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A thread to say goodbye...

Thanks for being part of this community so far and i wish you all the best! :'-)
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Most people like us go through what you are going through at one point or another, you are actually pretty normal lol. There's nothing wrong with you, masturbation, or your sexuality. It would probably be a good idea for you to talk with a professional (which theres also nothing wrong with) Hang in there buddy 🙂
 
I'm sad to see you leave. You've made some of the best contributions to this community that will always be appreciated.

I understand that the tickling fetish sometimes can become a distraction from a healthy relationship, I also had a period struggling to having sex without the tickling being involved, and I've finally managed to balance those out. I hope you will resolve this issue, and wish you all the best!
 
You're a legend and whatever community you are or get involved in the future, remember you are a valuable asset. Hope you find peace and love and to read you soon.
 
Good luck, man. I can sympathize to en extent but I've never gone through what you're going through so all I can offer is my best wishes that you'll overcome this! You've been a fantastic contributer to this forum and there's always a place for you here if you feel like you can come back. Thanks for being awesome!
 
Dark Crane, I have been through similar experiences. I want to say that (1) you are one of my favorite posters here, and I am sad to see that you went through this. And (2), you can make it through. Whether you decide to come back or not, I believe you can succeed in your sex life.

Here is my advice, based on my experience. I have also been a tickle video junkie since I discovered the Internet. I went through several relationships without successful penetrative sex. I believe that at least one of them ended because of my inability to perform in the bedroom. It was only until a few years ago, when I went on a month-long trip with my girlfriend at the time, that I discovered that I was able to break free from my tickle video and masturbation addictions.

It was a gradual process. After the first couple weeks without tickle videos and masturbation, I found that I was able to penetrate. It took the final two weeks to be able to ejaculate. I am now happy to report that I am in a successful relationship with healthy sex. I still have to think about tickling and incorporate it into sex, but I regard that as a happy integration of two worlds. Now, I still come here and enjoy tickle videos, but I make sure not to overdo it. I can enjoy my passion for tickling, while keeping sex in my relationship.

It's also important to know that what you are suffering is actually relatively common. It's an addiction to porn and masturbation. There are many out there who have successfully beat their addictions.

I found these educational videos very helpful in understanding what was happening to me:
youtube.com/watch?v=1Ya67aLaaCc
youtube.com/watch?v=E_5xl0w_mXE

Please reach out to me if you want any help or are curious to learn more. I'd be glad to help. Take care.
 
It's safe to say many of us have experienced or are experiencing similar things to what you are. No one's journey through it will be the same, but the best advice I can give, if you'll take it is this:

Professional therapy. And with the right therapist. Someone who will help you understand what you're going through and find peace with yourself. Never anyone who will shame or judge you. Because ultimately what you need to find is the peace and acceptance of your fetish within yourself.

I wish you luck, and know you have a supportive community here as well, to help encourage you along your journey.
 
Being different is normal! Men are not defined by penetration! Talk to --the right-- person! :welcome: You got this!!
 
Thanks for all your contributions, I hope you get the help you need.
 
Dark Crane you are young, believe me. Take a break, but don't be afraid to come back in the future. We'll be here. There is no getting rid of this, just like there's no getting rid of an attraction to boobs for most men. This fetish is in your and my DNA. It's how you are born. And it's only a curse if you make it one. I, and many others here, consider it a blessing. I hope you find your way to that realization someday soon.

Here's one recommended path, and I know others disagree with me here, but I would not "confess" anything about this fetish to future lovers. Keep it to yourself, and show it to her in time, physically, as your relationship develops. Don't announce it, don't make a big deal about it, because it's not a big deal. I know it's a big deal internally, but outside of us, it is not. Just do it.

Marry/date for love. Marry/date for compatibility. Marry/date for respect and companionship and values and goals and all those things that make life worth sharing with someone else. Don't marry or date someone for this fetish, and don't focus on it. The right person will love you and indulge you so long as you love and indulge them. Build your relationship on solid foundations of mutual respect and love, not a kink. It seems like you've already been able to do this in other relationships. They were all preparing you for your eventual mate. She's out there. Go find her! You will. Praying for you, my friend.

Good luck!
 
Dark Crane said:
Well, I've never thought that this day would come. But here I am to say that... Yeah, I'm leaving TMF...

The reason I'm posting it here is because I won't leave without posting some material I still have and also for more people to read it. Because I'll talk about something that is a huge problem for me, a fear that's consuming me inside out. I'll post it also on "Tickling Discussion"...

So, I'll start saying what happens with me. I'm 27 and I'm into tickling since my early childhood. My first memories are from the time when I was 4 or so. And I grew up thinking that tickling women was an awesome thing. I've always been attracted by women and, as soon as I found out that a woman was ticklish, she became so much more attractive...

