Ah, the joys of being single...

[Duke Diablo]

Woudjou... ahh... says Who? who made the rule you always have to be together? or that you can't study together? And what exactly do you mean by "seeing each other"? Like saying hi or having dinner or what? You are awfully ambiguous.

I'm not saying always, but when I study, I study alone, and I study for 4 weeks. And by 'seeing each other' I mean at least meeting for 5 mins. Even just a slight 'hi'. I'm not able to do that during the time because I don't leave my room those days except for bathroom breaks, eating and drinking water. I never said I would like to be with her each and every second (or each and every day for that matter), but 4 weeks is a bit too much.

Wait, what? You would need sex or it wouldn't be a relationship? Yet you say your will "never failed me so far"? To me that seems to be an inherent contradiction. And what "performance" are you talking about

Well, what I'm saying that if there's no sex, even in the long run (about a month) then, to me, we're not really girlfriend and boyfriend, we're friends. And about my will, who has never failed me so far, I mean I got my will to keep me going and I don't need anyone encouraging me or telling me I can do something. This will gives me strength to face any difficulty in life on my own and not really complain about it. And by performance, I mean performance in general. Studying, exercising, writing... everything I do. I don't need love to be efficient.

 

[Duke Diablo]

Ugh! I hate guys like that.
That's horrible, it sucks for her but she's bringing it on herself by staying with him.
If I were in your position Lulu, I would SO break them up. It would hurt your friend, but it's better for her in the long run if this guy is as bad as you say he is.

Nah, m8... it's best to stay out of that stuff. Their relationship, their life, their choices. Take care of your own problems, and let others take care of their own, unless they ask you for help. It can all come crushing down, and then you'll be the one to blame.

Let them work it out on their own.

 

[Lulu1]

Nah, m8... it's best to stay out of that stuff. Their relationship, their life, their choices. Take care of your own problems, and let others take care of their own, unless they ask you for help. It can all come crushing down, and then you'll be the one to blame.

Let them work it out on their own.

Oh I do. Believe me, I do.

 

[sadi]

Most of what you said sounds pretty true, all-in-all. Though, for me the third reason isn't applicable. Sorry.

Though I'm kind of in an 'unnoficial' relationship now, I didn't plan on it! Not by far; heck no! In fact, I had clear intentions of avoiding and NOT allowing any 'smushy-gushy' relationship crap to EVER happen on here! *shakes head side to side* But, doesn't seem like you always get what you want... *sigh* 😉 I still like it though. Really nervous some of the time, but I guess I'll just have to take that, with every other benefit of being in a relationship. :super_hap

Though I've always been 'quite' pretty all my life (at least I think so, and apparently so does all the people that shout out raunchy words at me from their cars), but I've never had a serious relationship, really. I've always been one of the guys - a very violent guy, for that matter. I just keep hitting people, and being sarcastic to the nth degree most all of the time. Some guys said they've liked me at first, but then I became their friend, and was assimilated into 'one of the guys' girls. *shrugs* Don't really care, though. I'm happy with my life regardless of how it goes.
😱 - Oh, wait! I actually was in a relationship, though I wouldn't call it one. I was 10/11, and he was 13. That's a little young to even be able to 'grasp' the idea of love.

That, and I'm kinda really awkward. I don't talk a lot, but usually have my head stuck in a book instead - that, or I'm sleeping in front of my locker during break in highschool, or on the couch or floor outside of my next class. :blush I don't know. I just can't really talk well. Sure, I can vomit eloquent sounding trifle to a teacher, or on the page if my ear phones are blasting music, but if you ask me something casual-wise, I'm usually a dolt. Either that, or I make a sarcastic remark at your expense. :stickout

And Duke, I just can't really wrap my head around the whole isolated in my room for four weeks studying thing - I NEVER had to study, really, and I still got A's at least. It's hard being normal! I never had to study in my life before! Now, I mean, I still get comparatively great marks for my situation - but I actually have to frickin' study! And I also need all the help I can get! :umm: *sigh* I never did that before. 🙁 Before, I'd read over my notes once or twice, maybe, but I didn't have to study anything by far! I'm finding out now just how much it sucks to be normal, and I think I'm still not that, really. :S (Well, of COURSE I wouldn't be normal. I'm me. And I'm 'unique!' :ggrin: :ggrin: Yes, I am. If you don't agree I'll just beat you until you change your mind ;P)

