boyfriend has a foot fetish, but only for teeny tiny feet, and I'm a size 9 (yikes!), and I always feel like I'm not what he wants, even though he swears up and down that it's all fantasy when he's looking at foot videos and whatnot.

But I'm sure you are satisfying your boyfriend plenty 🙂 The way I ended up looking at it is this- I'm flesh and blood, and willing to do basically anything you want, while those girls (or in your case, girls in the story) are just characters on a screen.

You're beautiful and he knows it. Most people in the world don't fall into the stereotypical "gorgeous" category, but every woman out there has something unique and beautiful about them, most definitely including you.

After all, you BOTH are into tickling! How win is that?!

Wow! That would be a tough situation! But he obviously loves you for thousands of things more than your feet, and his fetish. That's what TM said to me as well, that he would love me just as much as he does now if I didn't have a tickling fetish. The fact that I do is just a huge bonus and more than anything he could have asked for.
Thank you so much for your reply, that was really wonderful to read about another gal in a similar situation. I can tell you've definitely had your struggle with it, I hope to be in the same mindset as you over time: They are just characters on a screen 🙂 that's a perfect way to look at it.

You've been dating for a good amount of time, if he didn't like the relationship you guys had, and you have something very important about both of you in common, it's okay to worry, but remember that you are unique, treat yourself in your own mind as a complete gift, that he would never give away.

That's very true, thank you for this. I will try to do so!

...there is indeed a huge difference between our creative inspirations and our real-life interests.

That's a huge help. I'll try to keep that in mind when I start feeling upset, because that's completely true. Thank you 🙂

...In simple terms, think of it of whenever he writes, he's watching a movie. When he stops the typing, the movie is over and he loves you completely.

🙂

That's fantastic, and SO SO true. He told me almost exactly what you said! It's so great to hear it from someone else as well, it really brings truth to those words. Thank you 🙂

This is a fantastic thread. 🙂

I agree, thank you everyone for such positive messages and advice. This is fantastic. I just know that this thread will come up again for other men/women who are having trouble dealing with the same situation.

I agree I think this is also a fantastic thread as well. It is very interesting and very informative and helpful. Thanks for making this thread darkharp. I think you are going to help a lot of women that might be having these similiar self confidence/some negative self body images but afraid to admit it out loud to others or here on this forum. Thanks for shedding light on this.

I completely agree. Thanks to you as well for sharing your opinions and experiences.
I hope this is helpful to everyone else who was feeling this way and maybe didn't know how to think about it or how to feel.

Thanks everyone 🙂

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

I have been quite upfront with my girlfriend in telling her that I am prepared to leave her for Nicole Kidman. For some reason she doesn't feel threatened by that

LOL. This reminds me of a clip from the old Bernie Mac show, where Bernie was obsessing over Halle Berry, and his wife on the show said something like, "Oh right, like Halle Berry would have you!"

At some point, we all just have to dial it back a notch and realize that even though we think our partner is the sun, the moon, and the stars, it's unlikely that either Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie would agree with that assessment.

 

[LindyHopper]

Where would we be now had the wife of the fellow who sculpted the Venus de Milo objected to how beautiful her husband had made her, and he'd given in?

And not that I'm saying TickleMantis is like Alexandros of Antioch, but I do dearly love his stories, and think the TMF would be a sadder place if he was no longer creating them. I hope you can find the strength within you to let his creative spirit run free, and enjoy that you get to be with the real person housing that awesome mind!