I took it easy during all my life. When I was a teenager, my friends started masturbating with pornography and naked women photos. Well, at the time, I hadn't understood the way I'd sexualized tickling yet. I tried to masturbate with this type of material, it was impossible for me. But I didn't think there was something wrong with me, I just thought that I needed something closer. I always had strong love connections with women. Love bonds were special and invariably I always got connected with a girl...

When I was 14, I first kissed. It was a horrible experience, it was forced by the group and both me and her didn't want it. I just kissed again when I was 17. And, with this girl, I stablished a wonderful bond. But she was for another city, the relationship didn't happen in the way I wanted. I went into depression for two months. That was when I met the woman of my life...

We started dating quickly. And my dick was so hard next to her that it was throbbing. One day I got a cramp in my scrotal sac. I decided I must do something. Then, I thought I could try with tickling...

Yeah, I did it...

And I'll continue in the post below. But I'll post a video attached here also. A girl has a great sides reaction:
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First of all, thank you for all your contributions! You could have just said this and left, but nope you gave all of this and this shows what a great caring individual you are. I know you'll get through this confusing situation you're in and when that happens hope to see you back!
 
After viewing all of them my favorite has to be Cliente Com Cocegas Maizy Magalhaes.
Since I'm a belly fan and the tickler has a great belly kneading technique continuosly on the belly instead of zipping their hands everywhere. Plus the lee has a cute reaction. Downside is, like many tiktok videos, they have the real sound replaced by nonsense. But it visually makes up for that!

If anyone has found any more videos like that I would love to see!
 
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Dark Crane said:
At some point, I'm going to have to face this head on with her. And I'm very, very afraid of not being able to. Because I can't even jerk off anymore. Not even thinking on her being tickled by me...

I was a tickle video junkie for 10 years. Deciding to abandon this overnight is difficult, but I don't have the mental health to continue. I know that the issue must be much more psychological and traumatic than physiological, but I can't be here comfortably anymore...

And I would really like to know if anyone goes through or went through this problem too. Because, as I said, the idea of ​​not being able to please the woman I love so much is absolutely frustrating. And honestly, if she leaves in the future because of something related to this, I don't know if I'll have the strength to deal with it...

If you've read everything up to this point, thank you so much. Because it's been a while since I wanted to blurt out. And now I would like to read some of your opinions...

I will continue to post some farewell materials on this thread now. But the decision to leave is, unfortunately, final...

Good night...

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Brazilian /F:
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It is sad to see you go Crane but also sad to see you go through this. I do not post much on here but I do observe and I can empathize being the same age and having been in a similar situation in the past. My ex would never have accepted my kink if I’d ever told her, but it’s about self-acceptance first and being okay with what makes you happy in life. Everything else comes second. Find yourself someone who loves and supports you for YOU and everything that comes with it. Hope to see you back here.


Ghost
 
I think that you must talk about it with her, i mean all of the problem. I was in a relationship and faced this exact problem. I opened to her about tickling fetish and first, she understand, but the relationship change. A few years later i met my actual wife. I opened to her and she took it so much more different. She took the time to read about it and she saw a thousand videos. Now we have a baby. I dont know, i think that fetish is a common thing, some people can see that the other maybe like something else, but other people can't see beyond the normal things. They are the problem, not us.

Life is one my friend! Talk about all the things that bother you. There's people that will understand you and you'll be fine.

Thanks for the contributions! And hope you find peace in your mind!
 
First of all, thank you very much for all the answers and kind words. I'll answer all posts soon, be sure of that. They were very important for me. It's very gratifying to know that I managed to do something positive in this forum that I loved so much...

Here, I discovered the meaning of companionship like never before. I was finally able to have contact with people who had the same fetish as me, I had access to incredible materials and I was happy. Everything I did was from the heart...

Therefore, my wish is that this forum remains very active and that more great media can be shared here...

For now, I'm leaving. Who knows, maybe one day, with peace of mind, I'll be back. It took almost 7 years for me to get back together with the girl I always loved, we never know what tomorrow will bring.

Many thanks again my friends. See you soon with your answers...
 
Cool. Very wise replies in this post. I think this problem Is very usual in our community. I had similar issues in the beguinning of my sexual life. I had to train myself in penetration with prostitutes and watching a lot of regular porn. Today I have a very good sexual relashionship with my myfe. I think the big secret Is to find the right balance. I can see tickling vídeos (and I also like feet fetich videos) but not everyday. As far as I know my wife doesnt know about The tickling fetich, but she wouldnt mind because we are happy in bed (fun fact she loves to tickling my feet and I always pretend that I am suffering a lot but I like it hehehe). Good Lucky my friend, and dont worry tô find Professional help if the problem persist.
 