 

[kopfhorer1]

... Though I'm kind of in an 'unnoficial' relationship now, I didn't plan on it! Not by far; heck no! In fact, I had clear intentions of avoiding and NOT allowing any 'smushy-gushy' relationship crap to EVER happen on here! *shakes head side to side* But, doesn't seem like you always get what you want... *sigh* 😉 I still like it though. Really nervous some of the time, but I guess I'll just have to take that, with every other benefit of being in a relationship. :super_hap

There are worse things that can happen to one than stumbling upon a relationship. Enjoy it!

 

[Duke Diablo]

Sadi:

Well, different strokes for different folks. 🙂

I am really glad you found a relationship, online or in real life (I do pity the guy, though 😛 ). Enjoy it, as kopf said. 🙂 Also, what is wrong with being sarcastic?

Also, about studying, it's my college, really. Even though my IQ is a bit above-average, I was still having problems with it. At the time this thread was started, I had passed through the second year of college, and was starting my third one, which is the toughest period (whole second year and first half of third year) in my faculty, which is considered to be the toughest one in Croatia (less than 5% people graduate in the end). I've never had probs in high school either, and I only needed to begin studying at faculty... and when it came to it, second year was hell. Example:
Each semester consists of 3 cycles. Each cycle consists of 4 (or 5) weeks of classes, followed by two weeks in which we have labs and midterms (or final exams in last cycle). Now they changed it so the labs are at the same time as the classes, but before you could have a lab at the same day as the midterm. And it was 5 midterms and 5 labs in two weeks. In 4th semester (2nd one in 2nd year), we had really brutal tests and labs: each test consisted of about 100 pages of theory (mostly mathematical theory, with having to prove theorems and such in the exact way it says in the notebooks), plus about 20 pages of mathematical problems (even more if you counted in the solved examples). The labs usually lasted for about 4 hours, during which we either did some programming or used some programs (such as Matlab) for analysis, and later would write a test about it. Also, every lab required you to write a preparation for it, which has known to be up to 16 pages long (and in one subject, you also had to turn in your own solutions to some math problems, which were about additional 20 pages or so), and you would write a 'blitz test' which consisted of 15 questions randomly picked from a poll of 400 of them you also had to learn by heart, because the other learning materials were so bad you couldn't understand a thing about the subject. Another subject required you to write about 600 lines long program and then explain it to the assistant lecturer, line by line. And after such labs, you would have midterms (or finals), which usually lasted for 2 or more hours. Divine fun, wasn't it?

 

[Volsung1]

When you move out of the house and into a place of your own, I guarantee you that it will be much easier to get "the ball rolling".

 

[sadi]

Thanks, Duke. And, oh 'ha ha', how drôle. 🙄 But, you know, my boyfriend will have to do a fair bit of more work than any other guy would: girlfriend being the 'recipient' of a frontal lobe brain injury. 🙁 *grumbles*
Heard about that in school as well, I think. 3rd year on it tends to get more difficult, as you become more specified in your chosen field. And-
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K, GROSS! If I were you I'd just move to another country! It can be more than, what? A half-an-hour drive from one end to the other, now can it? :stickout :ggrin:
All right. K, disgusting! I can definitely see why you wouldn't have time for a girlfriend; it'd be hard enough just trying to get friends, period!
And kopf, I bet. Thanks, I'll do the best I can! 😉 :ggrin: (And you know who you are; I'm talking to you! :stickout)

 

[kopfhorer1]

...But, you know, my boyfriend will have to do a fair bit of more work than any other guy would: girlfriend being the 'recipient' of a frontal lobe brain injury. 🙁 *grumbles*...

Whoa, forgive me, I'd never have guessed that from reading your postings. Do you mind if I ask what happened (if you do mind, that's OK too)?

 

[Duke Diablo]

K, GROSS! If I were you I'd just move to another country! It can be more than, what? A half-an-hour drive from one end to the other, now can it? :stickout :ggrin:

Says she while writing this from an igloo. 😛

And kopf... don't worry, she is a lot less upkeep than she claims. Just toss her some maple syrrup and she's happy... she's a Canadian after all. :stickout