A question for lees.....

[Mr Nonchalant]

Hey all,

This has probably been asked before but, in your opinion, what makes for a good ler?

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

a person who hits all the right spots and makes the lee feel wonderful and helpless at the same time

 

[Mr Nonchalant]

Thanks for your reply luvgirlsfeet. 🙂

 

[Jagermeistered]

Well, I'm a switch these days. So, I wish to invoke the EOTA(Equal Opputunity Tickler Act). 🙂

 

[Mr Nonchalant]

Thanks for your reply ticklenv. 🙂

 

[TropicThunder]

a person who hits all the right spots and makes the lee feel wonderful and helpless at the same time

This, in a nutshell basically.

I have a hard time describing what makes a good ler. I've noticed lately that alot of the people I've sessioned with all have a different style. Almost like a different "feel" and most are effective. Everyone is different.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Everyone is unique, but in my opinion the best lers share 3 characteristics:

1.) Confidence (not to be confused with arrogance)
2.) Sense of humor that matches mine
3.) Naturally dominant - they don't confuse aggression with dominance or try to convince you of how badass they are. They just are.

 

[Mr Nonchalant]

Thanks for all your replies folks! 🙂

 

[TickVix]

In my opinion a good ler is a person who doesn't come off too strong in terms of what I'd like to call their "tickling personality". Its always good to gradually ease into the more extreme aspect of tickling as opposed to just bringing it all out at once. Also in my opinion I think it would be good for a ler to get to know the lee somewhat and establish a comfort level. It definitely helps.

 

[milagros317]

A good ler is one who is always observing the reactions of the lee and adjusting the tickling techniques accordingly.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

A good ler is one who is always observing the reactions of the lee and adjusting the tickling techniques accordingly.

This, too. I hate when people just do what they want and totally ignore its effectiveness. If I say ow, that means stop trying to feel up my internal organs. If I'm not laughing, that means I probably don't want you touching me, or you're doing it way wrong. Pay attention!

 

[Mr Nonchalant]

Thanks again for your replies everyone. 🙂

 

[Jagermeistered]

This, too. I hate when people just do what they want and totally ignore its effectiveness. If I say ow, that means stop trying to feel up my internal organs. If I'm not laughing, that means I probably don't want you touching me, or you're doing it way wrong. Pay attention!

Most guys with a boner dont pay attention, but point and try too shoot.

And, I totally agree with you.

I want to treat a lady like a partner, and not a blow up sex doll.

 

[chicago]

My .02.

Someone that really gets the whole psychological aspect of tickling instead of just the physical aspect. Someone that can read my reactions and keep me on the edge of losing my mind for as long as possible. Someone that's spontaneous and creative. Someone that enjoys it as much as I do and they gotta have good hands. I can't do weird midget hands or overly feminine hands. lol

Luckily, or maybe not so luckily lol, the bf is pretty much the best ever. 😀

 

[CD216]

Annie summed it up pretty well I'd say.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Someone that really gets the whole psychological aspect of tickling instead of just the physical aspect. Someone that can read my reactions and keep me on the edge of losing my mind for as long as possible. Someone that's spontaneous and creative. Someone that enjoys it as much as I do

This, too.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

... what makes for a good ler?

Bald , witty men screennamed 'Soda Bobinski'.

 

[ticklemepls]

Oddly enough, as easy as it is to me to know what makes a good ler in my opinion, kinda hard for me to explain it LOL. Maybe the fact its too general? IDK but this is why I know *I* have a good ler that I plan on keeping (until he boots me out 😛 )

Good ler is sadistic and willing to push limits. They also have a balance and respect the lee and care about their safety. Good ler will always check on the lee through out play and be sure they are doing alright. The sadistic side of the ler will find and exploit the lees most sensitive areas- making them beg and plead- but love it all at the same time. The ler is good at reminding the lee just how helpless they are against them- they can easily out strength the lee. Good ler has great technique , but is good at switching it up also. Something about strong hands and the feeling when they touch you, although not rough and calloused, they are indeed strong and you know you're in trouble (or perhaps never been happier?). And as a girl, a good ler, is also one that soothes the lee after- or I guess in bondage world 'after care'... c'mon what girl doesn't enjoy laying next to, snuggling, and kissing, the one that just tortured the hell out of her in the most awesome way possible?!..... There are many qualities which make a great ler- I, happened to luck out and find someone thats got them all 🙂 Nope, I'm not biased- I'm honest 🙂

 

[Mr Nonchalant]

Thanks once again for all your replies folks! 🙂