Hey Dark - Thanks so much for all the work you put into the forum and mainstream posts, particularly the celebrity section.

So your reasons for leaving - I've been there. Attempted it 3 times. Had a failed marriage with one of the elements being difficulties with penetrative sex. Feeling 'wrong' because of my fetishes, mastrubation, etc.

The best thing I can say is follow your gut. If you think some time away is good, and you think that focusing on your partner is the best option then do it, and dont think about the ifs; buts; and whys.

But you should also be honest to yourself and your partner. If you want a healthy sex life as well as loving being with someone you need to talk about your desires and wants. Concealing stuff is going to cause more hurt. And it might just be the case that you cant have penetrative sex and thats ok. Plenty of people mastrubate everyday and still have good sex lifes - but sex doesnt have to mean penetrative.

You may need to look at why you think that what your doing is wrong, and why its so important to have sex the 'normal' way.

In my case once I owned up to saying 'I have a fetish and thats ok'; I've had more intimate encounters in the last year then I have had in my four decades of life. And most importantly Im happy, even if I dont ejaculate, even if I dont orgasm with my partners.

That all said Good Luck for the future! You will get through this!
 
You're not alone man. Even some women admit they are grossed out by dicks lol but they either get over it or just learn to deal with it while they pleasure the man they care about it. Some guys who are just into sexual penetration will also say they aren't fond of doing certain stuff to make their woman get off but will do it anyway. Love is both giving and taking and no relationship is perfect. It takes work, even with having a good sex life many will say. Especially since some women usually take longer than men to get sexually satisfied. Both have to evolve, adapt and condition each other to meet each other's needs whether they have fetishes or not. I sometimes think people like us take a while to develop sexually because our brains are so focused on tickling when most people get tired of it and want to move on to other ways of being intimate after like middle school lol. It's okay to enjoy tickling though, many adult couples still do it even without the fetish, everyone has different tastes. Like with food though, we just have to learn to appreciate other foods to get the full nutrition our body needs even though one type may always be our favorite lol. Tickling is an early form of flirting and there's a reason. A lot goes on during tickling besides the tickling itself and laughter. What helped me was realizing that and how I enjoyed other things going on during the act of tickling besides tickling. Pleasuring a girl is actually pretty close to tickling and certain tickling can even enhance pleasure during sex. Touching/caressing a woman to make her moan or breath heavily is kind of like getting the reaction of laughter. Sometimes you'll even get the exact same reactions during sexual activity that you do with tickling, especially smiling. If you like it when she smiles, encourage her to do it more and find ways to do it other than tickling her. Communication is a big key to great sex. You can also tease and dominate your partner in other ways without the tickling if that part of the tickling turns you on. Just like you can make a girl laugh without tickling her when you don't touch her but want to hear her laugh. If you put your mind to it I know you'll figure out other ways to get similar enjoyment tickling causes you as you wean yourself off it. I'm not saying give up tickling all together, but learn to appreciate other things like kissing and cuddling to show your affection whether in real life or fantasizing if you revert back to masturbation and/or porn. Again, if vaginal sex still grosses you out maybe focus on the woman's reactions instead of the actual penetration part. Over time you'll get use to it. You might have to sneak in some tickles here and there or think about it to get excited when having sex but over time you won't have to. Jumping into sex can be overwhelming so maybe set a boundary and put off sex for a while until you feel ready and just learn to appreciate other things that lead up to it in a relationship, such as just kissing and grinding. I learned to get off grinding and kissing first fully clothed before having sex which helped me and over time evolved into other sexual activity. And when it comes to sex a lot of guys struggle with ED and there's a lot of reasons you might besides your fetish. Some examples are stress, being tired, drinking too much, medication ect. Some guys without fetishes even take time to get use to vaginal sex with a new partner and would rather just get oral sex or hand jobs but have to learn to get use to it. I have a friend like that. Vaginal sex is natural though and part of our instinct to survive. I believe everyone can adapt to it. I mean even gay people can do it and have kids although they might not enjoy it. If someone can find a way to make love normally with someone they aren't attracted to I know you can without your kink. It just might take some time to get to that point. It took me a while but over time I ended up conditioning myself to get excited over mainstream sex scenes like I do with tickling scenes. I'll admit I still get more pleasure from tickling, but I also enjoy sex and I bet you will too. Hope some of my advice helps. Sometimes I wonder if we do a form of conversion therapy on ourselves to appreciate sex, not that I know a lot about that controversial topic. I know I did a lot of praying though to help myself lol. I don't think you can pray the fetish away but you can learn to control it and enjoy other things. But if you don't want the fetish anymore who knows, maybe you can get over it. But like others mentioned, you can still learn to enjoy normal sex with it.
 
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You're not alone man. Even some women admit they are grossed out by dicks lol but they either get over it or just learn to deal with it while they pleasure the man they care about it. Some guys who are just into sexual penetration will also say they aren't fond of doing certain stuff to make their woman get off but will do it anyway. Love is both giving and taking and no relationship is perfect. It takes work, even with having a good sex life many will say. Especially since some women usually take longer than men to get sexually satisfied. Both have to evolve, adapt and condition each other to meet each other's needs whether they have fetishes or not. I sometimes think people like us take a while to develop sexually because our brains are so focused on tickling when most people get tired of it and want to move on to other ways of being intimate after like middle school lol. It's okay to enjoy tickling though, many adult couples still do it even without the fetish, everyone has different tastes. Like with food though, we just have to learn to appreciate other foods to get the full nutrition our body needs even though one type may always be our favorite lol. Tickling is an early form of flirting and there's a reason. A lot goes on during tickling besides the tickling itself and laughter. What helped me was realizing that and how I enjoyed other things going on during the act of tickling besides tickling. Pleasuring a girl is actually pretty close to tickling and certain tickling can even enhance pleasure during sex. Touching/caressing a woman to make her moan or breath heavily is kind of like getting the reaction of laughter. Sometimes you'll even get the exact same reactions during sexual activity that you do with tickling, especially smiling. If you like it when she smiles, encourage her to do it more and find ways to do it other than tickling her. Communication is a big key to great sex. You can also tease and dominate your partner in other ways without the tickling if that part of the tickling turns you on. Just like you can make a girl laugh without tickling her when you don't touch her but want to hear her laugh. If you put your mind to it I know you'll figure out other ways to get similar enjoyment tickling causes you as you wean yourself off it. I'm not saying give up tickling all together, but learn to appreciate other things like kissing and cuddling to show your affection whether in real life or fantasizing if you revert back to masturbation and/or porn. Again, if vaginal sex still grosses you out maybe focus on the woman's reactions instead of the actual penetration part. Over time you'll get use to it. You might have to sneak in some tickles here and there or think about it to get excited when having sex but over time you won't have to. Jumping into sex can be overwhelming so maybe set a boundary and put off sex for a while until you feel ready and just learn to appreciate other things that lead up to it in a relationship, such as just kissing and grinding. I learned to get off grinding and kissing first fully clothed before having sex which helped me and over time evolved into other sexual activity. And when it comes to sex a lot of guys struggle with ED and there's a lot of reasons you might besides your fetish. Some examples are stress, being tired, drinking too much, medication ect. Some guys without fetishes even take time to get use to vaginal sex with a new partner and would rather just get oral sex or hand jobs but have to learn to get use to it. I have a friend like that. Vaginal sex is natural though and part of our instinct to survive. I believe everyone can adapt to it. I mean even gay people can do it and have kids although they might not enjoy it. If someone can find a way to make love normally with someone they aren't attracted to I know you can without your kink. It just might take some time to get to that point. It took me a while but over time I ended up conditioning myself to get excited over mainstream sex scenes like I do with tickling scenes. I'll admit I still get more pleasure from tickling, but I also enjoy sex and I bet you will too. Hope some of my advice helps. Sometimes I wonder if we do a form of conversion therapy on ourselves to appreciate sex, not that I know a lot about that controversial topic. I know I did a lot of praying though to help myself lol. I don't think you can pray the fetish away but you can learn to control it and enjoy other things. But if you don't want the fetish anymore who knows, maybe you can get over it. But like others mentioned, you can still learn to enjoy normal sex with it.
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Dark crane your story was timely for me to read. I fell back into this sin after having my heart broke. But if I want meaningful relationship, women can’t be objects, and the woman I love (who can recognize the spirit well) can’t be an object to me anymore. I can’t use this cope with the pain, I just turn back to my Christian roots and let Jesus heal me.

I am signing off too. For good. I’ve got to. Love you all and hope you all the best. And the best is Jesus, meaningful relationship, and signing off from here.
 
I've been here on the TMF for 18 years and you're definitely a legend here Dark Crane, your contributions are some of the best.

As some have said already, there are some of us who go through the same if not similar thing... Admittedly I have been through such a situation myself. It was only when I started fooling around with one of my close friends sexually that she showed me I could get turned on without any tickling involvement at all.

Peace to you bro, I hope you stay safe man, and find what you're looking for.
 
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